Suicidal 13 year old. PLEASE HELP!!?!?!?!?! ?

Question

I have a suicidal friend and I dont know what to do. I'm the only one who knows about it and I think it would destroy him if I told anyone when he made me swear not to tell anyone.

He wont tell me whats wrong or talk to me about it, how do I convince him to tell me?

Also how do I stop him from doing it without having to involve anybody else?

Please I really need help. I am 13 years old and have no Idea what to do! please I would hate myself forever if I let something happen to him.

I know that whats best for him would be to tell his parents, or a counsilor or SOMEONE. But I just cant. I think it would destroy him if the one person hes chosen to trust this much has gone and told on him. So please what can I do without involving somebody else?

Please, any help is wanted and welcome. I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO! *cries*

Thank you for those who help me. I will always be grateful.

Answer 1

If your school has a councillor go to them, and get an appointment for your friend. He will probably be pissed at you at first but he'll thank you in the end. My friend did it to me when i was in year 8, i think 13 maybe 14. I was angry at her at first for telling others but, going to the councillor just three times and i felt so much better.

3 years have passed, but as long as i know that friend is around, no matter how bad my depression gets even when i feel suicidal, thinking of her stops me from doing anything rash

Answer 2

tell his parents.please.

Answer 3

A suicidal person may not ask for help, but that doesn't mean that help isn't wanted. Most people who commit suicide don't want to die - they just want to stop hurting. Suicide prevention starts with recognizing the warning signs and taking them seriously.

Your friend is considering suicide, you might be afraid to bring up the subject. But talking openly about suicidal thoughts and feelings can save a life. Speak up if you're concerned and seek professional help immediately! Through understanding, reassurance, and support, you can help your loved one overcome thoughts of suicide.

Here is some tips to help your friend

Listen without judgment — Let a suicidal person express his or her feelings and accept those feelings without judging or discounting them. Don't act shocked, lecture on the value of life, or say that suicide is wrong.

Offer hope — Reassure the person that help is available and that the suicidal feelings are temporary. Don't dismiss the pain he or she feels, but talk about the alternatives to suicide and let the person know that his or her life is important to you.

Don't promise confidentiality — Refuse to be sworn to secrecy. A life is at stake and you may need to speak to a mental health professional in order to keep the suicidal person safe. If you promise to keep your discussions secret, you may have to break your word.

Get professional help — Do everything in your power to get a suicidal person the help he or she needs. Call a crisis line for advice and referrals. Encourage the person to see a mental health professional, help locate a treatment facility, or take them to a doctor's appointment.

Make a plan for life — Help the person develop a "Plan for Life," a set of steps he or she promises to follow during a suicidal crisis. It should include contact numbers for the person's doctor or therapist, as well as friends and family members who will help in an emergency.

Answer 4

Okay you really need to tell someone if he serious! just tell like the school counselor or someone else you can trust. they'll be mad for a while but thank you for it later after they get help and isn't so depressed anymore.

Answer 5

i know how hard it is having a friend and you want to be there for them and make sure they dont hurt them selve but the best thing to do is try to talk to them about it and pray about it and ask her to hold on hope i helped

Answer 6

Let him know that you care about the problem he has.  Let him know that he needs to talk to someone about the problem, probably his parents.  

Answer 7

i know that your just trying to be his friend.

but a REAL friend would tell the school counselor or parents.

yeah i know they might never be able to trust you but

would you rather lose him/her ?

Answer 8

Well, would you rather your friend be angry, or dead?

It's really that simple. You have an obligation to tell someone. His trust in you isn't going to matter if he's no longer around to care. Please don't take that chance. Tell someone.

Answer 9

You have two choices.You either let your friend commit suicide,in which case,you fail as a friend and face judgment of his family and friends,and the second option is to fail his trust and tell his family and/or friends so that they can prevent his suicide.In the end he will be grateful for it.Fear and anger cloud ones judgment so you must make the right judgment.

When there are only two bad choices, choose the lesser of two evils

Answer 10

Get HIM to tell someone. Hand him a phone with a helpline number on it and tell him to talk to them. Or offer to go with him to the school counsellor. Tell him how difficult this position is for you, and that you want him to get better. If he refuses to tell someone, tell him that you will have to because you are not able to deal with this on your own. Let him know how much you care about him and that you only want whats best for him. You can't ignore this or keep quiet, its too serious. I've been in your position honey and I know how hard it is, its a big load on someone so young. Please hand it over to someone who can help him. He will understand eventually  

Answer 11

Look, if you want to help this guy you have to tell someone, who can maybe help him tell them you were asked not to say anything and ask them to be tactfull in their approach. You may lose a friend to his ignorance about the situation but you may save his life which is ultimately more important. The choice is yours now since he has intrusted his life to you, You can choose to fail his trust or simply let him die. I tell you this only because the choices you make may control his outcome, in truth you may be able to convince him otherwise but you may not if you cannot help him you will end up looking at his death as being your fault which it will not be but i assure you that you will see it that way.  IF you do nothing and let him commit sucide you will also feel as if you were to blame. You need to take the weight off your shoulders or it may ruin both of your lives.

My condolences and compassion for your situation.

Answer 12

A shortage of "B" vitamins will cause serious problems.  That is a good place to start.  There are some people who are good at problem solving.  It is helpful to know at least one, and to discuss problems with them.