Suicidal thoughts, dad's no help?

Question

I am 15 and live with mom, but have to go to dad's tuesday, thursday and everyother weekend. He has a wife who says I'm scumm and that I should just leave him alone. I want to live with my mom, but how do I tell him, I know he loves me, but it's just not worth the pain. I've considered suicide, but that's just an easy way out.

Answer 1

Suicide is never the answer.  The scars it leaves on those who truly do care about you are hideous.  My suggestion is to ask your father to go for a walk or a drive with you for some father daughter time (not on tuesday, thursday or the weekends that you have to be there) and let him  calmly know that it is becoming very difficult for you to continue to come over when it is made obvious that you are not welcome.  Ask him for advice and what he would do if he were looking out through your eyes.  These are supposed to be your formative years and some of the happiest memories of your life.  Let him know that because you love him, his advice is important to you and that you want to allow him time to think about it before advising you. By doing this on a day that you don't have to be at his house, it will allow him the time to think and you won't have to spend your time walking on eggshells.  You may also want to talk to a school counselor about the situation.  You might also want to find out at what age you are allowed to petition the courts with respect to having the visiting rights changed.  I just saw the additional comments you added Your Pastor, Minister, Rabbi or Priest may also be a source for advice as well.

Answer 2

Seriously i went through this with my dads new wife and honestly she can talk all the c**p she wanted cause i would just tell her too bad im not going anywhere deal with it. I would smile in her face and everytime she would put me down id say thank you i will pray for you this would p**s her off to the point that she would drive my dad nuts granted he would tell me to stop being rude so i would then tell him well then tell your wife to stop talking to me like she lost her mind. Then i would say i wanna go to my moms it worked and eventually she stoped being a biznatch cause she knew i didnt care what she had to say.

But if your on the more sensitive side then just tell him whats going on and that she is making you feel really horrible to the point of suicide cause you cant handle all the drama!

Answer 3

No sucide you get one life and thats it!

Talk to him.

Kick her *** easy...

lol im a bad pearson.........

Answer 4

Make your dad listen this can be a serious problem.

Alternate: Take your suicidal thoughts and apply them to the wife. stab stab stab!

Answer 5

You should sit down with your father ALONE without your stepmom or whatever you call her & explain to him what she says to you , how you feel & why you wanna live with only your mom . If he doesn't understand you should talk to your mother about what is going on & she could maybe talk to your dad & try to work everything out . Hope I helped=/ .  

Answer 6

You should try to get your dad to walk in on the conversation or record it. I am 14 and I have had thoughts about it but I got talked out of in well more scared out of it.  

Answer 7

Please, do not committ suicide.  I have been through those thoughts and it is not a healthy path, or the "easy" way out. You have your whole life ahead of you and taking your own life is not how to end you problems. Your life is too precious a gift to take away. If you committed suicide, think of how your mom and dad would feel. If you knew how much even just one person cared about you, or even considered it, you wouldn't commit suicide. Did you know that over 15 people between the ages of 15 and 24 commit suicide each day? It is not the answer, and if you ever think it is or want help immediately you can call 1-800-suicide or even 911. If these are serious thoughts, consult your mom about therapy. I did and believe me it helps.

As far as your dad goes, you need to say Dad, I need to talk to you alone. You need to tell him how is wife treats you and then see what he says. If he says there is nothing he can do about it then you need to maybe consider just living with your mom. If that is the case, then ask him if maybe you could see him away from his wife during the week, like in a restaurant or park. If he says he will talk to her, that means he is going to try to do everything in his power so he can see you. Work from there. If the wife is how you say, my opinion is she isn't going to change her mind about you, AND IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! There are very horrible people in this world and you have to unfortunately be put in situations liek this. Talk to your dad.

Suicide is not the easy way out. You have your whole life ahead of you. Talk to some one who can help you.

Love and good luck

Answer 8

First off remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.This too will pass I promise....explain to dad alone that your having some trouble and would like to skip the visits to his house and need to stay at mom's.Ask if you could spend time with him alone away from the house with his wife...if not ask to go to counseling...that will give him a wake up call

Answer 9

You should tell your dad what she says to you.

Answer 10

Suicide is not the way out! think of all the things that you will be missing! I have had this problem before too but think on how your friends and family will miss you! Talk to your school counsellor and remember what that idiot of a woman says it's not true! I hope that you pull through this!  

Answer 11

You need to ask you dad to sit down to talk ALONE!  Explain the situation and tell him for now it seem the best thing for you is to live with your mom and have visits with only him!  You life will mean more to him then you living with you mom!