Summons from poland?

Question

met a polish girl, fell madly in love after 3 years visited her for 4 months, she got pregnant, she had our baby, we had a fall out, 2 years later I get a letter in a mail from a polish court asking me to appear on the 29th of this same month (it’s the 11th). It says it's my son is summoning me; she will be by his side. I have receipts of 400 notes a month of her polish local currency that I wire to her for over two years and even before he was born. The summons is to give a paternity test (I never denied he was my son) and basically alimony. I have my sister who is an attorney looking into this tomorrow but for now what do you guys think, am I in trouble?

Answer 1

You're not in trouble, but, she's looking for your full responsibility towards your son and that there will be a guarantee towards your parental responsibilities.

Answer 2

If you are dumb enough to actually go, then you will be in trouble as you will be the outsider.  She would not be doing this unless she sees some way of geting some great advantage from it despite your taking full responsibilty which you could have easily dodged (good for you!).

Answer 3

I guess you are in the US, as you write attorney,not lawyer. It does help to say where you are, when you are on a world site like this.

You need to deal with this matter, amicably if possible,because these days a Polish court can issue a warrant valid in all 27 European Union countries, that would be executed as soon as you entered any one of them.

You are giving her 400 Polish Zloty a month? That is not a great deal. About $195 a month, and costs are rising rapidly in Poland. Not enough to pay for child support if she is working, and not enough for ther not to work.either. That will be her problem and why she is chasing you. She has probably run out of relatives willing to look after your son for nothing. It is also tough for an unmarried mother in a Catholic country. She will probably have a tough time getting another man interested in her.

You should try to make an agreement to pay her more. She will probably get off your back and your son will be better looked after. That's one thing about Polish girls, they do take good care of their kids.Does she know that your kid can claim US citizenship now, or later? Perhaps that is why she wants a paternity test. So she has some proof in black and white.Seems reasonable considering later she may not be able to contact you.

I am surprised you have not offered to help her to get into the US, if she wants too.Unless you are already married, it would not be much of a problem for you. That way your kid would have a better future, and you might regret that one day, if you don't help him.He is your flesh and blood and you loved her once too.

I can speak from personal experience, because a similar thing happened to me. I had a son, but it got to the state where we could hardly be in the same room together.e had been planning to settle in the US, where we could both easily get jobs, but instead I went back to the UK. I later got her and my son their as well, an she soon had a job as she is a nurse.Our son spent school days with me, and most weekends with her.Some years later she met someone else and married, and so did I. Now our son is big, and I am glad I brought him here.Myself and my wife are still friendly with his mother and her husband. Now I remember her more as she was when we first met, and we sometimes meet socially, so all turned out well in the end. Maybe it could be the same for you.

Anyway, good luck , and I hope things work out for you and her, and of course for your son too. You should stay in touch, or there will come a time like I had, when I started to think about what I was missing out on, not having my son grow up with me, and how he would be without a father.That pushed me to do something.May be you too.