Surrogate mothers !!!!?

Question

Is it fair for the biological parents to let the child have any kind of relationship with the surrogate mother years after the child is born,or is it right to hide this from the child.I know someone who has found out about her surrogate mom,but her biological parents will not let her go to visit............................

Answer 1

why should they have any connections with the surrogate? really all they were was a baby holder for 9 months. the biological parents are the childs real parents.  but if the child wants to see the surrogate later in life than i don't see why not, i think the parents either had something bad between them and the surrogate, or they fear that the child will favor the surrgate more or think  the biological parents aren't her real parents or somethign like that.

Answer 2

I think those types of issues should have been worked out between the biological parents and the surrogate mother before a 'deal' was ever made.

Answer 3

I would not let my child visit either. The sperm and the egg were from the childs REAL father and REAL mother. They were fertilized and then implanted into the surrogate mother. This woman carried the child and gave it nutrition, but that is all.

Answer 4

Oh! Dear!  We knew this kind of thing would happen!

How old is the child?  Tell him/her that she can make contact with the surrogate at age 16-18-21-etc.  Also, was the surrogate just a 'carrier' for the pregnancy, or was she the bio-mother?  That could make a difference...!  And is the surrogate receptive to contact by the child?

From the get-go, I think honesty is the best policy...then you don't have to keep making up stories when your stories get found out...!

Good luck to all!

Answer 5

I was a foster child for most of my life. i had a newborn brother who doesnt know any of his siblings. i take it like this. if you want the child to know then tell um but I would tell the child because the child will most likely want to know. even if they'll be mad at first but then they'll be sure to understand. though the decision is up to you... you decide when and how and if you will... Good Luck

Answer 6

I don't see the point in a relationship?

Surrogates only carry the fetus. there is no biological connection. Though she might just like to send her a thank you card or something to explain how grate full she is!!

Answer 7

Toughy..

It should have all been worked out but, obviously it wasnt.

If the child wants to know and is interested in meeting their birth Mother than in my opionion they have the right.

I do however understand how the real parents feel.

But, it is only natural to want to know where you come from.

This would be and i am sure is a very sensitive subject.

So Good Luck and Prayers

Stace