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Surrounded, but alone?

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I have my mom in the same room as me.

My boyfriend of fours years taking some time to just work a lot and catch up on his bills, so that means seeing less of me (once a week if that). It used to be at least once every other day. Now I can barely catch him on the phone.

An okay job with people I used to hang with, but all of a sudden they are super flaky.

A dad in Florida who "promises" to come see me.

But I am alone. I want to cry. I used to think of my boyfriend all the time and needed him a lot and now Im lost for feelings, because he isn't there. I feel as if I'm loosing him with this temporary "space"

My mom hates me.

How can I manage without breaking? I feel like im not needed or wanted, so why be here right? Not talking about killing myself, im talking about existing to these people that show no interest in me. I want to be strong, but how do you do that when friends, family, and the love of my life isnt there for me. I have not had a conversation with someone in a long time (just sitting and talking and having a good time). I feel locked and I want to spill, but there is no one where there.

Im so lonely.

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  1. sorry complicated but it is not you but those around you that have pressed you into this shadow of darkness and sense of being alone fort it is possible to be in a crowd and still feel so alone---not good.  Don't mean to pry but once s*x gets into the picture guys tend to lose interest (most guys are that way) so if you have been active it might mean that you lost your bf.  If not active then something is up"Now I can barely cath him on the  phone"  I cannot say but it seems intereting that after visiting you "once every other day" he now is a "once a week if that" type of guy and after 4 years he might no longer be "in love" so ask and see where the relationship goes.

    So what caused your friends to become "super flacky"?  your behavior when you were with your bf--did you neglect them?  Try to find a reason or reasons and try to get their friendship back--be yourself once more.   Sometimes friends get upset when they see a friend acting so different or is getting in trouble because of the bf's behavior--the guy is in control of the girl and this makes the other girls get upset like" can't you see he is using you"  and such but they do have your best interest for they do not want to see a friend get in trouble.  Become the friend you were before.  

    Now what makes you think that you mom hates you?  

    Show no interest in you really or is it your hurt feelings that is making you feel like this?  You are a special person and no matter how you think about yourself---"im not needed or wanted" so go back to work or school and move on--make new connections if your old friends reject you try joining a school group so you can make new friends with  people that share the same interest as you--those in the group.  

    Okay so you are feeling pretty lonely "....when friends....isnt there for me." you are not alone yo jsut have to look at other places; try going to church that is one place where you can cry and ask God (oops yes God) to help you deal with these situations trust me I know.  Try to find a church that can help you deal with lifel some churches have counseling and they can help.  

    If you like you can email me.  I am open to help you or simply to hear you and talk.  And don't worry for Iam accountable to God so try me.  :D  peace to you and to yopur hurting heart :(


  2. aw im so sorry you have to go through this im horrible at advice but imma try so dont be offended if i say something stupid (its my natural advice) haha uhm maybe u could join a club or something to meet some new people maybe a counsler for u and ur mom and well i think thats all i got srry i hoped i helped in some way shape or form.

  3. Well, you know what i would do. I would think that (if you know who he is) Jesus was my friend and that is all that matters. Just keep smiling even if you dont want to it might help. You know what also may help is to go somewhere and meet someone and hang out with that person. Hope that helped. :) ♥
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