Survey: Do you approach women in public?

Question

When you see an attractive female in the public, like grocery store, bus station, library, do you usually approach her?

What kind technique you use?

And your advice.

Answer 1

It's all about skill.  .. skill in recognizing and adapting to the situation.  All women want men in their lives. -- At the same time ALL women find average strange guys to be somewhat worthless to them. (it's true)

Your first goal in a public SARGE (approaching a woman with intent to "pull") is to convey your value or potential value to her. She needs to be able to see you as a person of value-- you don't necessarily need to structure that value into a particular role (boyfriend, friend, acquaintance etc..) just yet.  

There is much to this in the forms of tact, social consensus (as attributed by your dialect, your dress, yada yada). You need to establish who you are as a person of value, then go into attracting her by conveying some basic tenets which traditionally attract a woman to a man. -- Don't be so concerned early on in establishing commonalities in personality, or trying to mirror what she says (i.e. a yes man). There are certain traits to which women are attracted to in men-- irregardless of personal stylings and personal aesthetic social views.  Basically* establish to her your ability to be:

A leader of men

Protector of loved ones

Pre-selected by women

Have ability to emote                     - Mystery Method

What all those translate to is that you are a viable mate; not to mention a great potential friend and basically A GREAT GUY TO KNOW.  

One of the easiest ways to get started is to simply approach women like you don't care whether or not they'll reject you.-- You've probably heard this before, but do you know why this works? It works because this action mirrors this social conditioning that most of us have which says that ' guys who are valuable and confident, aren't worried that people will reject them'.  The guy isn't worried not only because he is "a great guy", but because he has other women in his life, and he has a natural ability to meet women so one woman turning him down is not going to phase his day in the least.

Consequently, if you don't show that trait of confidence in approaching women you are interested in, people will automatically jump to the conclusion that 'This guy doesn't have balls. The probable reason he doesn't have balls is that he has no value therefore has no confidence.'

Practice getting used to approaching women in public by beginning the approach in adrogeny (non-sexually, almost like you were approaching a dude).  Go up, "hey, how do you know how long to cook these things?". Do it like you do it all the time. Like talking to women about simple things like this is natural. (I'll fill you in man, women are very, very simple to succeed with.) When you show something simple as being able to approach a woman about something- something that is not a blatent pickup- being able to communicate with women in public about something not related to picking her up is a huge skill, and that in itself will set you apart from other guys and give you *value.

Answer 2

take a chill pill , and thats it

Answer 3

Yes, and some time it works.  I have gotten a lot of hot , meaningless s*x that way.  When I approach a woman I can tell in 2 minutes or less if she wants to bang me.

Answer 4

This should really go in Singles & Dating. Anyways, people who approach you in places where you're obviously trying to get something done (food shopping, reading, catching a bus) are really annoying. That's what clubs and fundraisers are for.

Answer 5

Talk to her anywhere. Just blow her off If she acts stuck up and annoyed. Point is, it's a big world out there, not everyone goes to clubs and fund raisers. Almost everyone goes to grocery stores and what not. Don't miss the chance to talk to someone you might like because of some stupid set of rules.

Start with a smile and a hello. See where it goes....

Answer 6

I only approach women in places where women cannot complain about being approached. In a grocery store, bus station, or library a woman has a 'reasonable expectation' of being left alone. In a bar or a night club a woman knows full well that she is going to get hit on, so I feel no shame by invading her personal space by hitting on her in such a locale. I respect women who want to be left alone who avoid going to meet markets.