Survey: guys, would you ever marry a woman who either wants to create a new last name or keep her maiden name?

Question

Well, that's what I'm going to do. Either keep my maiden name or form a new last name with him to represent not lost history, but continueing history on both sides. I know nothing about my mom's history b/c she gave her last name a way and eventually it will be lost. By forming a new, but related one, it's a neat little story to tell that can go on for generations and both sides of the family are equally represented :) I've learned too much about my last name and history to give it up. I love my history.

Answer 1

Whats the point in getting married? just keep both your names and be happy. Any children should take the mans last name though.

Answer 2

No, never!

Such a woman is a feminist and a liberal. She has no understanding of what marriage is about. Rereading you question, I must say that you are sadly mistaken and misguided. If you don't want to join a decent man by traditional standards, you would be better advisted to REMAIN SINGLE.

Liberalism is the plague of the modern era and the root of most of the suffering, tragedy and heartbreak of today.

This may be of interest:

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And also this:

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Answer 3

I think it matters on the person. I married my wife and gave her the option. But with children maybe not.

Answer 4

I'd just like to put this out there:

I've got a hyphenated last name from my parents, and I'm not sure what the heck I'm gonna do if I get married T_T

I'll probably end up keeping my name, but I'm not sure about kids, if I have any.

Answer 5

it would depend on her reasons, you're reasons are fine. if she was making some feminist statement by refusing to take my name id move on and find someone else.

if your system was passed down the generations, wouldn't the names just keep getting added on and on, or do you expect others to lose their historic name?

i have four names, the last two are my mother's maiden name and my father's family name.

i have the option of hyphenating or just using the last one. the double barreled version has been useful on the odd blag, but using it all the time would make me seem like a pretentious tw@t.

Answer 6

a lot of countries i know have a system where you die with the name you are born with and any change is in the form of an @

Answer 7

I wouldn't care much, so I definitely wouldn't not marry you just because of that.

Answer 8

When i married it wasn't about names , it was about love .. so I wouldn't care at all ...

Answer 9

No not at all I would not marry a woman that did that.

Answer 10

Go for it.  I kept my last name.

Answer 11

My hubby and I BOTH changed our names, we completely merged our names without a hyphen. It's so romantic knowing that we are the only two in the world with that name.

Answer 12

The logic seems flawed, since if you come up with a new last name, your children when they marry will come up with a new name, so, you'll lose your history anyway in a few generations.

I really doubt I would go for the kind of person who makes an issue out of those kind of things.

Answer 13

She can do whatever she wants with her last name- unless it's totally awesome, i'm keeping mine though- and it's going on my children's birth certificate too- though i might agree to having my name joined to someone elses on my childrens names.

Answer 14

meh who cares i think the making a new name together is a pretty good idea.

Answer 15

You decide on whether your want to change your name or

'make a new one'

If the eventually of loosing your history is really weighing on you, than changing you name , or more to the point making a new one defeats the purpose. Want to preserve the past? Do what ever you can.  Save a date, make back ups. Show your children pictures remind them where they're from. I have a different last name, it doesn't make me less apart of the family. When I get married, name change or not it doesn't change anything. The change of my name will become public record.

Answer 16

I'm confused, how did you lose your mother's history just because she took her husband's name at marriage?  Please understand that I think you should have full choice on what name you use, just that I do not understand how one loses history merely from changing a surname.

My mother took my father's name, and  yet her maiden name is public knowledge.  I am aware not only of her maiden name, but also of her mother's maiden name.  I have access to geneological records on this side of my family going  back at least two hundred fifty years.  Not only do I know many of the names connected to the family but I know stories of events that occurred.  Her family took pride in their history, and shared it down through the generations.

To contrast, of my father's father, about whom by your reckoning I should know more than of my mother's mother, I know two things - his name, and that he was an albino.  I know what little I do of my _paternal_ family history not because I have their name, but because my _mother_ took the time and trouble to inquire, and passed that information on to me.  

There are some excellent reasons to not take one's husband's name upon marriage, but I do not see love of history as the best or most valid.

Answer 17

The Jolie-Pitt example comes to my mind. If they continue that practice for a long time, there will be an exponential growth in their last name.

Answer 18

i so wish i had kept my maiden name , even now after 24 years of marriage i still don't feel like who I'm supposed to if you know what i mean , its crazy really you marry someone that you love it doesn't mean you want to become them . I still feel like the person that i was before i got married but somehow i feel i left her behind 24 years ago . ahhhhh i don't make sense !!!!!!!! do i , maybe you get what i mean ?

Answer 19

No I would never marry a woman. Who wanted to create a new last name, or keep her maiden name... no I would never marry a woman.

Answer 20

you mean like hillary did ? (rotham clinton) or do you mean not adding his last name in any way (except for hypernating) ? I have no problem if she wants to keep her maiden name next to mine.

Answer 21

phh last name who cares I just want to marry a woman who will have my kids