My 10yr old son is a wonderful child. He is polite, helpful, loving and bright. You couldn't ask for a better behaved child. He respects me as a parent, but we also speak very freely and openly with one another. He's not the kind of child, that if he were to spill something that he would try and hide it for fear of repercussions. He knows he can speak to me about anything, and in turn i try to be as forward and honest with him as possible. Recently he told me that he has been using swear words at school occassionally. Not in general conversation, but when provoked and to another child that uses bad language. I was shocked, he never ever swears at home. I know he's been exposed to these words (through the media, and i guess through me and other adults - i'm not big on swearing but sometimes one slips out!), but he is well aware that they're 'bad' words. He's even reprimanded me from time to time for swearing! So he knows full well that he shouldn't be using them and i personally have never heard him use them, nor have any teachers as i've never had any feedback of that nature from his school. But he told me this voluntarily and freely. If i were to punish him, this would simply teach him that there's some things he should keep hidden from me. If he just hadn't told me then i wouldn't know and he wouldn't be in trouble, but i can't exactly give him a green light to use this language just because he's been honest about it! Does there come a time where you just have to accept potty mouth on the playground? Should you ever punish a child for being honest? I have plans possibly for next year to move him into a private school, at the moment he attends a public school which does have a significant amount of lower socioeconomic families. I don't think though that this is just a case of him hanging around with the 'bad' kids. How would you stop this kind of behaviour without punishment?
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