Swearing.....?

Question

Every child drops an f-bomb, or something similar, usually around the age of 3-5. It's how they find out point blank that swearing is a huge no-no. How did you handle it the first time your child swore?

My son was on the other side of the soccer field. "Hey mommmmmm!" he bellows. yeah? I yelled back. Is this a swear? And he rams up his finger. Liam said it's a swear. Mom is that a swear? Every parent in the bleachers collapsed laughing and I just sat there with my jaw in my lap. Yes, Evan. Can we talk about it later?

Answer 1

The first time my son swore I laughed, he was maybe 3.

But I didn't make a big deal out of it so not to encourage him.

When he dropped the "F" word the first time, I told him that's not a nice word to say. Then when I would say it, he told me the same.

As he got a little older, what worked for us to control the swearing was only being aloud to say them in the car. The "F" word was still a BIG no-no.

He's 14 now and still goes by those rules. He wont say them when he's out because he feels using swear words makes you sound dumb.

Answer 2

hehe!  That's hysterical.

I don't know if you call this swearing or not, but it had me trying not to laugh. Mr 4yo came home from school on Wednesday, and we all decided to drive up to a friends. On the way up there, he pipes up,

*I love Pornography Shops. Charli can we go to a Pornography shop. Charli what's a Pornography Shop??*

I happen to be driving and hearing him in his sing song voice asking this, nearly made me crash the car. The things they learn in school.

I had to have a talk with him about s*x, after he saw 2 cows in the act, and kids at 4yo usually ask a lot of questions. He came home from school one afternoon, was walking in our bottom paddock with Andrew. 2 sheep mounted, and Mr 4yo announces to Andrew,

*Charli fibbed. That's not called s*x, it's called F******!!*

Andrew did ask what me and him talked about in his little s*x talk. hehe! I think I may need to change his schools. The things they have taught him.

Answer 3

I swear right back at them.... if they can give it they should be able to take it.

Answer 4

Well, the first time my daughter swore was when she was still in diapers.  I knocked my favorite vase over and broke it.  I actually managed not to cuss, but then my daughter looked at me, looked at the vase, looked back at me, and very seriously said "sh**".  I was shocked!  She had just assumed that that's what you say when you break something!  So I told her "sweety-pie, that's a naughty word.  It's not a word for little girls.  Mommy shouldn't even say that word!  It's a naughty grown-up word."  She doesn't cuss, and now she points out "Mom, you shouldn't say naughty words."  It looks like your kid knows "swears" are bad, and talking to them is the way to go.  ;)  Just make sure he knows it's not appropriate and why.  And if you're not participating yourself, it's an even better influence!  (Man, is that not cussing thing hard - I picked it up from my Mom *lol*)

Answer 5

Sorry but every child does not drop the f-bomb. I have never heard any one of my children drop that word, at least not in my presence..........nor have they ever heard me! I also never heard my parents swear..........

Answer 6

Depends. If he is saying it when he knows it is wrong smack him. If he doesn't know it is wrong just tell him. Every kid will swear in public one time or another.

Answer 7

no one should swear, not even you. children pick up what there parents do,

"so be carful little lips what you say, because empty words and promises leave broken hearts astray."

Answer 8

I laugh my heart our first, next thing is correction why it is not healthy to use those bombs

Answer 9

Every child drops the f-bomb? I hope not. I remember asking my dad about the finger, too, just because I'd seen someone else do it. Even though my parents cussed occassionally, I knew I would get spanked if I said anything remotely bad. I couldn't even say darn or dang. If my child utters the f-word I think I will faint.

Answer 10

That's HYSTERICAL!!!  Yeah.. kids test the waters every chance they get....I just told mine that there were words we didn't say......I'm sure they still said them once in a while, just not around me.lol

Answer 11

That is a time that you can't help but want to laugh at your little guy.  Too funny!  But you are right you have to teach them early or they start running around cussing kids and adults out at age 8-10.

Answer 12

I wouldn't find it funny. I'd b shocked as to where a child was hearing these words at such a young age.

Answer 13

Thats one of those things that you need to keep your composure and be serious but later on when your child isint around you laugh histerically!!!  I would have just said that there are words we dont say and there are certain fingers/gestures you dont use and that he should never do something like that.  If he did it again then I would probably do time out and if he did it again id spank him!  As for the other kid....I feel for his mom b/c she was also trying to do the right thing...she did tell her child that it was a swear and her child did tell yours also.  I think he was just trying to reconfirm what his friend said!

Answer 14

I left for work one day and Alice was standing behind the door as her step dad shut it, she looked up at him and said,

"Mommy said i can say f***."

I think Robert just laughed at her.  We listen to music with swear words in it, when she sings she usually uses the word beep, but sometimes she will say them, she knows that while singing it's ok, just not at Grandmas house.

Answer 15

haha, i would be embarrassed for liam's mother

i remember the first time my mother heard me drop the f bomb

she laughed and told me to stop saying that

my dad told me it was unlady like and that people don't like hearing it, and that if i kept saying it, nobody would want to listen to me

as i got older, my parents started telling me that they didn't care if i used words like that- as long as i wasn't directing any bad words towards somebody i was upset with

bah, that didn't turn out

some kids are just going to grow up swearing, and stay that way their whole life

and some kids won't

me and my brother grew up very close, in the same home with the same parents- he almost never swears

good luck with all of that =)

Answer 16

Haha sounds like something my son would do lol

When my kids have learnt an inappropriate word, I normally let them know it's not a nice word to say and if possible let them know what it means. Not gross or anything, but in their type of words so they can understand.

They know they have to have respect whilst at home, but I do know their father & his gf swear in front of and at them.

When he still lived with us, our oldest child starting swearing at the age of two. Now we did swear in front of her (but never at her) and I wasnt aware of how much she was picking up. Since she started repeating it, no one has sworn in my house around my kids. I then seen it as disrespectful to do so.

(Thank goodness she doesnt get to hear the profanity anymore as she refuses to go to her dad)

Yes I am aware they will do that when they are teenagers and maybe some things I will let them get away with, but like I stated earlier, they can still have respect at home.