Swingers? threesomes? and married people.?

Question

Have any of you had a good experience swinging or with a 3 some (married couple's please) It seems like everyone asks questions on here about bad ones. Can it be done successfully as a married couple?

Answer 1

I don't do it myself but I have a girl friend that does. She has been married for 11 years and it seems to work for them. They say that it is just s*x and does not matter. It does not seem to interfere with anything and they are very happy.  

Answer 2

my partner and I have been swinging for about 5 yrs. we have one couple that we swap with offten, and I also have a few playmates that join us it is a great time.

we trust each other and tell eachother everything.

and always know that we are coming home at the end of the day to eachother.

Answer 3

my friends parents are swigers. and let me tell you they're marriage is just fine. better than others i've seen. and they've been married for probably 30+ yrs. so i mean there can be succesful stories but u just have to make sure that ur only doing it for the pleasure and not get any feelings involve

Answer 4

I think you have a good mind set concerning swinging and taking an adventure into this taboo setting.

We have been swinging going on 9 years and yes we have had bad experiences but they were all because we had no clue what we were doing at the time. It certainly never ever hurt our relationship but it sure has enhanced our love and lovemaking greatly.

I advise you to learn as much as you can, take it very slow and test the waters. If you like the temperature then jump in feet first with a splash!

GOOD LUCK!

Ginni  

Answer 5

well i've never had a three some but i've had friends that have. If you want to have this kind of adventure make sure you trust him and that you both really are ok with this. I suggest that if you do have this "fun" that you guys don't talk about it afterwards in the future unless you both don't mind. trying new things is always fun and make sure that the other people see it the same as you two. good luck!!!

Answer 6

Yes.  I have quite a lot of friends that swing and we have had a few good threesomes.  

Everyone's different and it takes a lot for both people to be okay with everything that's happening.  You have to have understanding and security.

Answer 7

Hmmmm...I found this question of yours following the link from your answer to a mistress asking if she should give the married man an ultimatum.  You said, "i just cant understand why a women or a man would get involved with a married man or woman" and "think of all of the memories and love and tears and feeling and history you have helped to destroy" and "Shame on you. Shame on you."

If this is a serious question, I believe you have answered it for yourself.

Additional note:

All I'm sayin' is, your "Shame on you" is pretty high and mighty for someone who is planning on having s*x with someone besides your husband.

Answer 8

i think it should concern you that your husband wants a threesome or if its you that wants it.  If you two can't be happy you have a big serious problem that no 3somes is going to fix.

Answer 9

not in my oppinion. I had a threesome while I was single and ended up marrying the guy. I guess it turned out okay for me but not his ex wife. It ruined thier marriage and she regretted doing it every day of her life. It's not something I'm proud of either but I fell in love. how 'bout them apples?

Answer 10

My wife and I have swingers for about four years.  We enjoy it quite a bit.

We play about once a month, usually at a swing club we like.  Sometimes we hook-up with another or female, sometimes we don't.  It's all good.

We have a rock solid relationship.  We're intelligent enough to know we have fantasies and desires, and secure enough to explore them.

s*x and Love are two entirely different things.  I reserve love exclusively for my wife.  s*x with playmates, however, is just a fun physical activity.  Pairs tennis, but with smaller balls!  We love watching each other give and receive pleasure.  We do have our rules, which we set.  We have also modified the rules as we've matured as swingers.  Rules are important, and should never, ever be changed in the heat of the moment.  Talk about them later, and change them before the next encounter or party.

Swinging is about honesty.  Anything else is cheating.  There are millions of swingers out there with wonderful relationships.  Swingers have a much, much lower divorce rate than non-swingers.

The STD rate among swingers is much lower as well.  Swingers take care of themselves, and practice safe s*x.

We got into swinging for a couple of reasons.  My wife is bi, so that's a side of her sexuality I can't fulfill.  As I said above, watching each other is a huge turn on for us.  Both of us had some swing experience in our 20's, so it was an easy discussion to enter the lifestyle.

I would suggest you explore Swing Lifestyle.  It's a nice website, not as crude as some:  http://www.swinglifestyle.com/

And there's a very good book available from Amazon, called "Doin One For The Team," by Simbaxxx.  About her continuing life in swinging.

if you go into it, I suggest finding a swing party (see the website above).  At a party you're not required to participate, or do anything you don't want to do.  For the first few visits, just get to know people, and observe.  Play with each other in the hot atmosphere.  Manners count for everything.  No means no, safe s*x is a must.

Have a long talk about it with your significant other, and enjoy!

Answer 11

That is my husband fantasy. And I'm gonna make sure it stays a fantasy.lol

Answer 12

Have swung for over 10 years and had threesomes, and foursomes and have never had any bad experiences. It all about how you go into it and the strength of your own relationship

Answer 13

Yes - My wife and I have been sharing for 25 years.

See our Profile

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 14

I have been married nearly 20 years. During that time we have had mfm and cuckold with no ill effect. Most people think it is the man who brings up the idea and then 'pressures' the wife to have it. In my case it was my wife who wanted to have it and after discussing it I was agreeable. Does this mean that every couple who has a threesome will be successful? Absolutely not but my experience does show that the nay-sayers are wrong about it meaning the automatic destruction of your relationship. It also shows the importance of communication in the threesome process.  

Answer 15

My wife and I are in love and we enjoy sharing our sexual pleasures with others. There is nothing wrong with what you two want. We have been together for over 15 year. Of course it is our secret, all those unsuspecting people out there, compliment us, and tell us we are like teenagers in love.

Good rules, and togetherness is what makes it successful.  

Answer 16

If it ain't broke don't mess with it!! So many people out there wish they could say the same. Enjoy what you have!