TEENAGERS Do you think that adults always shove college down our throats? READ DETAILS?

Question

I mean, I don't get bad grades and all, but when I get in trouble in school, my parents freak out and say that I am "messing up my future". My brother called me a "disgrace" and a "w***e" because I got suspended for 2 days for fighting. I really think that it's annoying.

I care about my future, but when they give us high expectations, it gets annoying. School this, college that. They just won't keep the lid shut.

Do you guys consider me a w***e since i got suspended?

Do you agree?

Answer 1

How does getting suspended make you a w***e?? That doesnt even make sense. Anyway im glad that my parents have high expectations for me, its better than low ones. Since i dont want to let my parents down i always try my hardest and i think it is creating the best future possible for me.

Answer 2

why would being suspended make u a w***e?..i mean unless u were doing something sexual at school to get suspended

as for the college thing, ur parents just want whats best for you its hard nowadays to get a get a job without a college degree, thy want u to have the opportunities to do somethin good with ur life, be thankful that u have parents that can provide with a college education and care enough to get u there.

Answer 3

You can't be a w***e if you beat someone up. But you can definite be a bada$$. More power to you. I used to get c**p all the time about college, and you know what, I still do and i'm a sophomore in college! I never got the best of grades in high school but now that I'm in college, I'm getting solid A's and High B's.

You'll never hear the end of your education until your done with it and even then there aren't any promises. Try to stick it through! It's tough, I know!

:)

Answer 4

well yes adults do talk about college a lot but i like thinking about it I'm very excited to further my education and get that college experience

i want to become a doctor so i have years of college to come

so yes my parents do yell at me for getting in trouble and talk about my future but they just want what is best for their child

and why did your brother call u a w***e for getting suspended for fighting? does he know what a w***e is? because thats not it

Answer 5

You're not a w***e 'cause of fighting but suspension could really mess up your record. I think it was unfair that you got called a w***e for that but you should just keep your head down and just get on with it. If I've learnt anything, it's just to leave your parents and not argue back and so on.  

Answer 6

No.  I wish I had your family.  The only way I can go to college is on a scholarship or if we get loans.  You should be lucky they are willing to pay and have enough to pay.  You're not a w***e because you got suspended. and I do agree with them.

Answer 7

I agree im 15 going into my junior year in highscchool my mom expects me to get like straight a's, i got 1 D in algebra and she started acting like it was the end of the world. She was saying that i wont get in college if i keep that up, it was 1 bad grade, and what bothers me the most is that she's always talking about how i never do my homework, i do my homework everyday she wouldnt even know considering shes never home, i do care about my future. My older brother never went to college he's a liutenant in the army so who says you need to go to college to be sucessful.

ps. and no your not a w***e

Answer 8

Well number one, give your brother a dictionary and look up w***e.

Number two, have you seen a college application?  There is question in there asking if you have been suspended/arrested/etc, and if you answer "yes" you have to give reasons why.  Colleges don't want kids that are going to fight all the time or are on a first name basis with the police, they want kids that are willing to work, learn, make the grade, and graduate.  So they look for kids who don't cause trouble inschool.  Also you have to get teacher recommendations, so if you are known for causing trouble, your teachers will put that right in there.

Your parents and your brother care about your future too.  Consider yourself lucky.  I know it may seem annoying now, but down the road you will be glad that they didn't "keep the lid shut."

The only way to keep their lids shut, as you put it, is to stop fighting and stop getting in trouble in school.  Or else you will have nobody else to blame but yourself when colleges respond with rejection letters...and those really aren't fun.

Answer 9

You need to look up w***e in a dictionary.

They have high expectations because they believe you can achieve them. It's much, much better to have your parents believe in you a little too much then not enough. They want you to do well in high school, go to a good college, and ultimately be successful. What's wrong with that? Stop complaining, and have a little gratitude for your parent's attitude.

Answer 10

Ok first of all a w***e is someone who has s*x with someone else for money.. so your brother had no right to call you that... and yeah it is annoying when they set such high expectations.. getting supened from school isn't good but it isn't bad either.. if you were defending yourself or someone else then how can you be a disgrace? if your standing up for the little guy. And the only way you can truly mess up your furture is to get hooked on drugs or get preganant before you hit your 20's.....  

Answer 11

Well the word w***e doesn't really add up in that sense at all...for fighting? No.

But I kind of get where you are coming from. I'm 17 and my grades and everything are pretty reasonable. I do plan to go to college but when I get in some kind of "obstacle" I hate it when teachers or adults point out the obvious. I think a lot of high school teachers and the adults baby the students to much. I believe the best method to get out of a situation is let the teenager handle it themselves. When you do get in college you wont have adults or teachers bailing you out of trouble or warning you before hand that you are jeopardizing your future. You will eventually have to fend for yourself and get yourself out of the hole that you dug.

So my answer is yes I do think they shove it down your throats but there's not much we can do about it.

It's obvious they are just concerned. But parents, especially, have hard times letting go of their kid and always want to protect and warn them about their future.  

Answer 12

Why would getting suspended make you a w***e?? Do you know what a w***e is?

You could mess up your future getting suspended. I had a friend who did and he ended up at Georgetown (which is a great school) but was otherwise headed to Yale.

I think you should listen to your parents.  

Answer 13

I'm going to virginia tech on A full paid basketball scholarship starting power forward / small forward.

Answer 14

God i always feel like that.

your defiantly NOT a w***e for that, people fight all the time.

Answer 15

Well, you aren't a w***e because of fighting.  Your brother was just trying to ruffle your feathers.  Ignore him.  As for your parents, they are right.  You may not like to hear it all the time and sure, it gets annoying, but they simply want what's best for you.  I'm sure some kids wish they'd be encouraged to go to college.  There are parents out there that just don't care at all and make sure their kids know how they feel.  Be grateful that you have parents that care.