TO HOLD OR NOT TO HOLD BaCK!??

Question

*For a friend*

Here son is in the second grade and the school is advising her to hold her son back next year and repeat the second grade based on the fact that they think he is too immature. He already gets picked on because he is the tallest and biggest kid on the second grade. Should she hold him back based on this?

Also should he be tested for ADD? His father and his sister has it.

Please I would love any advice! Thanks

Answer 1

dont hold him back for being immature

hes in second grade tell them to chill!

but if he has ADD you might(i have ADD)

its really a struggle so you might

Answer 2

This is something she needs to talk to the school about.There is alot involved in decideing if a child should be held back or not.

Answer 3

if the reason for holding him back is cuz hes immature tall and big is no reson to hold a child back if hes getting good grades and still doing good in schol the school can not do that...and yes he shoud get tested for add

Answer 4

Everybody can have ADD if they want it, so testing for ADD is not necessarily the answer.

We too were advised to hold our child back, and we ignored them.  We regretted the decision a couple of times, but we stuck it out and in the end or kid is just as normal as the rest of the graduating class of 2008.

Answer 5

It's a very individual decision that should not be a surprise this late in the school year.

We held my son back in kindergarten and it was one of the best things we ever did.  He would not have been ready for first grade and the second year did wonders.  He is ADHD and is in tutoring too.  He's doing so much better.  

We started talking to the teacher in December about the possibility of holding him back.  We were very realistic and knew his challenges.  It was still an incredibly hard decision.  I spoke with people who held their children back and with one of my doctors who wishes she had held one of hers back.  

Like I said, it's a very individual decision and there needs to be very open communication between parents and the school.

Good luck.

Answer 6

well there aren't really a lot of details here but if it's soley based on maturity then I would say no don't hold him back. If he is struggling academically as well then maybe it is something to consider but it doesn't sound like it. Boys mature at a slower rate than girls.

I don't know what would make you think ADD but if he has signs of it then I would have him evaluated but chances are he will mature in time.

Answer 7

Well, I think she should pass him and then get turdoing , you dont want to upset this boy anymore than he is. Also YES check for ADD and ADHD. that proabably has something to do with his school issue.