TTC and... (please read)?

Question

My fiancee and I have been TTC for the past 7 months. Well for the past 2 weeks he hasn't been himself, and its slowly gotten worse. Well come to find out he hasn't been taking his meds for schizophrenia. (He doesn't like people "bossing him around" about them and hides them so no one can make sure.) His father took him to the hospital yesterday while I was at work and he was admitted to the psych ward. After I went home, I didn't even recognize my house. Everything was in disarray. He had knocked a bottle of olive oil off the shelf and it broke. He stepped in the oil and there was a foot print. I sat up all night staring at it and bawling my eyes out. My family is no support at all and they keep insisting I "need to run away ASAP" His family has been a great help however. I don't really know why I'm posting this, I don't know. I just feel so lost. I don't want to bother his family too much as they have enough on their hands right now with looking for a new home and all. I'm so lonely right now. I don't know how long he'll be in the hospital. His mom and dad said that it is best I not go see him right now, as I've seen enough of him in this state. But I want to see him so bad. I know hardly anything about schizophrenia, as since I've been with him he's never had an episode becuase he's never quit taking his meds. I'm done having myself a pity party now. Sorry.

Answer 1

I think the reason that anyone would suggest leaving him is for the simple fact that he refuses to take his meds.  You have to think about the health and safety of this child that you are going to bring into this world.  If your fiancee refuses to take his meds you will essentially be a single parent to this child.  Can you really trust him alone with a baby if he is destroying your home when he is off his meds.  If he was committed to taking his meds regularly than I really wouldn't even see a problem, but if he does this consistently than you really have to weigh the risks.  Good Luck with whatever you choose and I hope he gets better.

Answer 2

Hi Maybe you should think a lot of this if you have a baby with you partner he /she will have the samedisorderr because is hereditary and maybe youwouldn'tt like that the baby suffer because of the your fault. You should go and see a doctor that can explain this to you and that can help you with the way you arefeel lingg. I agree with your family you should leave you deserve to someone that loves you and that tales care of you. An your partner wont be one person that you can count in the future. Think of this, imagine when you have a baby and he is sick then you will have two babies, also maybe he can hurt you or the baby. Please think with the head not with the heart. Good Luck and if you want contact me at [e-mail], you can talk to someone when you need.

Answer 3

If you are TTC you need to learn about schizophrenia.  Mental conditions are sometimes genetic and there would be a good chance your child could have the condition.  So I would suggest you learn about it before going any further TTC with him.  Good luck to you and I hope everything works out!!

Edit:  I didn't suggest you leave him.  Just learn about his illness.  I have a child with mental illness.  It's not easy.  It takes a toll on the entire family and then I also suffer from depression sometimes.  I see how between my son and myself how it affects my husband and stresses him.  I just wanted you to be sure you could handle a child if the child does have the illness too and a soon to be husband that has it and if your fiance stops taking his meds after the baby is born and you have left the baby with him while you go out grocery shopping or something, the child could be in danger.  He wouldn't mean to hurt the child, but it could happen.  I would suggest counseling for the two of you together before going any further.  Again good luck to you and I think it's great you support him, I would just worry about the child.