TTC for 7 months &.... HELP!?

Question

Last year my fiancee and I decided that we wanted to start a family & I was on the pill. So I just stopped the pill and got pregnant immediately, but had a miscarriage 7 weeks later. Since then we've been trying, but I cant seem to get pregnant, no matter what! Should I try getting back on the pill for a while and then stop all of a sudden?

I've been charting my AF, checking my cervix and my CM, taking temps (which is overly confusing and slightly frustrating & stressful - as my temp goes from 93 to 99 all the time, I've always been this way) the only thing I haven't done is OPKs.

I just get really frustrated with this... I'd almost rather put out the money for IVF or simply give up, than deal with all this. =:(

Answer 1

Me and my fiance have been ttc #1 for about 5 months now w/ no success. I do chart my cycle days and look for the EWCM but from the start I have found that all that meticulous and detailed charting with temps and cervix is just not for me seems too stressful, honestly I have been able to just about pinpoint my OV day twice without it, and the OV days that I observed matched up twice b/c 14 days after I suspected that I had OV there was AF : (

For the most part I just try to relax and enjoy BD'in w/ my Fiance and fantasizing/dreaming about my baby. I think it's going to be a girl I've seen her quite a few times in my dreams : )

But in the meantime it is frustrating esp when you see or read about people who easily fall pregnant on the first 1-2 tries.

Answer 2

From experience of other family members why don't you take a month or two off of all that charting and just do what feels natural.  If you're in the mood, have s*x, if you're not, don't.  Don't think of it as a chore, or a means to an end.  Love each other, caress each other and simply think of making each other happy.  Once you put all of that aside, you'll find your bodies natural rhythm and probably become pregnant fairly soon.  My cousin tried for years after having her first with no success.  When she'd finally resorted to adopting and was working on the paperwork, classes, money etc. for that she became pregnant.  Since then she's had 5 more children in a 6 year span.  Stop trying so hard and I bet you will to.  If not, keep trying for a year and then see a doctor for further testing.  It can take a year or more for some couples to become pregnant.