Take fiance's name even though it's terrible?

Question

His last name is Clampett. Mine is something normal and boring. I love him so much, I really want to take his name, but I feel a little stupid doing so. He gets comments on it CONSTANTLY. Also, I'm 30 and very used to my own last name at this point. What would you do?

Answer 1

i hear yoy, when i get get married next fall i'm going from Young to Sokolis. i have a nice simple last name and my hunny's mot people can't pronounce untill maybe the third try.

Answer 2

I think you guys should talk about it and decide together. What I wouldn't give for a last name like clampett lol. Try living with an italian last name that contains half the alphabet. I'm definately taking my fiances family name.

Answer 3

That last name is not that bad. At least its not like "butt" or something. You should be proud to take his last name because you love him.

Answer 4

Don't worry, I've heard of worst names before! This is seriously true, there is a girl who's name is "Trixie Dixie Butts"...she went to the university of Alabama. Imagine walking around with that name. If you don't like the way it sounds pronounce it differently to people. Make it french! Clammmpet. :)

Answer 5

You want to do it, he wants you to do it, DO IT.  It will feel silly and foreign for like 6 months, then you will wonder why you were even worried about it.

I changed my name at the age of 27, got divorced, and remarried at 36 and changed it again.  If you use it consistently, and let others know of the change, you get used to it quickly, trust me.  Your friends, co-workers, and clients will all do whatever you want:  the trick is to just beam and look blissful while you say "I'm a newlywed!  It's now 'Clampett!'"  Everybody loves to be around a happy bride and call her the new Mrs. So-and-So.  

I love having the same name as my husband.  It's like we're our own professional sports franchise, and I'm wearing a new jersey.  

Good luck with your decision!

Answer 6

If you want to take his name, do it.  You'll get used to it.

Some couples now are combining their last names, rather than the bride taking the groom's name.  For instance, if your name was Brown, you'd both change your name to Browett (or something).

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with that last name....take his if it means that much to him.

You are a couple and a family, your children will have that name...do you want to have a different name thanthem?

I had my last name a long time too, but I love sharing my husband's name...if you don't want to, don't.

Answer 8

Change the way it sounds.. and tell people its Clam-Pett... not so much.. Clampit. haha.. I understand how you feel, but hey, there could be worse things,right? At least HE doesn't embarrass you =]

Answer 9

I thk you would insult him if you dont take his name just do the hiphen thing like joan-clampett, therefore you still have your name and his

Answer 10

I know plenty of people that keep their own name.  I never understood why it's always the girl who has to take the name anyway, why not have him change his to yours?  I would keep my name (I already plan to.)  You shouldn't do something just because it's the accepted norm, especially when you already seem like you'd rather not.

Answer 11

You have every right to keep your name.  No need to feel guilty about it.  I know lots of married women who kept their name.  If he wants you both to have the same last name, he's welcome to take yours.

I don't understand why all these posters are telling her she should take his name.  The purpose of women's liberation was to give women a CHOICE in such matters.  No one seems to be saying, "if he really loved her, he'd be taking her name."

Answer 12

Well, there are many reasons why a woman shouldn't or wouldn't want to take her husband's last name. Not liking it shouldn't be one of them. It's obviously solely up to you, but the bottom line is - who cares what other people think of the last name? It connects you to your husband. Just because it comes from the Beverly Hillbillies should be neither here nor there. Good luck!

Answer 13

Oh please tell me his first or middle name is Jed cause I just thought beverly hill billies. lol. (Im not making fun, it really is what I thought).  If it won't bug him then keep your name.  Make sure you discuss it with him first.  I am keeping mine because there are only 6 people in Canada with my last name (me, my parents and sis and my grandparents) and so the name ends with me and my sister. I will most likely hyphenate but I want to keep the last name alive.

Answer 14

When you really love someone you love all of them.

It's as simple as that!

Answer 15

these days you do not have to take the name if you do not want to. However, if you love him you would not care what your last name is

Answer 16

i would take his name. i'm 30 and felt the same way - that i was very used to my own name. but i am glad i took my hubby's name. it's really awesome to be called "mr and mrs ____"

plus when you have kids, you'll want to have the same last name as them.  

Answer 17

use your first name your last name-Clampett

EX. Ashley Brown-Clampett

Answer 18

There Are Plenty More Horrible Names Out There & Honestly Clampett Is Not That Bad.

Personally, I Don't Think My Fiance's Last Name Will Go Well With My First Name, But I'll Take It Anyway.

Answer 19

just take it.  my last name now is awesome and about to become not quite as awesome...i think we just have to suck it up and jump in!

Answer 20

take it.

name your first kid jed.

Answer 21

I would take his last name if you two are at all planning to have children - because it's best then to have one family name.

A name is just a name. It doesn't define you.