Taking the affair to the next step- your thoughts?

Question

If two people who work together are having an affair (for the last 4 months) and have now decided to leave their spouses to be together do they have any chance of their relationship succeeding?

There are kids involved for one couple, friendships and work relationships have been destroyed, and the one who doesn't have kids has never wanted kids. Are they making irrational decisions based on lust? What do you think will happen have any of you experienced this?

Answer 1

don't listen to them.  my boyfriend and i are still together 1year 3 months after he left his wife and kids.  just go for it.  you only live once.

Answer 2

Honestly, I don't think it would stand a chance. Neither of them would ever be able to fully trust the other due to the fact that they both have cheated on their spouses, what is to stop them from cheating again?

Answer 3

I hope they end up miserable

Answer 4

The affair should have never happened in the first place.  Since it has ruined two relationships, I can only hope that the relationship made because of the affair fails miserably with the participants paying out the wazoo for what they have done to their legitimate spouses!

Misery and bad luck to those people who think s*x is more important than marriage!

Answer 5

The odds of this working out are astronomical. Too bad they've had to hurt so many people because of their own weakness and selfishness. They'll get theirs eventually - Karma bites.

Answer 6

Ask John Edwards how it worked out for him........

This kind of "relationship" has about a 5% chance of working out long term. Once the thrill is gone, most people realize the grass is NOT greener on the other side but by then it is too late!

Answer 7

honestly I don't really think it will work. The best relationships are those that are developed when you have walked away, fully determined what you want and then gone from there.  

Answer 8

i think what will happen when u marry him is that in a year or so when the honeymoon phase ends, and it always does, that reality will set in,and u will regret it. also the kids will be in your life forever,maybe taking time away from the new marriage,and creating jealousy.when u hurt someone the karma always comes back, its unavoidable.i think u will have the same problems with the new love as u have with the husband.and when a marriage begins out of dishonesty and betrayal, it could happen again.many trying to leave a marriage are just running away from something,and it will crop up again with the new person.

Answer 9

Won't work.

Answer 10

There never are any assurances or guarantees in life. And to come here and ask a question of this nature is asinine. That's almost like asking "I know I'm going to die. Can you tell me when?"

So it seems to me that there are several issues at hand here and it'll be up to you...or whomever you're referring to...to decide for themselves what to do. If it doesn't work out...well...guess you've gotten the answer you were looking for.

Answer 11

In this whole freaking mess, its those innocent kids I feel sorry for.

Answer 12

It wont last.. Once they both figure out the grass was the same color on this side of the fence... they will just cheat again.. Talk about trust issues..

Answer 13

The two of you are going to get together knowing that you both have cheated on your spouses and you are going to trust each other...LMAO. Yes... I can see that morals are right at the top of your list when you're looking for a partner. One of you will eventually stray. You will never be able to look one another in the eye and say " I TRUST YOU 100% ". When one of you is out of sight of the other for longer than expected you will wonder and question what they were doing. Without trust.... you have nothing!!

Answer 14

reality check .... and with kids involved is tough...I can only imagine as  I do not have any kids and making a relationship work is hard work...if your both unhappy try it BUT only if you do not want your current partners even if you end up single.... you can't go back to how it was before wth your spouse once you leave (especially if you leave your kids)

Hope it works :)

Answer 15

Syphilitic whores!

Answer 16

When the s*x cools off this couple will be finished

Answer 17

The 2 individuals deserve each other. Most people who cheat will do it again so then they can worry about if the other one is cheating again. I say go ahead and move on. Stay away from the people whose lives you ruined with the affair because you're totally worthless to them.  

Answer 18

any and all affairs are wrong and usually will not work! What goes around comes around,if the person cheated on their spouse to be with another they will cheat on that one to some day!

Answer 19

never experienced that, and dont know anyone in person

but, it is a relation based on cheating (no matter what nice label you will give it) from both sides

it does not have strong chance to survive

i see it, like a trust deal done between two mafia leaders

Answer 20

definitely an irrational decision based on lust.  i think your marriage will last as long as your affair - then you both will find someone else to cheat with and live a happy live in cheater-ville.

good luck.

Answer 21

No chance at survival. If you have ever read a book or seen a Dr. Phil show on this topic you would see that they have about a 5% chance of making it. You wanted the fantasy and once the fantasy is over and turns into reality then the fun will be gone.

Yes, my mom left my dad. She ended up getting another divorce. She is still single at 61.

You have to be happy with yourself. Sounds like neither of you are happy in your own skin so you look to others to fill your void.