Talking dirty... Brain glitch?

Question

My fiance talks dirty to me, and I thoroughly love it. However, every time he tries to get me to do the same, I all but literally choke. I *want* to be able to do this, but it feels like my throat literally closes up at the very thought, and it becomes almost impossible to say *anything*, dirty or not!

For the record, my parents were both incredibly uptight on the subject of s*x and all things thereof, and a discussion of it even in clinical terms was a near impossibility. I sidestepped them somewhat, by learning as an adult that I could *do* such things, but it seems that their legacy remains in the fact I can't actually talk about them. Or, rather, talk about myself wanting to do such things.

I'm almost hopelessly frustrated at this point, and have actually ended up in tears because I try so hard to get past this mental block and can't seem to find a way.

Answer 1

Uh......You want us to teach you how to talk dirty??? On the computer??? On Yahoo Answers??? I think there's a rule against that. But maybe just take some more lessons from the boyfriend, he seems to have a pretty good grip on that. And remember, just because Mom and Dad didn't do it, doesn't mean that you can't do it. (maybe mom and dad did do it) No one really knows what goes on behind closed doors) Good Luck with your relationship.

Answer 2

well he is your fiance, u two must have s*x. so just tell him what u would do to him during s*x

for talking dirty, u dont have to say those dirty words just tell him "i want to kiss u" in a really really s**y way, he would be very very happy

as far as i know when u are sharing intimate moment with him, its ur special moment, forget about ur parents and try to relax let ur "s**y" nature take control

Answer 3

try to just calmly sit down and discuss the subject in length with him outside bed, geting used to it to the point where you are relaxed about it should help overcome it

knowing and actualy being comfortable talking about it is two different things, you should be comfortable enough with him to even tell him how it makes you feel and discuss those feelings

when you are that comfortable with the person you love then your bond is such a strong one respect and trust wise there aint nothing you cant solve through talking about it ;)

Answer 4

I know how you feel, mine does the same.  I try to think of something to say but all that comes out is "uh huh" and "yeah".  I really don't know how to get over this, and I feel like you just have to think about it.  Think of something to say before you start having s*x, and then when you do say it.  Just think of it as memorizing.  Just think of something new to say every week or something.

Hope this helps

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