Tartan Trousers - Opinions Please.?

Question

My fiancee is wearing a kilt of his own tartan to get married, we have to get it made especially and he will be the only one wearing THAT tartan. Which I find really nice. Everyone else will be wearing a different tartan which he will also choose (practically everyone is wearing a kilt, even some of the guests). The only person not wearing a kilt will be his dad who opted for a suit. Now he has been 'told' he is wearing tartan trousers, the same tartan the groom will be wearing, and his mother wants a snipet for her corsage and i'm sure the others will want a piece too. Am i being selfish in thinking that's wrong and too much tartan ?? I had it in my head that the groom would be the only one wearing that tartan and we would get a little left over material and use it during the wedding for the hand tied blessing, as in i'm marrying you taking your name and we are bonded by your tartan (cheesy i know!) now i feel like it is not that special to us and can't use my original idea as everyone will have the tartan somewhere on their outfits and it will look stupid !!

Please help as i am going crazy.

Answer 1

Tartan trousers? So, they will look like Skidz (those 80's plaid pants)?

I do not think that that is the intended way to wear the tartan anyways.

I can see how you want your FH to be different, but, doesn't the tartan go with the family (as in each family has it's own)? So, what tartan do you want his father to wear? Shouldn't he be able to wear his family's as well? Maybe you could add something different to your FH's or somehow have it be a different cut.

EDIT: What about some type of compromise, then? Since he wants to wear pants, ask him to wear a normal suit & then let him wear their tartan as a sash. This way, your FH will be the only one wearing the tartan as a kilt, but, you are still respecting the fact that your FFIL wants to still wear his tartan.

Answer 2

Your father in Law should wear it. It's his Clan tartan after all. Tartan 'Trews' are still worn by some of the Scottish Regiments and look great. I think it is lovely that they are honouring the significance of your marriage in this way.

There's nothing wrong with having a very specific 'feel' to your wedding. At mine all the men were wearing Regimental Blues and swords. It made it pretty special and I suspect your sea of tartan will feel the same.

Answer 3

you're right .... tartan trousers sounds disasterous  

Answer 4

I understand why you are concerned about people wearing too much tartan during the wedding and reception, but I also really like the idea that everyone is supporting you and your fiance by getting into wearing the tartan colors, etc.

Plaid/tartan trousers are a bit tacky, but I still think it is great that everyone is getting behind the idea and embracing it.

I like the idea of the FIL wearing just a tartanish kind of sash or something with his suit, but I still like the idea of the trousers too - but then I am one of those people who can embrace tacky and go with it when it is in good fun.

I think that letting the FIL wear the trousers won't take anything away from the wedding at all, I would personally just go with it.

Answer 5

You're not being unreasonable - it's your day (both of you).  You shouldn't be bullied into anything that you don't want to do.

Besides - Tartan Trousers ?!?!?!  Is it 1979?

Don't want to sound cruel but they are ridiculous looking and not for true Scotsmen.

Answer 6

Tartan trousers?  Yeesh.  Why can't he wear a kilt?  Guys look terrific in kilts.

That said, no it's not too much tartan.  Think about it -- if you were at a Scottish or Irish wedding, not only would your husband wear his tartan, but also his brothers, their father, and grandfather.  It links them together.  Don't worry about it. He and his Dad will look great together in their pictures.

Here is another solution -- see if his clan has a formal tartan and a hunting tartan.  My friend wore one of his clan's tartans for his own wedding; his father wore the other.  The groom's kilt was dramatic and dark; the father's was earth tones. It looked very cool.

As for the snippets -- again, don't worry about it.  There are only going to be a few instances during the wedding where the parents and bridal party are going to be standing together.  Just don't put a tartan runner on every table and a tartan bow on every chair.

Answer 7

I think you are being unreasonable. I understand you are upset that there is going to be a lot more color at your wedding than you anticipated. You are wedding the family...they are a clan...and you will be too....unless you blow it.

Your future father in law wants to wear his colors at his son's wedding. His son wants to wear them too...and mother and the rest of the clan. You can't stop this and shouldn't. FIL would probably wear a kilt if it wasn't that he is ashamed of his legs.

I did look at the site referenced below and didn't find any trousers. They had other interesting items you might persuade him to wear though. One was a vest.

One question that bothers me is why the wedding party is wearing different tartans? Is it just to match the look of the groom or are they members of a different clan...or no clan.  That may be where you can cut the color.

Actually I think it is wonderful that everyone is involved in the wedding and that they all want to be a part of it. If  men wearing   kilts doesn't look stupid to you I don't know why too much tartan does. You should also incorporate some of the tartan..a sash hanging from your bouquet or some tucked into your flowers. It's going to be a wonderful wedding...it's not going to look stupid...this is who these people are and you have accepted to be part of it through marriage. Enjoy it.  

Answer 8

i think the trousers are a bit much, but it's his family's tartan, so there's no harm in the mom having a little in her corsage or the dad having a little too. just not trousers.