Teacher wants to put my kindergarten child into special ed i disagree what do you think?

Question

MY SON IS VERY QUIET AND HAS A SPEECH PROBLEM HIS TEACHER WANTS TO PUT HIM IN SPECIAL ED AND SPEECH THERAPY I AGREE WITH THE SPEECH THERAPY BUT HES A VERY SMART BOY HE CAN DO THE SAME WORK AS THE OTHER STUDENTS HE JUST REFUSES TO SOCIALIZE WITH THE OTHER STUDENTS I FEEL THAT THEY WANT TO PUT HIM IN SPECIAL ED CAUSE THEY DONT WANT TO TRY TO REACH HIM AM I RIGHT IN REFUSING TO LET THEM PUT HIM IN SPECIAL ED OR AM I HURTING HIM BY KEEPING HIM IN THE REGULAR CLASS ROOM PLEASE GIVE ME HELP

Answer 1

You are wrong. They are trying to reach him. It is you and your mind set that is unreachable. You are denying him one on one help with teachers who go to school to get their Masters in Special Education and help children such as your son. Teachers in normal classrooms do not take the classes to teach Special Ed classes. My sister is one of the best in Oklahoma in her field. I also nanny for 2 children who one of the children has Asperger's which is a type of autism. He is not retarded, but he does have special needs in being taught. Please do not deny your child to be taught this way. I have read other questions from parents about trying to get help for their children and have not been successful because of the red tape that is involved. You sound as if you are being given a chance of a lifetime for your son to help him excel in school as his curriculum will be for his level of learning and will be taught to him one on one which is something he will not get in the mainstream classroom.

Answer 2

You're better off spending a just a little time and teaching him yourself, ESPECIALLY AT THAT AGE.

When I started making my own lasagna, I was astounded at how much better it turned out than having others do it, who didn't care about the details or special touches.

I would recommend not posting in caps, though, people can get annoyed by it.

Answer 3

I think you should follow his teacher's lead. You didn't post many of her reasons for recommending he be looked at.

I have 2 children. Both extremely intelligent, both can keep up with the work given to them, both are ahead of their peers in many areas. Both have autism, and it would be an injustice to refuse ANY services offered by the school. I'm not saying your child has autism, but you should never argue with getting a little extra help. They probably want to leave him in a regular class, and send him out for some subjects. With speech, he may also get a social skills group.

The goal of special education is to work on the areas where he's lacking, and try to get him  out. He's young, put him in special, accept all the help they're looking to give him, and maybe in a few years he'll be mainstreamed. Or, they could pick up on serious learning issues now. You don't want to wait until he's falling behind to get help. His teacher is already experiencing problems with him, or is anticipating worse problems in future years. Kindergarten in many areas is not required, but it is a good place to start picking up problems the child may have.

Answer 4

do they want to have him classified as in special ed, or do they want to put him in a seperate special ed class? theres is a big difference. He can stay in the class he is in and still be put into special ed. that way he can be given services like speech therapy or resource room or counseling, or extended time and/or seperate location on tests ( even though i do not know whether or not that is given to kindergardeners but that may help him when he gets older). you really cant recieve any of these serevices (except for maybe counsling in some situations,) without being classified as being in special education.  for example in 3rd grade I was evaluated for special educationand tested for problems to see what was wrong I had ADD (not ADHD)  I was put in special ed but i still remained in the same class wich happened to be the top non AP class in the grade. ( there was one higher but that was the advanced  placement or AP class)

Since i was classified as special education I recieved services. I got counsling, and seperate location on exams.   It really helps to be in special ed and i reccomend you get him evaluated.

Answer 5

thats so pathetic on the teachers part

Answer 6

I think that you should ask his teacher if you could give the special ed class a "three week trial". Try it out, and see if your son acts any differently in the special ed class. If he reacts badly, take him out, but if he seems to enjoy it, or even acts better, it means that he enjoys it, and the 'work' is more his level.

Personaly, I remember when I was in Pre1A and 1-4 grades. I had trouble with the work, and so I was ashamed to play/talk with my classmates.

Maybe your son has the capability to be very social, but is afraid to.

Also, teachers for that age are supposed to know what children with developing learning problems act.

Your son may not like the class at first, but take it from someone who knows, no matter how much he doesn't like it, he knows that it's good for him, but doesn't want to admit it to you, because that would 'make mom right again'.(I also have ADD, but I take medication. I would never admit it to my mom, but I know that it helps me.)

Answer 7

i was also like that my mother told me and i was'nt put into any therapy something. and now i love to socialize with people because my parents helped me and i disagree with the teacher . people should just help chidren not put them to waste in that special something...

Answer 8

As a mother that fought to ensure her child was mainstreamed...don't allow for him to go into special ed. Speech issues is not reson enough for him to be there. He will actually go backwards not forwards. Every adult who has a disablity has told me not to put my son in special ed. He has to learn how to deal with the real world..special ed is a very safe environment. And perhaps he can teach the kids in his class a thing or two about differences and compassion.

As for him being quiet: I remember the last line in a movie called Birdy. This guy had been silent for ages. When asked why he didn't say anything his response was, "I didn't have anything to say." ;) As long as he is communicating with you and family that is what is important. As for not socializing with the kids in his class...maybe they are little pukes and he just has good taste. Also because he probably listens more than he speaks...have you had him tested to see if he is gifted? Don't be surprised if he is.

Answer 9

This is gonna be tough but your child shows some signs of being autistic.

Just make sure of why you make any decisions.  It is very easy to make a bad decision for a young child because the parent refuses to believe or accept that their child has some special challenges.

With that said, think it over and go with your gut feeling.  The teacher may be a very good judge, dedicated to the welfare of your child.  The teacher could also be just phoning it in and since your child takes more time and effort than most of the others the best thing for the teacher is to get the child out of the class as much as possible.

Take your child to a doctor and get opinions.  Talk to the teacher, get to know him/her.  Be open minded, firm in your beliefs and make a decision as soon as possible.  And don't be afraid to change directions.

Answer 10

DON'T LET THEM DO THAT. THEY WILL NOT TEACH HIM IN A SPECIAL CLASS. LET HIMLEARN WITH THE REST  OF HIS CLASS

Answer 11

I would definitely accept the speech therapy because speech problems are embarrassing for kids and they usually can be treated when a child is young.

I don't think that the school is trying to put your child in special education because they don't want to try and reach him. Almost every teacher I have ever known, with very few exceptions, have always acted in what they consider the best interests of the child. They must have some concerns.

You have to remember that you are in the driver's seat when it comes to special education services. You can pretty much tell them the amount of service you want your child ro receive. There is an option for education in the regular classroom with resource services, which means either just special consultation with the general education teacher or pull out for specific subjects.

There are other benefits to receiving special education services for your child. One of the things that done is that the team recommends accommodations to the learning environment, which might benefit a quiet kid. Also, the child can take state tests in a smaller group and get more time. Finally, they are eligible for free counseling.

If I were you, I would accept the offered services and request that your child be maintained in the general education classes with consultation only. This way, if things get harder for your child, you don't have to go through the whole referral process again. You can pull your child out of special ed at ANY time.

Answer 12

The good thing is that you as aparent have the right to document and take part in his IEP. They can not just move your child. I would really have him assessed by a developmental pediatrician. Have they ruled out PDD? Are you in Private or Public School? He could possibly need learning support and assistive support in the mainstream classroom. Have they given your child social skills classes by a qualified instructor. You should look up social skills therapy programs in your area and request the district pay for your child to go to a social skills program. He should have had a complete school assesment before they even discuss this with you. Please get everything in writing and buy one of those phone call log books. You should look at the website wrightslaw they will help you. I don't know what your money situation is like but I would consider getting an attorney or an advocate.

Answer 13

If the teacher recommends it there is probably a reason for it.  If you don't agree with the decision, try enrolling your son in a different school.  They might be a little more patient with him.  The teacher at your son's school can't really just focus on your son with 20 other kids in the class, it's not fair for the other student and parents.  Putting your son in special ed will be a benefit to him until he picks up the pace.  They put some kids in ESL for the same reason.  I was in ESL for Kindergarten and returned to a regular classroom in Grade 1.  

I know it feels like an insult when special ed is recommended but don't let your emotions and wants get in the way of what your child currently needs.

good luck!

Answer 14

I don't think it's because they don't want to try to reach your son, only that in a class of 25-30 students, the teacher cannot dedicate as much time to your child as he needs. Perhaps he would be better served in special ed. In any case, why don't you get a second opinion? I'm sure there's a specialist you can see, and who can advise you on what's best for him!

Answer 15

I assume you must be very angry, or else you wouldn't be using caps lock.  Go to a doctor, see what he/she thinks.

Answer 16

Mainline him he come around as socializing in kindergarten a little early to segregate him.. he has to developed friend.. id' get second opinion form a Doctor regard behavior as back-up to this Teacher doesn't sound trained in development field!! if not I'd question her on it a lawyer might help in this!!

prejudges?? are wrong!!!

Answer 17

Perhaps the reason your son is quiet, and doesn't socialize well is because he is self-conscious about his speech problem. My son was similar when in the early grades. I chose to put him into a special ed class and he is now one of the most confident children! He has also benefitted from the teachers immensely. I know as a parent it is really difficult to make a decision like this. The fact is, for me I really tried to convince myself, and everybody else that my son was fine and could do it, was just choosing not to. It turned out not to be the case. Not saying that is what is going on with you though. Good Luck. I am sure you will make the decision that is right for your son.

Answer 18

As long as you are comfortable with his progress stay with what you want. You can disagree, and you know him best. You are  his greatest advocate - mom

Answer 19

i was in special ed in kindergarten....graduated at 17.  I'm not exactly sure why i was put there, but i can  still remember i breezed the workbook they gave us within the first week.

It may have been because i had a hard time socializing.

(now i got something to ask my mom)  :-)      put him in   is my suggestion, kids aren't so critical at that age if that is your concern, and i'm sure hes not dumb.

Answer 20

He can have speech w/o being in special ed.

Now, why do they say he belongs in SpEd- just for being qu iet? That's a lousy reason and I would fight it if I were you.

On the other hand, Can he do the kindergarden SKILLS? Ask the teacher to show you the testing she has done which proves he can't do them (if that's what she's saying)

Check you state's standards or

http://content.scholastic.com/browse/art...

If she can't "prove" he is behind, then don't agree. If he is behind then let him have the extra help, tutor him yourself or look for a more nuturing school

Answer 21

If he can keep up with the work, don't put him in special ed.  I really believe teachers make recommendations such as this based mostly good intentions.  The bottom line is however, that you have input on this decision as well and if he doing well in a regular class there is no reason to move him.  If he is having trouble with the work, but you don't necessarily trust the teachers opinion then go to a doctor and him evaluated for a learning disability.  At that point you may decide that special ed is an option worth considering.

Answer 22

Has your school tested him? Do they have I.Q. scores on him. I don't know what state u live in, but in PA we have a law that says the least restricted environment.The least restricted environment would keep him in the regular classroom with adaptions if he is in need of Special Ed. Speech does not really qualify him for special ed. A team (including you) decides if your child needs special education. A child can receive speech without being in special education. If your son isn't socializing with the other students, where does she feel he would better benefit in special classes. It is still early in the school year. What month was your son born is he a young kindergarten age, or one of the older ones. Boys don't mature as fast as girls. There is a lot of factors to weigh out here. I hope this helped.

Answer 23

If you qualify for speech therapy you qualify for special education services. I assume you are protesting placement in a self-contained classroom not that he qualifies for special education. Secondly it is not the teacher's decision. In order to qualify for any special education services including speech therapy your child must be assessed by the school team which will usually involve a speech therapist and a psychologist at the minimum if these are your child's need areas. If you agree your child has needs then request that an assessment be done immediately and they will look at his speech and language needs as well as academic, social etc. Remember it is your son's right to be education in the least restrictive environment possible. So special education for him may be speech therapy and some kind of push in support during free time and/ or recess to help facilitate social skills etc. AT this age socializing with peers is almost more important than any academic work, but does not mean your child needs a special classroom, necessarily. Welcome to the large complicated world of IEPS and special services. Check out www.wrightslaw.com for lots of information on your rights and services. But there are a lot of options available, depending on your district, that can help your son be successful and do well and get services that may not involve him being put in a separate classroom. Special education does not always mean a separate classroom. So don't' panic. Be grateful the teacher has recommended the assessment. Cooperate to help them gather all the information. Be cautious and evaluate their findings against your own knowledge about your child. Make sure they offer you services to meet all his needs, speech and socialization, and don't panic. Your son is young and getting good service and advice now will help so your child may not need services for very long.

Answer 24

It is truly hard when you are a parent and you are being told that your child needs additional help. I have been there twice so, I know where you are coming from.

I have two beautiful and very intelligent daughters who have BOTH been put back a grade. They just didn't make the cut for the 1st grade so, they were put back into preschool.

Being put back or being put into a special class does not mean that your child is not intelligent. There are so many other factors in getting a proper education besides intelligence. One of those is properly socializing.

My oldest daughter had the same problem with socializing. At first, I didn't think it was a big deal. I thought she was taking after me because I am not much of a people person myself. But, it can cause a lot of problems in school and of course later in life when your child goes into the work force.

By taking that one year to learn social skills, she really came out of her shell. In general, she is a much happier and prepared child. She can NOW focus on her education which she is excelling at.

My youngest daughter has a problem with emotional immaturity. I'm hoping with the additional year she is getting at school she will be able to work out her problems so, she too can focus on her education.

In conclusion, I would have to say that you should never take additional help as a personal offense even though it is hard not to do so. Additional help can only do one thing which is help.

Most teachers have been in the business for years and they tend to know when a child needs that extra push. So, you could always just try it. Let them put him in a special education class and see how it goes. If you don't see an improvement then you can ask for him to be put back in his normal class.

Extra help is not going to hurt him. You might even be pleasantly surprised like I was. And remember, it is not always about intelligence. Some people need alternative methods for learning things or have problems in other fields that need to be addressed.

Good luck!

Answer 25

i think you should do what you think is right.  jeez the kids only what, 4?  5?  kindergarten?  jeez-all kids develop differently.  maybe he's just a slow starter, and putting him in special ed will be the worst thing that ever happened to him in his life.  kids are like cars.  they all start, you just have to find the right key to start the right car.  1 key doesn't start all cars.  look for the key to your kids starter.  you will find it