Teen Girl Problem!!! Help w/serious answers PLZ!!!?

Question

ok................its like i am over weight and i need/want a boyfriend. alot of my friends are skinny and cute and stuff with a boyfriend but i am stuff all alone. my mom says i should not be worried bout boys at da age of 13 but she doesnt know.....this is the age where u are a complete standout with out a boyfriend! my love life sucks and my question to u all is what can i do besides lose weight to get a boyfriend. some boys tell me that i am cute and stuff but i mean its like i dont feel cute! :( i just want and need a boyfriend asap!! and life seems as to be gettin worse and worse over the summer! HELP PLEASE

Answer 1

my l;ove life sucks? ur only 13 u shouldnt be having a love life yet. and u dont need a boy friend to fit in. im not like this old person im around ur age im 16 and i dont have a bf and i dont feel like im singled out because i dont have one? all i got to ay is ur way to desperate.

Answer 2

Oh goodness.

Don't be so desperate, first of all. Being desperate only leads to trouble, and unhappiness. You need to think more of yourself before you get a boyfriend. With a low self esteem, there is no telling what you will get yourself into with a boy. Most of your friends probably don't really have a boyfriend anyway. They have to get their moms to drop them off at the movies or mall.. yeah, that's romantic, huh =)

No, you don't NEED a boyfriend! You just want one because everyone else has one. It's not that big of a deal.. I know it seems that way, but it's not. You will look back on this and laugh in a few years. Your "love life" doesn't suck, because you don't have a love life.. and neither do 3/4 of your friends, I promise! There's actually no such thing as a "love life" for thirteen year olds.. because 13 yr. olds are still kids.  You're only 13!! Don't rush! Boys are too immature for relationships in middle school.. most of them are still too immature in high school!

Don't stress over it. Enjoy being 13! Don't go to extremes for a dumb boy, it's not worth it!! If you want to change something about yourself, do it for you.... and no one else. Feel better about yourself!

Answer 3

You do not need a boyfriend! I get that you think that everybody has one, but not everyone does! If you really want to have a boyfriend, then just believe in yourself, and try to keep up a high confidence. If you just put yourself out there you should be able to get a boyfriend

Answer 4

If you don't think you're cute even if someone tells you you are, then you really need to gain some self confidence. A girl who knows that she has great qualities and can walk into a room full of confidence is very attractive. Also, sometimes its easier to get a boyfriend who doesn't go to your school. See if you know someone out side of your school that could hook you up.

Answer 5

Ok, usually if you cant feel cute, you cant act it. Guys will like you if your confiedent and dont give a c**p about what they think of you, even if on the inside you do, you cant let it show.

Answer 6

I think that if you feel you re ready for a boyfriend then no one on here is going to be able to change your mind by telling you "you don't need one"

I think you should make yourself feel happier first though because people will hook onto your emotions and either be intrigued or repelled. I think at the moment where you are not happy with yourself you are not going to let your true personality shine out.

So once you ahve done that start going out with your friends and their boyfriends... their boyfriends are bound to have single friends and if you spend enough time together then the person will see how great you are and want to spend more time with you...

Also just enjoy yourself when you are around anyone it makes life so much better and everyone will want to be you or be with you....

And the final thing dont change who you are for a boy your time will come to find the right one but until then FLIRT LIKE MAD!!! hahaha

xxxxxxx

Answer 7

First of all, no boy is going to like your complete lack of self-esteem.

Second, I know it's hard being thirteen and wanting to fit in, I'm still dieting myself. The thing that works for me is belly dancing and yoga classes. But really, what's the big rush? You're still young, enjoy it.

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Answer 8

I understand I too used to be at the same stage in your life. I think you should wait until you find your true love and believe me i am 18 and i still haven't found mine. Be strong and be proud of who you are. Never give up and go after your true dreams in life and you will never fail. You will be ahead of everyone your age.

Answer 9

being skinny is not going to get you a boyfriend either. Trust me. I'm a dancer and around 130 pounds. I just turned 18 and I've only had like 1 boyfriend my entire life and I didn't even start dating him until we were 16, and we only lasted about 3 months.

Having a boyfriend isn't all that it's cracked up to be. I know that right now you feel like the loner without one, but your teenage years are all about figuring out who you are. Once you realize what it is that makes you happy and you begin to accept yourself for who you are, then boys will begin to notice you more.

Really, don't let the fact that you don't have a boyfriend ruin your summer. You still have lots of time to spend chasing boys. Just have fun being you!

Answer 10

Buy some nice clothes.. a few cute tops.. maybe a dress if you like them? Maybe get a different hair cut, that can always help.  

Also, go out jogging, or swimming.. just doing active things can really make a difference in your self esteem.  And just start talking to some boys.. be yourself.. in no time you should be able to find a nice guy :).

Answer 11

the key is confidence. i know, i know thats so cliche but honestly if you go right up to a guy and look him in the eye most guys think that hot. but it is hard when your bigger so just watch what you eat and i know this sounds bad but skipping meals always helps .

and from the girl that actually has this account- not her verry naive best friend. eat! that's completely idiotic not to! eating more food is better.. as long as it's in moderation. just work out, and don't worry unless your doctor tells you that you should be worried. and i mean, i'm your age, and i haven't had a boyfriend in over a year. but i'm perfectly okay with that, since all it does is waste time in this young age when grades are so important. (yeah, i'm a complete nerd, i know =]

the guys are all so short at this age anyway. imean, it's like your looking at a four year old. tehe. =]

Answer 12

i am so with you on that. i am kinda overweight too and most of my friends are skinny and pretty, and have boyfriends. i feel so left out. but ive been trying to lose weight and i have just been trying to make myself prettier.