Teen blackmailing mother?

Question

I have a 14 year old nephew that is blackmailing his mother over what she did when she was on drugs. (She's suppose to be clean now.) He uses her guilt and shame, and makes her give him cigarettes. He is also very disrespectful and picks on his 6 year old sister. My step sister is also afraid of him b/c of his size. (He's not that big.)

Any suggestions on how to control him? And yes I do agree that she needs to get a spine.

Answer 1

she needs to stop it or its all over.  

Answer 2

i would call social services

Answer 3

A child should not have control over the parent.  She needs to set him down and explain to him that she is a person also, and that all people make mistakes.  She is sorry for what she did while on drugs, but she is better now.  He needs to accept the past as she has.  She may be sorry for what she has done, but she cannot change it.  He cannot blackmail her for something she openly admits.  Heck, she could start speaking out in her community, if she tells her story to other people, and makes it common knowledge that she did what she did, he cannot blackmail her.  He is the child, she is the adult.

Answer 4

Everyone just needs to face the FACTS about this "Mother" she is Lazy and is just taking the EASY way out, she doesn't CARE enough to EARN this BOYS RESPECT and he's not about to give it to her...he knows what she is ALL ABOUT...LAZY SELF-CENTERED "PARENTING", she gives him Cigarettes, She is AFRAID of him? She's NOT afraid of him,that's just an excuse  NOT to have to put any EFFORT into changing things the way a TRUE and LOVING PARENT would...he will end up in the Youth Authority where he will begin his cycle of complete delinquency and on from there to Jail and/or Prison...I have seen it a million times...and it is her fault! She needs to STEP-UP and be a MOM!!! POOR KID!!! She doesn't deserve to be his mother nor anyone else's for that matter.

BTW...she is NOT clean...how do you think he is blackmailing her?

Answer 5

well, i know this might sound bad, but if it was me, i would find something i could blackmail him about

Answer 6

She needs to quit doing drugs and quit giving her son cigarettes. She needs to be the parent. He needs some discipline.

Answer 7

i would call the cops they'd probably take him to some kind of camp or something they won't like hurt him or anything they'd just ya no help him to straighten out is stuff

                              

                                hope i helped!!!!!

Answer 8

she needs to give him a good old fashioned beating if ya ask me

Answer 9

The only advice I can offer is that she needs to take control of the situation.  She is doing something illegal by supplying him with cigarettes, so that needs to stop NOW.  If he has blackmail on her, then fine, let him have it.  I doubt he'd seriously turn it in when she stops doing what he wants.  Even if he did, after a little investigation, they'd figure out what was going on and HE'D be in trouble.  She just needs to put her foot down, its as simple as that.

Answer 10

Your sister is the adult and needs to take control of what your kid is doing. She could start by taking away what he likes to do; computer/tv/friends/video games. If that doesn't work I would suggest seeing someone.