Teen depression?

Question

i am almost 17 years old and in year 11 i do not want to continue with school as i cant concentrate and feel dumb most of the time because i do not understand or remember the work my dad is pressuring me to continue school to become a nurse and i want to but i feel there is other ways of doing it (im acceling in aged care at tafe) i have a part time job and am very happy with my friends & my job, wen im at school or at home i feel depressed most of the time . today i did a test on the internet andit saidthere is a high chance i have depression i dont want my family or friends to find out but i feel i need help what should i do?

Answer 1

I've been there.

I know you don't want anyone to find out, but you have to. They can help you find someone to talk to and maybe even get the whole family someone to talk to (if needed). It will bring you closer together. Don't feel ashamed to be depressed.

My mom finally found out I was, got me someone to talk to and now I'm so happy, I don't think I've ever been this happy.

I'm going to tell you something else as well. It will seem pointless when you first start talking to someone. But in the end it isn't believe me.

Answer 2

I would try to find out why i cant concentrate at school, what am i thinking about when i am there, am i getting enough sleep, how do my friends deal with depression and how can they concentrate and i cant? then i would try differetn things to see if they fix the concentration, once you fix that you will no longer feel dumb. You will feel good about yourself and therefore not be depressed anymore and at the same time your dad may not pressure you because you are doing good in school. If your dad is the only thing that you can think of thats making you maybe try too hard in school and stresing you out to the point that you cant concentrate i would talk to him and let him know that you know that he wants you to do well in life and that he wants to push and support you but hes pushing too hard then tell him how you feel dumb because you cant concentrate.

About dropping out.... I wouldnt do it. You already put 12 years into a 13 year program, why not just stick it out? you already did more than 95% of it already? It just doesnt add up to me. Also you have to consider that you will have to study on your own or go to school to take your G.E.D. to get into a college to start nursing, etc. When you finish high school you will have a better chance at getting scholarships, grants and financial aid, having a HS diploma also helps with jobs. You are young and will not be working for this same company forever so when you go searching for another job the employer will most definately prefer a person with HS diplomia vs a GED..because the employer wants someone who will stick with them, someone that can take the heat so to say compared to someone who got their GED took the EASY road out. This is the way employers look at it.  If you a cant get through this obsticle then you will never make it in college, think about it. college is much harder. Lots of jobs are starting to require an A.A degree. If you have at least your A.A degree you WILL make more than the person without it.

I was the only one of 4 who finished HS in my family. I am going to college and going on to be an RN (go figure). Nurses have good pay (starting at least 53,000/yr) and great benefits. The more degrees you have in nursing and more experience the more money you will make. Please think of HS as the training course and college as the real war, you have to make it through training to get to the real thing.

First i wanted to be a Dr. but was thinking that i also wanted to have a life and family and that dr's whole lives are their jobs and i didnt want that for myself, then i thought about nursing so i decided on that.

Please talk to your dad, I remember when I was in HS i blew up on my mother because she was doing the same pushing. Finally i said "your pushing me to not wanting to be a nurse/dr at all" she backed off and i went about my business and finished school, im now starting on my 2nd yr of my AA then i start the nursing program.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

you should tell them because if you dont yourll alwayz feel depreesed and what ever makes you happy do it!! your not living 4 your dad your living 4 yu!!

Answer 4

well teenage depression is very very common..trust me i have been there.. and because of that i spent every wednesday going to see a psychologist.. who i think didnt know what she was talking about..

i know its hard.. and i know it seems like everyone around you arent listening..or if they are they are just answering you to try and  get you to shut up.

if it is the common teenage depression that alot of teens get then things will pass.. most  likely when getting out of highschool..but if you feel that you need to talk to someone.. then you have to tell Family..it costs money to be able to talk to someone depending where your from.

just remember- Life is a giant obstacle..and there are gonna be many problems thrown your way in life..dont give up.

goodluck..

Answer 5

I guess you are in Australia Iam in Vic, depression is a hard one to cure it has to be up to you. I did aged care last year and loved it, have you done placement yet. It sounds that you have a busy life doing year 11 and 12 is extremely hard and parents don't understand unless they have been there at the school which I did in 2001 at the age of 43 yes I am old and you are working to. Yes there are other ways to become a nurse you can do it through tafe or if lucky enough to get a job with aged care the employer will some times help you to do it.

Your father is only trying to do what he thinks is best for you which is what I did with my daughters. Both went to uni the oldest lastest 18 mths before she chucked it in and the 2nd one is repeating her 2nd year of nursing she actually wanted to go and will finish at div 2 she is not going to finish her 3rd year next year she had depression last year.

You need to speak to someone about how you are feeling before your depression worsens act now not later. It might be that you are feeling to much pressure from your dad. Talk to him tell him how you feel let him know that there are other ways to get into nursing.

Sounds like you need more time with your friends, they can be more of a help than you think, but please don't turn to grog or drugs its not the way to go. Speak to someone.

good luck  pp

Answer 6

For depression, there are two choices.

Choice 1 - Talk a parent, counselor, or therapist.

Choice 2 - Accept that it is ok to be sad once in a while, but realize that life has its tough spots and that you can make it through them if you look forward and manage to see what beauty your life can create in the world.

Answer 7

Could you go and visit your school nurse and/or guidance counsellor and tell them whats going on? They may be able to support you and help you complete school while you're dealing with this depression.

Since you say that you are very happy with your friends, then maybe you should spend more time with your friends while at school? Even if they don't know about your depression, being around them would be good for you if you enjoy it.

I've dealth with teen depression for 3yrs and I dropped out of school because of it. I'm telling you, please don't drop out! It'll ruin your future and I have first hand experience to prove it. It'll make things a whole lot harder to achieve.

I know you said that you don't want your friends or parents to find out, but as you said, you feel you need help and maybe your parents will be able to help you. I know how you feel about telling your parents but I can tell you that once you've done it, it's like a huge burden gone from you and they are often less suprised and more supportive than you thought they would've been. Knowing parents, they probably know somethings up with you anyway.

If you don't want to speak to anyone at school about it, then speak to your GP. However, it's likely they'll need to notify your parents since you are under 18 but as I said, don't worry about your parents finding out. It can help.

In the mean time, here's a website all about teens and depression. It might be good for you to look at if you haven't already. http://www.teen-moods.net/

I hope things improve with you!

Answer 8

Okay, I know exactly how you feel because I was/still am dealing with depression but no matter what you have to have faith in God and I know this will sound crazy but it's true.

When you think you have no one to talk to, you do- God.

All the bad events in life are not God's doing, its satan, he will do anything in his power to turn the world upsidedown, the harder life seems, the more of a threat you are to satan so he will try to ruin things.

God is really the only thing you, yourself can truly trust.

Answer 9

okay i dont think i can help you much

but do what makes you feel happy

not what your dad wants you to do

my mums parents were the same, wanted her to become a nurse

she became one and hated it and soon gave it up

so it was all wasted, when she could've been studying something else

about the depression ?

im not sure

go to see a councillor or something

but if you were to do that i think people would have to know

good luck though

sorry i cant help more

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Answer 10

Oh sweetie, you are in a very difficult place. You are almost ready to leave school and find your future, but at the same time you are overwhelmed with the pressures your school and dad are placing on you now. Does your school have a nurse etc that you can speak with or refer you to someone. I think you need an advocate, someone who understands where you are at and can help you talk to your parents. Don't give up though, you are so close to finishing, it may seem like forever now, but it's worth it. Having your final grades will help you make independant choices in the future. I really wish you all the best :) If you really believe you have depression, please see a Doctor, there is help for you.

Answer 11

Yeh i think you could have depression although tbh a webiste cannot diagnose you.

You need to go to the doctors and be diagnosed. It might be that your just feeling a bit down at the moment.

I think you should carry on going to school. Its only 1 more year and you need to get your qualifications. You cant not go just because you dont want to. Maybe get some help from teachers and maybe get some friends round to cheer you up and stuff. If it is depression then you will get better.