Teen girl with 148 friends is now burned out on people...?

Question

I know a teen girl who has 148 friends. These are real friends, people she personally knows. Some of these people she has known since kindergarten. Some of them have moved - to California, Indianna, Texas, Florida, even Thiland - and she maintains the friendships. Some she met at school or civic events or church. Once the friendship starts, it doesn't end. The other day she counted all the friendships she's been maintaining and came up with at least 148 friends.

This is the problem - she's burned out on people. She doesn't want to continue to maintain so many friendships but she doesn't want to give any of them up either. She said that since she deals with so many people she can see things in people's behavior that other people don't notice. It annoys her when people she cares about make the same stupid mistakes over and over again.

What are some ways to help her get over being burned out on people?

Answer 1

Focus on her best friends. People she sees everyday. She has to loose contact with some of the old ones.

Answer 2

Firstly, congratulations to her on being able to maintain so many friendships. It's really a feat and she must be a really good friend.

She has to learn to let loose and not be too concerned with so many people. I think she cares too much and that's why she's getting burned out. Learn to loosen some friendship ties. Don't give up on the friendships but don't get too involved, especially in friendships that are just too far away. Just an occasional catching up would do fine for such friends. Closeness of friends should be in direct relation to the distance away they are.