Teen parents sometimes treated bad or looked down upon?!? anyone agree? OPINIONS plezz?

Question

just to make this clear from now i'm not trying to say that it's ok or fine to be a teen parent i'm just trying to put it out there that why do teens have to be so mis-treated sometimes because they have a baby i don't understand why other people who don't even know you give you such disgusted looks &stare ,people do make mistakes and it's kinda clear that teen birth percentage is going up sometimes the case is because of stupidity and not using protection and being careless but other times there is a reasoning behind it. AND trust me i understand from a parents view that it would be hard for your 15/16 or whatever aged child to say that their pregnant and for you to just stand there and say "oh that's ok it was a mistake" i doubt any of us would expect that but maybe sometimes reactions are taken out of porportion,i was first pregnant when i was 16 but lost the baby close to birth now i'm 18 and pregnant with twins &very grateful for it i do know that it won't be easy but i'm ready=)

Answer 1

Well I try not to be rude to their faces but I stongly disagree with premartial s*x(s*x before marriage). I am a strong Christian. Call me old-fashioned or whatever you want, but I'm only 13.

Answer 2

Many sources tell teenagers the risks of having unprotected sexual intercourse: the church says no, the parents say no, and the school says no. But many teens do have s*x, due to pressure or wanting to belong. When the teen's parents find out about it, they ask themselves how their child could be so irresponsible as to go and have s*x when everyone tells them not to, and to hide that from them, and to give herself up to someone before she is married, or the fact that premarital s*x is a sin. And they feel that they will have to support the baby and the teen, and all of their dreams for college or athletics are over because of the pregnancy.  And people in society think the same thing. It's more so with girls, who are called "s***s" if they have sexual intercourse, and it's obvious when they are pregnant. Also, look at most pregnant teens. They have their parents mad at them, their boyfriend has dumped them, and they live in either a shabby cockroach-infested apartment or on the streets. The baby is either screaming while the mother ignores it or in some foster home somewhere. This doesn't sound like an ideal future for the child. This is why I think society is against teen pregnancy. They just shouldn't happen.

Answer 3

I know what you mean i will be 16 when i have my little one....in my case i was on the pill and thought i was safe...me and my bf have been together for over a year and love each other very much. this was never a plan for us or anything like that BUT it happened and we are happy. Yes it was a mistake but it is one of the best mistakes ever. Yeah it wont be easy at all but i know we can do it. alot of adults just dont realize that some are mature enough to handle this. Im sorry for your loss but congrats on the new twins...i hope everything goes well for you...

♥

Answer 4

i agree

if someone sees a teen prgnant they atomatically say oh shes a s**t who couldnt keep her legs closed.people need to understand that teens are already under enough stress and they should not have any more because society should be grateful that they are taking responsibility for there actions and not out there aborting.

amen sister

Answer 5

I had my son when I was 19 - so was an "old" teen. Most people are shocked when they find out I have a kid, but they are more shocked to find out I am married and own my home and have a good job. Their opinion changes immediately. I think people have this stereotypical view of teenage parents they become quick to judge.

Answer 6

While I get that people, frown or even get angry about teen parents, I have to say that Tina's answer here is pretty disgusting.  Saying it's better for a teen mother to give her child/children up for adoption when she's perfectly capable of loving them just because there is no marriage or father is just insane.  would they say the same thing to someone who lost their husband due to illness?  Or divorced a husband who beat them or was an adulterer?  Would they say the same to a father who likewise lost his wife?  

I'm not anti-teen parenting so much as just anti-BAD parenting.  Being as young as a teenager makes it harder because you don't have some experiences in life that you could pass on to your child which would help you both.  Also, the younger you are, generally speaking you tend to be more selfish - because there's still so much you want to do and that can leave it's mark on a child who demands so much.  But love is the greatest and strongest saving grace gift anyone can give and so long as the child has that love from a parent, things will work out.  

I think it's tragic that so many babies are 'dragged up' by silly parents of all ages who don't even know to wrap the baby up warm in winter etc.  I hate that so many children are raised today with no respect and a real ignorance about life's values, including education, social responsiblity/decency and morals.  But inspite of my anger I still wholeheartedly believe that any parent - young or old - who loves their children will pass on a loving heart to that child and that will see them through life with the best foundation anyone could have.

Answer 7

I think it's a case of "Did the girl not know what she was doing?" when it comes to teen pregnancy. Unfortunately there is one way and one way only for a teen to get pregnant - s*x. And in this day and age there is no excuse for ignorance. It's possible that some kids still believe in the lies and myths that still abound about sexual activity - "You can't get pregnant on the first time", "I'm wearing a condom so you can't get pregnant", ad nauseum.

Kids are very sophisticated compared to kids when I grew up in the 1970's, are bombarded with graphic media descriptions of how to do it, thus they know exactly what they are doing.

Especially those who oops a guy.

Answer 8

i am a 15 year old girl and i have 2 kids.  i get frowned upon and people say things like "oh you are a little young to have a baby but i am sure it was just a mistake" and that i don't mind but when i am playing in the park with my son and another older mom says "s**t" that hurts.

It is hard and i think that teen moms are more gutsy because they have a baby and deal with the comments and just live with it.  I think teen parents work twice as hard because they are young.  I think personally i am a gutsy and ballsy person because of the things and comments people say and the actions they do.  i have learned to live with it.

So i think people need to lay off teen moms because i don't take any S h i t from anyone.

Answer 9

i guess its mainly because teens really cant support the baby. and its like they made a foolish mistake getting pregnant. so when people see teens walking around with a baby or a big belly they assume that the teen was stupid enough to get pregnant or that they wanted too. and teens usually cant give the baby an ideal future, but if they do its mostly because of their parents that helped them when they should be doing it theirself. people think if you made the adult choice to have s*x then you should be adult enough to take care of it by yourself. and when they cant they are looked down upon.

Answer 10

I think teen parents deserve a pat on the back for at least carrying the baby and not killing it through abortion, the way some cowardly people do

But i do think that if you really love your child, you would give it up for adoption.  The best thing for a child is 2 parents that can love it and afford it

Because they made the adult decision to have s*x,  I also believe they should make the adult decision to give their baby to someone who can care for it probably better than they can

Answer 11

I definitely think teens who find themselves pregnant or parents at such a young age face so many difficulties that they might not face later on in life.  My Mom was sixteen when she had me and it was very difficult for her.  It took her ten years to get her college degree because she could only go part time at nights.  Truth be told though I think my Mom did a great job and I'm sure there are other teens out there who do well as well.  I know many people look down on teen pregnancy and try to lecture you, however you have made your choice and it sounds like your happy with it.  That's all that matters is what you think and feel.  Other people will come and go, and unfortunately many will not understand or sympathize.  I believe you will do well, and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 12

well you know what mother nature/god didnt make humans ablet to reproduce at the age of 10 for no reason at all.

its only society that makes it  "looked down upon" for any girl with a period to have a baby.

i mean 4real. lol

if our bodies were not meant for havign children then we would not hit puberty so young then would we lol.

its only natural.