Teen seeking parental advice please?

Question

I am 17 and recently graduated high school. Instead of wasting my summer I chose to start college early. That's where I met this wonderful guy. After exchanging numbers and talking a lot I have become attracted to him. I recently found out he is 22, he already knew i was 17 and a virgin.

I've been to his house alone with him. I know bad on my part because my mother doesn't even know about him or that I go to his house. This is the first time I have seriously went behind my mothers back for a guy. He has not approached me sexually at all in the months that I have known him and he does not pressure me.

I feel extremely guilty for sneaking behind my mothers back and I want to tell her about Bryan. He wants to wait till I am 18 to have any other relationship than a friendship. Please don't get on me.I know by sneaking around I could have put myself in extreme danger. Dumb move on my point.

What is the best way to approach her about bryan?

Answer 1

I think you need to get your parents to invite him over for dinner.  Introduce him as a special friend who happens to be older.  

You can talk to your mother privately and let her know that the relationship has not grown beyond friendship and that he feels it would be wrong to let it go beyond friendship until you are 18.

As dumb as it was to sneak around, it is best to be honest about it now and hereafter.

Answer 2

Just say what you got to say.  She will either accept it or she won't.  Other then being a well mannered individual...which it sounds like you are...I don't think any certain way is going to make it easier or harder.

Answer 3

I would say walk up to your mom and ask if you could talk to her.  I am sure she will say yes and then tell you have been seeing this guy that you really like.  When she starts asking questions just keep being honest with her.  The worst she can do is tell you that she doesn't really want you to see your boyfriend again.  Just remember that you are almost eighteen and then you will be able to date who and when ever you want.

Answer 4

Tell her you've met this guy that you are really interested in, but he's older.  Make sure you tell her that he refuses to get into a relationship until you are 18 (which sounds like a great idea).  He sounds like a respectful guy, so your Mom will be okay with it.  

Answer 5

well you are an adult now. Just because you are not 18 does not mean you do not have the mentality of an adult and the fact that you took the initiative to start college early shows that you have a good head on your shoulders. There comes a time when you have to live your own life and not go to you mother for EVERYTHING. There is absolutely nothing you should feel bad about.

When HE feels it is right, take him to meet her. Men do not like to be pressured about meeting the family so if he wants to meet her then that is a good sign, even if he wants to wait until you are 17. you seem to have made enough good decisions to be able to start fully making your own.  

Answer 6

All I would really say is, that you have been talking to this guy...and you are really starting to like him, and that you wanted to tell her.  You are in college and graduated, it will probably expected that you are going to find a guy that you are interested in.  Especially if you are only friends with him...you aren't really hiding anything.