Teen thinking about s*x with boyfriend of 4 months?

Question

i'm asking this question in hopes i'll get straight up answers and not religously based biased opinions. please be nice and answer whole-heartedly...

i'm currently in my first relationship. i'm 15 *16 in 2 months* and my bf just turned 17. we started out holding hands and kissing and then started to make out...he then went to touching my b*****s over the clothes b/c i told him nothing below the waste and nothing below the clothes. but soon i let him touch my b*****s under my shirt and bra...and then later i let him touch me over the clothes "down there" and then under...now we're fingering alot...atleast 75% of the time...well he asked a month or two ago if i would consider s*x i told him i had to think about it and came back saying no i want to wait for marriage...well tonight i found out he thinks about switching his manhood with his fingers...he said he wants to wait but (quote)i dont know....nevermind its nothing...(end) what do i do? i want to have s*x but i dont know...more...

Answer 1

if you think your ready then go ahead! but if you dont wanna do it then dont. just having s*x with him to make "him" happy is stupid trust me i made the same mistake. just wai till your ready!!

Answer 2

Its part of being a teen.....i hate to use the word....horny....SORRY. But before you have s*x, think of the consequences, are you ready for ANYTHING that s*x accompanies? STI (yes, they are not std's anymore, they're sti), pregnancy, HIV/AIDS? Think before you act.

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xoxo,

jenn.

Answer 3

If you doubt yourself in ANYTHING you do, don't do it---especially s*x.  At your age, it is not the healthiest thing in life.  There are so many consequences after s*x.  All I want to say is DON'T DO IT.  

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

I would say do whatever you think is best for you. Dont try to get pregnant sweetie not that young... its hard to take care of children. You may not realize it now but you will have to get a job and you never know if this guy is honestly ready for that. Just make sure that if you do its really what you want and not for any other reason.

Answer 5

If you are unsure, then wait. You will know when it is right, and will have peace of mind.

Answer 6

Wait two more months until its legal.

Answer 7

Don't. That's all I can say. 4 months is not nearly long enough to have a relationship that is ready for s*x.

Answer 8

"switching his manhood with his fingers."  <--- what does that mean?

anyways, don't feel like you have to have s*x with your boyfriend. if you aren't ready, he needs to respect that. if you aren't ready and you end up doing, and he dumps you, how are you going to feel? you'll probably regret it.

Answer 9

I would definitely wait.  If he has thought about switching his "manhood" with his fingers, that shows a complete lack of respect for you.  Also you said he has told you he THINKS he loves you.  If you don't feel comfortable, I would not do it.

Answer 10

Oh gosh. No?

Are you seriously asking this question!!?!? You know the answer! You're unsure! That's an obvious noo. Don't give him s*x because you're afraid he'll leave you or something. If you want to save it for your wedding night, save it for goodness sake! You're 15. After he gets what he wants, he will probably leave you, and you will be heartbroken.. and you've given him what you've been saving all your life..

Besides, he "thinks" he loves you? You should have seen flashing red lights alllll over that one, honey. This guy obviously has no respect for you, if he is going to try to "Switch" without telling you. If he really loves you, he will wait until you are positively ready, which may be on your wedding night.

You're not ready, kid!

Read your question over, and try to answer yourself...

If you have to ask someone if you should or not, that's usually a no. a BIG no.

Have s*x when you love the man you're with, not out of pressure.

Answer 11

Don't do it. At least wait until go to college and finically stable.

Answer 12

Sigh, Same problem with me sept me and my boyfriend are both the same age. We had s*x and my mom found out, she wants to get him locked up all because of this. I told her I was willing to do it and because I love him. it was my choice, but as I heard from her words is that he might go to jail for a long time because of this. And right now, I'm wishing for an answer ASAP. So just be sure that you won't regret it first, mks?

Answer 13

Even if you do use protection you will be worrying you're pregnant.

If you said no and he keeps asking, don't do it.

He's forcing you and you don't want to lose your virginity to someone who's pushing you to do it.

He should respect you said no.

Answer 14

>>>>>switch his manhood with his finger <<<<<

What does that mean

Okay that boy is horny(don't like using that word)and he want some he may love you but he is also using that to get his way a lot of my friends have done it and they did it at your age and they regerted that they ever did that so wait and dont let him switch his p***s with his finger (omgoodness i hate using the word p***s) but thats the true

Answer 15

Don't. When your a teen, 4 months is like nothing. I waited until i was 18 to have s*x because i knew i didn't want a STD, a baby or a bad first experience. Im sorry, but i doubt he loves you..he's just horny and wants the s*x.

Hold off baby girl...don't change your moral for anyone.

Answer 16

Wait. Make sure you are really in love. Use condoms. If he won't buy them, then you be the responsible one. Teens seem to think that pregnancy can't happen to them, if it's the first time or he pulls out. NOT TRUE! Be safe, use condoms.

Answer 17

guys will say anything to get in your pants.  please wait - at 15/16 it's a waste to have s*x, and most likely you two will break up.  then he'll tell all his friends what he got from you - probably already told them about feeling you out.

Answer 18

Please listen to me. You think Im just some random on YA but I want you to listen to me.

Im 17. I have done NOTHING with a guy. The guys I hang around would never expect me to. Theyre good guys and would wait til I am ready.

DO NOT HAVE s*x. Yes he says he loves you. But there is a chance you will have s*x with him! OF COURSE he will say that. It is likely you will not be with him forever. He will move on to another girl he 'loves' and wants to be with. What about when you meet the man of your dreams and you want to sleep with him for your 1st time BUT WAIT there was that guy when you were 15. DO NOT DO IT! You will regret it! You have done a lot already. DO NOT HAVE s*x!

4 months is NOTHING

Maybe if you were 17, 18! But this is your 1st relationship and you are 15!

Add me on msn and I will share some of my friends stories with you if you need me to. Beleive me I am right.

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Hope I helped :)

ps you are special and deserve better.....wait

Answer 19

definatley no..

and you really shouldnt want kids at 15, its really way too much for your age.

Answer 20

If you doubt it, don't do it. He sounds kinda pushy. A true boyfriend wouldn't ask you if you'd consider it.  You're young, don't rush things. Don't lose it to him, I PROMISE you won't regret it.

But, if you do, get on BCP, use a condom, or better yet both. Also keep in mind STD's if he isn't a virgin or has done a lot of fooling around.

Answer 21

DONT 4 months is not long enough