Teenage mothers please answer?

Question

im doing an assignment on teen mums and i am just wondering :

what are some struggles that teen mums have to go through in everyday lives? do you believe there are there any differences with being an adult parent?

Answer 1

i was a teen mom. i was 13 when i had my first baby i am 29 now but it was very hard to try to provide everything that she need.. i stayed in school so that made extra hard... money was always tight and daycare was extremely hard to get... my #1 complaint is that people always assumed the just because i had a baby at 13 that i was uneducated or came from a broken home or i was just some s**t that deserved what i got... there is definitely a difference from being an adult to being a teen... mentally it is worlds apart i can handle things better now cause i have the life skills that i did not have then... but all in all i would not change a thing....

Answer 2

Well I am 17 yrs old and I have a son named Gabriel and he is 1.5.  There are many obstacles to geing a teenage mother. For me the difficult thing is learning how to be a great mother but also a greath father.  The father of my son walked out on us and left me his responsibility. I have to take all the critisism that comes my way bc I am a teen mother but also a teen father.  Yeah, it is just hard enough being a mother at theis age but being a father and raising a son while you are a kid urself is extremely difficult.  Also what is really difficult for me is balancing my life as a mother with my friend, family, and school  There are night that I stay up really late in the morning trying to finish my hW or just trying to study and then I would have to wake up the next day really early to drop my son off at his grandmothers (paternal) and then rush to school or else I would be late.  there is also the difficult decisions that I have to make just to avoid hurting my son and all the obstacles that I have to overcome. I personally don’t believe that age matter when it comes to being a well fitted mother.  I think that there are some teen mothers that take really good responsibility for their child unlike some adult parents that the don’t care for their children.  I think that for both teen and adult parents the role of motherhood doesent get any easier but harder and both enjoy every moment of it.   I personally believe that I am raising my son the right way and I am being a great father but also a great father.  I love my son to death and if I had to relive it all over again, I would be more than happy to do it.

Answer 3

for me it was getting my diploma, having a job, learning to drive, not seeing friends, missing out on alot of fun time. but im grown and married now with baby #2 on the way so its alot different! i wouldnt take back any of it because i believe she helped me change my bad ways and care about something other then myself

good luck on ur paper

Answer 4

well I am not a teenage mother now.. but i was 19 when I got pregnant.

Teenage mothers go through alot more flack than adult parents. they are judged harshly and looked down upon often given the label of being a W.h.or.e or S.l.u.t.

While teenagers who get pregnant are usually still in school they have to face the fact that they may have to leave school as they are ridiculed by their peers. They drop out and usually dont go back.

Its hard for them to have jobs so they rely on the government to help them until they are capable of going back to school or capable to go out into the work force.

Some teenage mothers dont have the emotional or mental or physical support to help them with raising a baby so they end up doing things by themselves which makes things much harder to deal with.

Answer 5

money issues. and telling your mom.

Answer 6

Well, with me it was juggling school, being a mother and working. As a teen parent something besides you comes first. You have to pass on things, like outtings with friends. Your money is needed for something more important.

I believe any parent at any age has many of the same struggles, but with a teen parent it is a bit harder. People judge, and respect you less. The have an assuption of who you are.

Answer 7

well im due to have my second daughter in around 4 weeks and im only 17. it is really hard to try and get all of your school work done on time and stuff when you have to constantly be caring for another person, h**l even getting to school on time every morning is a challenge. i think there are a few, but not many differences in being a teen mum, school, social lifes, going out with friends, having fun etc, is all cut down a lot but at the end of the day i would not change anything about my life right now.

good luck =]

Answer 8

For me, it was Juggling school, being a mum, and struggling with not wanting to go to school, after I dropt out(at 14, because of the names I was getting called, and the rumors.), I ended up juggling my 'math, etc' work, plus a 2 year old kid.

But I'm sure for all teen mum's, Then it'd be juggling school, homework, work etc....I don't see any difference between being a teen parent, and a adult parent...You get your immature adults who can't take care of there kids, and immature teens who can't take care of there kids...And then you have your teens and adults who do care about there kids, and do take good care of them.

Answer 9

Im 15 and I think that the worst thing is the people judging me

Answer 10

Here is a site which has heaps of stories from teenage mothers - hope it helps

http://www.pregnancystories.net/single_m...

Answer 11

well i am a teenager (18 )and i'm 15 weeks pregnant.

BUT i'm engaged and i have my own house, i very well set and ready for a child. so for me there is no difference, i'm lucky.

but i still advice anyone who isnt married or with the person they intend to marry to be very careful and not end up pregnant and struggling.

Answer 12

I'm not, nor was I ever a teenage mother but as an "older" mom I just wanted to put my 2 cents in :) I watched the "baby borrowers" and it was painful to see the teens who weren't truly ready to have a baby. I would guess if you're not ready or don't get your butt in gear fast everything is a struggle. When you're ready it's more fun to watch your baby grow with the chore of it just being in the background...

Answer 13

I have to juggle school, work and the kids.  Then I have my own house with a few friends and i have to clean the house and all that.  Then the kids need constant care and i feel bad that i have to go to school and leave them with daycare or my parents.  

I think that adults have an advantage because they are older and they are financially ready.  I know that i do have money troubles sometimes.  But i think that when my kids are teens i will be even more understanding because i have had hard times as a teen.

and also people judging you because you are so young.  I had my first at 13 and my second at 15 so i have been judged a lot.

Hope i helped  :)