Teenage mothers?

Question

hey my name is kayla and im 14 years old. ive been sexually active for 6 months now with one person. ive had many pregnancy scares. out of the times that ive had s*x we only protected ourselfs 2 times. ok well to my question is it being hard being a teenage mother? with all the dirty looks nd stuff. like i see many young girls with babies and it makes me really want a child and example of my older sister shes 17 and shes 7 months pregnant with a baby boy. im a little jealous of her becuz i want a baby. but then im not becuz i want 2 finish school and become a nurse and get married to the right guy then have children. but right now im with a new boyfriend ( not the guy i had s*x with) and we were talking about children and he said that id i got pregnant he would be here 4 me nd would want me 2 keep the baby. sooo i was thinking about having a baby. but i kno how hard it is so i need someone to talk me out of it! please help me i want a baby but i also still want my life !

Answer 1

Have you talked to some adult about this?

You must be out of your mind.

Would you be able to support this child?

Answer 2

Kayla, you sound like a girl with a good head on her shoulders. You know you want to finish school, and become a nurse, then get married, and then have a baby. I like the order of your accomplishments you have in mind. I wanted that too, in the same order, but I thought it would be okay to have a baby with a boyfriend because he swore to me, that he would never leave. 4 years later, here I am: A single mom, with no college degree, like I wanted, raising a daughter all by myself. And right now, you're only 14. You still have all your teenage years in front of you. You don't want to be stuck home on your senior prom, because you couldn't find a sitter.

I know sometimes it might sound tempting to have a baby, because of the unconditional love that a baby can give, but they are hard work. My advice is at least finish high school. Right now, your not even old enough to work, or even have a drivers license, so how do you plan on supporting your child? And by the way, I would start protecting yourself.  And anytime you want to experience being a mom, offer to babysit your new nephew when he is born. That way, after you see how exhausting being a mother really is, you can give him back!

But most importantly, remember that you have to provide for yourself first. After college, and becoming a nurse, you can always have a child, and you would be able to provide more for your child, more oppurtunties for your child and your growing family!

Just wait hun.... that's my best advice! Good luck!

Answer 3

Are you stupid?

C'mon now.

STOP!

Answer 4

i think you are stupid....

your to young and need top finish school and get a degree and a good job so u can support your children when you are ready.....now is not the time get a grip...

Answer 5

id say ur out of yer ******* **** mind

Answer 6

honey, at your age, your body cannot handle the stress of carrying a baby and giving birth. Its hard on the body for even a grown woman, but for a child? Children having children is ethically wrong. No offense but your mother should be watching you better.

Wait until you can properly care for the baby, you have a HUSBAND and a house of your own.

after all, mothers want the best for their kids don't they?

so give yours the best, and wait until you can pay for the expenses and you can physically handle having a baby.

Answer 7

i would spend a lot of time with your sissys baby

Answer 8

KEEP YOUR LIFE! I'm 17 years old with three babies. One of them is my step daughter, but still, I raise her. Please don't have children now. If you're looking for someone to love you unconditionally, you're wanting a baby for all the wrong reasons. It's SO hard being a teenage mother. You have NO idea. For the sake of your unborn children, wait to get a job, marry the right guy, THEN think about children.

Edit: I agree with Reagan on the welfare thing. I don't want my tax money going to immature children who think they can handle a baby. I got three years on you, and it's hard as h**l handling my kids. Luckily, I can support myself and my kids, and my husband (who also supports us).

Answer 9

Well first i would not have s*x with a guy that i just meet and that young no you don't need a kid go wiht your goals go get something to prevent pregnancy

my husbands cousin is pregnant and her boyfriend is missing in action

boys say anything to get you in bed

Answer 10

go to your local planned parenthood and get some birth control.... Have a child only if you can support it and give it everything it needs. Use protection 100% of the time. Think about your health. A child isn't just a " fun cute like thing to have like like. "  Its a real human life.

Answer 11

sweetie stop having s*x!! because it is very hard and babies cost alot of money!!!

im 15 and i have a baby gurl that is 4 mnths old and my boyfriend is still around yes and i have a very supportive family but still its hard.......

STOP HAVING s*x BECAUSE 1 OF THESE TIMES ITS NOT GOING TO BE FAKE ITS GOING TO BE REAL AND ITS NOT JUST A BABY DOLL EITHER......

WAIT UNTIL YOU CAN REALLY SUPPORT A BBY.........

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Answer 12

You are not even old enough to drive a car, but you want a baby?  Are you kidding me?  BABIES AREN'T FREE!!!!  How would you support this baby?  Without welfare, at least?  Do you have ANY idea how much food, clothes and diapers are?  Of course you don't, you are still a baby yourself!  Get a grip and use some d**n protection so my tax dollars don't have to support you and your child that you were irresponsible enought get pregnant with because you thought it was cool!  Go to college and make something of yourself instead of becoming yet ANOTHER teenage statistic!!!!  Ugh, 14 year olds!