Teenage wedding...<3 ?

Question

So here is the story...

My bf and I have been together for almost 2 yrs. We r now currently Juniors and we are thinking of getting married by the end of our senior high school year so we can go and study together and have our own little house or apartment. We are certainly not ready to have kids and we will have some after we finish college.So what do you think?... Great idea or not?

Not only that, we love each other to death. He is christian and i know he wont cheat on me or anything like that.

Answer 1

I&#039;d wait until you can support yourselves. You don&#039;t want to be married and have your parents paying for you to go to college. And if you are both full-time college students, you&#039;re not going to have a whole lot of time to work, so you likely couldn&#039;t afford rent, utilities, clothing, food, etc.

Not a good idea. Married couples should be able to support themselves! Get engaged, but stay that way for awhile so your  parents can still help you get through college. (:

Answer 2

I would wait. I know you don&#039;t want to hear it but love changes and people and there dreams change.What you want now may be different then what you want at 21. I am a bride at the young age of 21 and getting married is hard. Living together and having a mortgage and bills. yes its very hard.

Answer 3

Well I understand you completely. I got married two days after my eighteenth birthday. My husband and I had ben dating since eight grade.

We have been married for twenty years now. And never regretted a thing. We have nine beautiful children, and love each other more and more each day. I wish yo all the luck and love in the world.

Answer 4

Your idea is good? Decisions like living till death  is commendable.

Answer 5

whats the rush? enjoy been in love its a wonderful time im getting married dis year but i have been with my partner for 7 years and its great been a couple not married we still enjoyed seen the world etc, take your time wait till you can afford your dream wedding thats what we did and it is worth it i promise x*x

Answer 6

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He is christian and i know he wont cheat on me or anything like that.

This is absolutely not a given combination. The biggest cheats i know were so called christians

However I think you are moving way too fast. you are marrying for no other reason than to be able to set up house and have s*x.

The reason to be married should be because you want to spend the REST of your lives (another 60-80 years, meaning more than 3or4 times your current lifespan) together not because of study together reasons That is just setting yourself up for failure.

Answer 7

See how your relationship is after senior year and a few years or so after that and it&#039;ll show you if you both can handle getting married togather and spending the rest of your life togather. I also think there&#039;s nothing wrong with moving into an apartment or house before getting married because this will show if you two will be able to stand living with each other and that&#039;s what I think the both of you should do just to make sure. Anyone can cheat on you no matter what....trust me!

If you are really confident after senior year and after living with him for some time I don&#039;t see anything wrong with it. That&#039;s just how I feel though. If it&#039;s true love then it wont matter what age you two get married because true love lasts forever so do what you two feel is best in your heart and mind.

Good Luck :)

Answer 8

i wouldnt if i were you.  keep your relationship but getting married so young can present problems in the future.  if you love each other and want to stay with each other, you can do that without getting married cant you?

Answer 9

I met my fiance when I was 13 and I am almost 18 now (1 week to go) and I will be getting married next year. We live together and have for 1 year and everything is going smoothly. He has an excellent job and is paying for everything.

Answer 10

What&#039;s the hurry?

I&#039;m sure you love each other but just waiting till you finish highschool properly and start college and then decide is much better.

I&#039;ll tell you why. It&#039;s not that you&#039;re too young or too immature but you have alot of things you still want to do. That&#039;s what teenagehood is there for. To live independently and study and build a future before you settle down as adults.

Though it may not happen in your case but this is usually what happens with teenagers that marry. They&#039;re in love and happy for the most part. However the boy still wants to do his thing and hang out with his friends. The girl will still want alot of things that she hasn&#039;t done or will find new hobbies that she never knew before and they may grow apart. Mainly because they don&#039;t know themselves because they haven&#039;t grown up fully. Though they may not want kids, they may still get pregnant and the girl will become a stay at home mom, miss out on school, fall behind and next thing she knows she doesn&#039;t have any career to fall back on.

Just remember that proably alot of single mothers started out like this. I&#039;m not saying that you two will break up. I&#039;m just saying that you should understand the realities of couples in your age and definitely wait. Get to know yourself better and trust me by the time you two are 20, 22, 25, 28, you will be completely different people.

I can tell you this because I remember myself at 15, 18, 20, 22, 25, and 27 and even 29... every 2-3 years, you change. Your thoughtprocess, your attitude, what you want, what you don&#039;t want, your goals, etc etc....

You only live once, make sure you live it properly and don&#039;t make major mistakes that you&#039;d regret forever.

All the best.

Answer 11

I think what a lot of teenagers don&#039;t realize is that you don&#039;t need to be married to be together. I do applaud you for realizing that your education should be complete before you have children, that&#039;s very smart.

I think right after highschool graduation is too soon to be married. This time can be very confusing...you&#039;re leaving home, you&#039;re going to college, you&#039;re becoming your own person and trying new things. It can be stressful enough, and to add marriage on top of that might not be the smartest idea. You and your boyfriend can still get an apartment together, and study together - you don&#039;t need to be married to do that.

I just recently got married 3 weeks ago, at a young age....I&#039;m only 20, and my new husband is 24. We got engaged when I was 19. The reasons we decided to get married, and not have a longer engagement included that we have both completed college, and my fiance was in the usmc for four years, which helped him to get a state job.

Before marrying, we lived together for a year. There were a lot of ups and downs, as we learned to live with each other, and it took a bit of time  to smooth out before we learned to compromise, and adjust, as we were both used to doing things our own ways. Now, we&#039;re married, and after 3 years together, are still discovering new things about each other, and it&#039;s great, but I&#039;m happy we&#039;ve completed our educations and are settled in what we hope are our life paths...but things can change very quickly in a very short period of time.

I would strongly encourage you to wait until you&#039;ve completed college to get married. You can live together, study together, be with each other....all of that without getting married. Also, understand that being Christian has nothing to do with cheating. Just because your boyfriend is religious doesn&#039;t mean you can sit back and not work on your relationship because you KNOW he isn&#039;t going to cheat. You need to realize that things do happen, and they do surprise you...so always be aware of what&#039;s going on in each other&#039;s lives, and please wait to get married. You won&#039;t regret it.

Answer 12

The statistics go up for pregnancy once a couple moves in together.

When you&#039;re 16, 2 years isn&#039;t that long, my friend.  You have this idea that you&#039;re going to get married (and who will foot that bill?) and set up shop and play house.  It&#039;s not that easy.  There a lot of physical and emotional things you just can&#039;t handle when you&#039;re 18--no matter what anyone tells you.  There is no reason why you should rush into things.  If you&#039;re in love now, been in love for two years, won&#039;t you still be in love 5 years from now when you&#039;ve got a degree in hand?

College really changes people.  You can pretend that you two will remain the same or else grow together, but it just doesn&#039;t work like that.  I was a totally different person coming out of college--had a totally different personality.  And the same is true for everyone I know.  How do you know you&#039;ll like his new personality?  How do you know he&#039;ll like yours?

It&#039;s great that you found love--and I won&#039;t deny that is exactly what it is.  But it&#039;s not time for marriage, my friend.

Good luck.

Answer 13

Firstly, just because he&#039;s christian doesn&#039;t mean he won&#039;t cheat. I&#039;ve had christian boyfriends that have cheated. That doesn&#039;t mean he WILL of course.

I found my sweetheart at a young age too. I was 14 when we first got together, he was 17. Like you I seperate marriage and having children, but he sees them as something that goes together, so he wants to wait a few years before tying the knot because right now we&#039;re definitely not ready for kids.

Honestly, I&#039;d wait a few years before getting married. You can still have your house and study together before you get married. I just think that the pressures of high school are so different to those of the real world and you might be committing yourselves too soon.

It&#039;s nice to dream though, which is what we were did when we were younger. Lots of people marry their childhood sweethearts but my advice would be to not over-commit too young because you might regret it later.

Good luck to you both, I hope you lead happy lives =)

Answer 14

I think it is great that you are in love and it seems like the two of you are in a loving relationship.

But there is no reason for the two of you to rush and get married right after (or even during!) high school.  There is plenty of time and getting married will affect things that you probably aren&#039;t even thinking of.  For example, if either of your parents receive child support, then once you get married you are considered emancipated and then they will no longer receive child support for you; same goes for insurance and college payments.  Once you get married in the court&#039;s eyes you are viewed as being emancipated so you will completely have to support yourselves - rent, food, education, health and medical expenses, etc. It all adds up.

On the other hand, if you aren&#039;t married, then your parents can usually keep you on their health insurance throughout college, until you are about 23.  You may not think of those things now, but if you were in a car accident or get sick, a hospital visit can add up to tens of thousands of dollars...and it&#039;s doubtful that either of you would have a job with health benefits straight away during or after high school.

So, take your time.  There is no rush.  Complete your education and figure out what you want to do with your lives, and then get a plan together and go forward.

Good luck!

Answer 15

good luck with that....

Answer 16

My fiance&#039; and I have been together since my sophmore year *he was a junior*.We&#039;ve been together almost 7 years now. I honestly wouldn&#039;t suggest you getting married. I would have loved it too, but things are going to be hard trying to support yourselves and go to school and work full time trying to pay for things! And I know your young but I was you years ago. BOTH of you WILL change and whether its going to be good for your relationship or bad you just never know. In my case it was good because we grew together. I&#039;m just now getting married to him on July 26th and thats all I&#039;ve wanted but honestly just wait if you know you want to be with him then whats the difference if you wait. And just another thing my fiance&#039; and I are both Christians and know many, but Christians are still humans that do sin, and I know a few Christian men that have cheated on their wives so don&#039;t be foolish by that.

Answer 17

Aw don&#039;t get married yet. Have fun in college. I met my fiance when I was 17 and about to graduate high school. We&#039;ve been through college, we&#039;ve learned, we&#039;ve grown, we&#039;ve CHANGED, but we&#039;ve changed together. (me and my fiance are totally different people then we were at age 17). We love each other MORE then we did when we were 17. We are lucky we changed together and I consider us lucky to find each other so young. We are getting married when I&#039;ll be 23. Yes! SIX years. Just wait, it&#039;s a bad idea. Why do you want to rush it. If you know you will spend the rest of your life with him there is no need to get married and have to deal with being married AND going to college, that&#039;s a lot of bills, like insurance you will have to pay. You will have the burden of school AND bills and providing for your husband.

my opinion is to wait. I did and I&#039;m SO glad I did. =)

Answer 18

I think you should wait until you both finish college. I was in a similiar situtation when I graduated high school. My childhood sweetheart and I both thought about getting married and going to a local college but we decided that the finacial strain of going to college and trying to have a little home or appartment would be too much and would probably tear us apart or make it too hard to go to school. So, we choose to live at home (with our own parents, not together :-&gt; ) and go to a local school to be together. Now he is done with college and I almost done with grad school. We are getting married next summer and I am so glad that we waited because it would have been so hard.

Answer 19

Wait until you are both out of school Before you make this descion. By School I mean college. You have no clue about love. My nephew thought his high school girlfriend was the one. The split up when she went away to school. He is now with the one he truly loves. He knows it. He tells all the time. How he almost made the wrose mistake of his life. Teenage love is very real. But there is nothing like finding your true love. Who knows you 2 might be it. But live some first.

Answer 20

i would wait until after college or in the middle of college.  hope everything works out for you.