Teens: Will you help a fellow teen out here?? Please?

Question

Ok so heres what went down.

My mom has been angry all day at my great grandmother over stupid stuff, she was taking it out on me by being rude and stuff.

We were going to drive back to the mall to exchange my jeans and I was going to drive but last minute I decided to not because she always gets annnoyed when I drive.

She threw a fit and stomped back inside the house.

The fighting began.

Finally we ended up going back to the mall. Where more fighting started...I thought I was going to exhange the jeans get a second pair but that wasn't the case. She ended up getting the second pair even though I told her it was ok to take them back anyways and save her money.

She had told me she didn't care about me anymore. I believe her because she showed my face tonight just how much she didn't care.

Yeppers, she hit me. Left a mark too. Cut my lip. Scratches on my face....

It really stings still.

I called the cops on her for hitting me.

But in the great state of tennesse parents can "dicipline" their child [im not a child I am 18] however they please, so i almost got arrested because we "got into it", when it was really her hitting me and then knocking me to the ground trying to get my cell phone from me. We are only visiting TN, we live in a different state.

I am comtemplating not going back with her and staying with family here.

My head still hurts, the scratches still sting.

And I am pissed.

I don't know what to do or who ot turn to.

I feel helpless and sad and I hate everything right now.

Answer 1

i kno how u feel right now...trust me,but shes ur mother she loves u nd u love her...ur old enough to live on ur own nd start ur own life,nd im sure she dosnt want to loose u.if this the first time something like this have ever happend then just give urself nd her some time to cool off.but if it isnt the first time or if it keeps happening then u have take matters into ur own hands separate urself form her ...for ur own saftey..=]

i hope everything works out for u.

Answer 2

GET IN UR CAR AND GO SOMEPLACE. d**n ur 18 i'm 16 and wish i had the ability to leave when i wanted. And u should be out of there soon if ur 18 right? So just hang in there!

Answer 3

I feel for you and I think you should hang in there and avoid any fighting. But do NOT call the cops on yer mom it's not rite. I mean c'mon shes your mom! I feel really sorry that she hit you like that n stuff but hang in there, you'll be ok.

Answer 4

ok, i feel for yu, and i may not be legal yet, but jeez if yu got in a fight with  ur mother, yu will both eventually get over it, and yeah ur mother has every right to hit yu, she gave birth to yu, yu dont hate her, and yu need her, if i were yu i would stay with her, keep as little interactions as possible and everything will be okay, your 18 and yu have never been hit by ur mother, maybe she really does need to disipline yu.

im srry i sound horrible, it wasnt fair that she took her anger out on yu, and maybe that was her mistake, but think about the things goin on in her life right now, maybe there is to much stress, and she has an 18 year old kid to take care of.  

Answer 5

In Tennessee they can discipline their kids ANY way? And what if a parent decided to torture them to death? Wow... But I think you should talk to someone about this. This is serious.  

Answer 6

Hey there!

Hi! I'm sorry to hear about your situation. To be honest with you, a mom who would hit her own daughter over something so stupid doesn't deserve to be a mother.

You can try a few things. One would be to try to talk to her. Try catching her in a not-so-bad mood and pull her aside. Just talk in a calm voice and don't be mad at her. Try to understand her. If she does try to yell at you... don't yell back.

If anything serious happens again... say... if she hits you again. I suggest calling child protection services. I'm not kidding. If you've called the cops on her... you should try calling someone who might actually care. I'm sure you can find a phone number somewhere online.

Good Luck! And please... don't try to be too depressed or mad at your mother... Things will brighten up. Remember: The night is darkest just before the dawn.

Answer 7

Did you explain to the cops that  you're over 18. If not, call them back and explain that to them. You're not a child being beaten by your mom, you're an adult being assaulted by another adult. And that is illegal in Tennessee.  

I wouldn't go back with her either. Just stay with the family who won't hit you.

Answer 8

well since your 18 and a legal adult, i would move out, your moms probably going thru menopause

Answer 9

she shouldnt just let out her anger on you. that is not right.

i suggest you to talk this out with someone you know who is close to the house. and maybe you can call them. and try to see if you can stay over at their house.

she cut your lip????? and the cops didnt care? wow... what a state!

im very very sorry

i hope you feel better

xooxoxoox

Answer 10

ok... i read it all. let me just tell you this.. your mother is eventually going to die. you really both love each other. i suggest you dont come back home for at least a few days... try 2 back away from her. she must have problems... is she divorced? theres more to it then it might seem but theres no point in getting into it. back away from fights and do whatever you wanna do as long as she cant see.  idont know... g'dluck. i feel for u.

Answer 11

You can call 911 again and tell them you are an ADULT(you legally are)being assaulted,and if you feel you need to really leave and the cops aren't helping you,since you are not in your real home-state,you should either A:Get a plane ticket and get the h**l out of there and go back to your home state stay with a friend,get an apartment, or go home,or B:Rent a car and drive home.C:Or you could also just rent a hotel room for a few days.

But here is the only think I suggest you NOT do.

Do NOT talk to her,do not interact with her right now.If she hurt  you once,it does not mean she will not hurt you again.

It is NOT acceptable to be hit by ANYONE no matter what the circumstances are.

I EDITED this answer:Okay,I would have said just take your mother's car back(she has money,she can RENT one),but as you said you don't have money so gas is out of the question.

What you need to do hun,is get out of there.They have run away shelters EVERYWHERE in the world(I know it sounds weird to go to a run away shelter but if it keeps a roof over your head for a while before you can get back home when your mother leaves and then go live with a friend for a while..).You can either do that or call the police again and tell them you were assaulted and that you are an adult and then the police will take you out of that living situation.

If you REALLY feel threatened and worried is when you should call the police.But the absolute definite is that you need to get out of there(sorry I have said you need to get out of there so many times lol) but you really do,it can not be a safe environment if she hurt you.

Answer 12

On your own leave right now and return to your state if you have the money hire an atterony if not aply for legal assistance with your county and they will assighn you to an atterony. She had no right to touch you and if i was in your position take her to court.

PS. photograph your ingeries every two hours for the jurry

and sue her for assault and anything else your loyer can get