Teens need your advice to a parent

Question

Teens, I have a 14 year old son, normal dude, doing whatever teens do. I try to give him a LONG leash, but my wife is constantly hounding him and wanting him to do family stuff with his little brother and sister. He's constantly in the "whatever mom" mode, which pisses us off, but I try to stay level headed.

Anyway, from a kid, do we just leave you alone and let you do whatever the freak you want? Or does our hounding let you know that at least we still like you even though you're basically a little jerk?

Or is it that he's a spoiled rotten little rich kid that goes to a 49K a year prep school where he's babied all year and relatively lives on his own so he thinks he's grown up WAAAAY to soon.

Answer 1

He definitely needs you to take charge.

There is no reason for your son not to listen to his parents. You cannot continue to baby him; if he thinks his "grown up" then treat him like a grown up. Give him responsibilties.

You should work out some rules for him. You, your wife, and your son need to sit together and talk about what's going on. Maybe something is bothering him...or maybe he just likes pissing you off because he thinks he is "cool." Whatever it is, you need to discover what's bothering him. Then you need to lay some rules and restrictions down for him. He needs to understand that you both are paying to send him to a prep school, something so few children have the opportunity to experience.

But before you do anything, speak to your wife about the issue first. You guys should discuss his attitude and find resolutions to it.

I really hope your son learns to respect both of his parents and realizes how amazing you guys truly are--for taking care of him, for loving him, for giving him everything he wants.

Answer 2

no way! i thnk you and your family should try and give him some space!

cuz im 13 and i already fight with my oarents and get them pissed off!

ofcourse i dont WANT to! but it just happens and i cant control it!

i think you should give the guy some space and im sure h**l come around!

gd luck!

hope i helped!

Answer 3

Parents need to be parents, not best friends to the teen. There is nothing wrong with his Mom wanting him to do family stuff with his siblings. You should talk to him and lay some ground rules on proper behavior. Don't take advice from teens on how to raise your kid!!