Tell me, HOW do us mothers get a break without going crazy? ?

Question

Just thought I'd ask, since i feel like i'm going crazy right now, and i'm really depressed....she's five months old and i know some of you are gonna say "oh cry me a river" but it is SOOOO hard....i feel like i'm gonna break down crying. :(

Answer 1

It will get better! Cason's 7 months now and starting to creep around the room. He loves it and I get a lot of breaks just watching him do his own thing... It WILL get better but for now go places and enjoy her. She won't be that little forever.

Answer 2

Try and get her on a routine. In the beginning it might be hard,  but you have to get her used to it now before you lose your mind. Wake up early in the morning keep her up for a while, then lay her down for a nap if she cries let her. Its good for them to cry. she'll get used to this then will start doing it every day. and you nap when she does. I have a son who is almost 3 months old and he already has a routine and wakes up about 8 or 9 is up and playing for a while, goes to sleep after his next bottle and sleeps for a while, wakes up plays and then takes short naps throughout the rest of the day and is asleep between 9 & 1030 every night. and usually sleeps through the night.

Answer 3

Can you have a friend, family member or the baby's father watch your daughter, so you can have some free time?

You can get some sleep or get out the house and spend time by yourself or with your friends

*I have my mom babysit for me on some friday's and saturday's, so me and my fiancé can have time to ourselves. It relieves A LOT of stress!!!

Answer 4

I suggest first off getting something that plays music or lights up for her crib that she can play with our watch. Lay her down in her crib and let her hang out there for a little bit each day or let her relax in her carseat (Something my son LOVED) Babies do not need to be entertained for every minute they are awake, especially cat nappers. You'd go crazy. My son was like that too. Seconds, if you're breast feeding, try taking in more calories. This may be why she isn't sleeping...but if you're taking about drinking, I take it you aren't breast feeding ;). Third, GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. Take the baby for a walk in the stroller, go to the mall and walk around etc. Most babies enjoy being in the stroller and pushed around and they tend to sleep. Last, look into hiring a babysitter or help around the house. That way you can go to sleep earlier with less things to do or sleep while someone else is watching the baby. You need to relax and do something for youself.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Hon, you need a girls night out!!!  Have your bf watch his child or get a babysitter and GO OUT!!!  You deserve to go to a movie with friends or on a date with your bf!!  Trust me, 2-3 hours away will refresh you!!  Even if you just go out to lunch or pedicure with another adult (and no children), you come back ready to tackle motherhood once again!

Answer 6

One thing about motherhood, get used to the crazy! Once you are used to it, it's going to change to a different crazy! I have a soon to be 8 year old son. When you are running around getting her to school and sports/dance/extra curricular activities while balancing work, then it's a real circus. (I don't mean to be discouraging) Remember the circus is supposed to be fun, sometimes a bit stinky, but still fun. =)

Sleep deprivation causes depression. Have you tried meditation? It helped/still helps me. It relaxes the body and mind. Try just laying there and relaxing your body starting at your toes, and work up to the top of your head and face. Or head to toes. When I get stressed my body holds the tension, and relaxing that way is like letting your body take a nap.

Oh, and I noticed with my son if he was overstimulated and had lots of "activity" he would knock out an extra long nap. Start encouraging her to entertain herself. Too much over stimulation can cause big fuss fits too... and it's ok to break down and cry yourself! You need to let it out too.

Answer 7

its a mind thing just relax, i have 3 kids a newborn and another baby on the way and ive noticed that when i just breath and relax i dont let things get to me as much, my kids are really active so it can be frustrating taking care of all these rugrats but just take it easy , lay with her for about an hour in the dark and eventually shell fall asleep even if she isnt sleepy, its better than her being awake for another hour lol!!

Answer 8

I know how do you feel!!!!

My son starting crying as soon as he got out the hospital. I stop working to raise my child, but I started to drive myself crazy. Apparently I am not one of those person who can function well by being in the house all day!

My son was napping during the day and crying at night!

I tried everything I felt I was going crazy!!!, but I started going out with my mom ( the extra help).

I discovered that my son likes to be around people, so a walk to the mall would do good for him and mostly for me. Also I started to flip the cartoon channels and see which ones attract his attention and record the cartoons.

The wine...well I tried and it makes things worst. A glass of wine one a while is great, but don't have a glass every day.

Ask a friend or someone who can help you babysit your baby and then you can have a time for yourself or take a nap.

You sound like you need time for yourself, ask your bf to help out with your baby while you do something else around the house.

I started to see the tv show "Kate and Jon plus 8" i got many tips from that show( I know it sounds crazy)

Good luck and don't drive yourself crazy there's a lot of people who feel like you, you just need to find them and ask them tips!!

Answer 9

Do you have anyone to help you and give you a break? I never did and I dealt with it just fine. You can too, though I still would try to find someone to help you like a family member, because doing it by yourself, with no where or one to turn is very challenging.

Answer 10

feeling depressed after a baby is normal(to a extent) i was like that after my baby just have a lot of friends come spend time with you.have a dinner party (im sure your friends will want to take over your baby lol) have the father watch ur baby while going to the spa. or a walk to the park with your baby to be around other parents(good way to make friends) if you cant have anyone watch her go for a walk with her/him

Answer 11

I set my 15 and 16 year olds up with my 8month old and 7 year old :D

Answer 12

Join a parent and toddler's group, it will give you the support of other parents!

Answer 13

two words: NAP TIME!

Answer 14

find a trusted college babysitter who has experience with infants (maybe a family member or friend's kid) who you can pay to entertain your baby a couple hours a week (whenever you need a nap).

Set them on one side of the house, and you go and sleep. I'm a nanny for a couple with a 10 week old, and they will give me the baby to take care of for a couple of hours while they sleep and catch up on rest and sometimes work. I'm in college and know how to take care of infants, so they feel comfortable letting me take care of him. All they did was right down the feeding schedule and what he likes as far as toys and the swing and his mobile and stuff and I just entertain him and feed & change him. Seriously, its a hard job just for a few hours! i can definitely see how a mom needs a break once in a while! so dont feel bad because its a tough job and you definitely need at least once a week to catch up on sleep!