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Question

I have a 4 almost 5yr old son and his father is not in his life right now and I was thinking in my head , "l hope he (my son) will not be g*y"...I have nothing against ppl that are g*y, I just don't want my son to be g*y..which l would love him anyway but...

Answer 1

This is an age old question of an older generation, that if a boy has too much female interaction and not male, they will become g*y. This has proven to be faults. My brother is a good example. He was NEVER around men (until school), we lived way out in the boonies and he had only sisters, mother and grandmother most of his life and he is fine...was even in the military.... so don't worry. And it is alright to teach him to cook, clean, etc.... It is no longer "womens" work.

Answer 2

he wont be g*y just because his dad isnt around wont make him g*y theres men who grew up with their fathers and they turn up g*y it has nothing to do with having a dad or not...its a choice they make on their own regardless

Answer 3

I also thought about this. I want grandchildren! But, you will love your son regardless of his personal preferences, in the long run. I'm sure you can find a new man who will be a better father to him :-)

Answer 4

no that's not wrong, it's just wishful thinking. and just because his father isn't around doesn't mean he will turn out g*y. just try to do alot of 'guyish' things with him!

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Answer 5

I have thought the same thing for my own son........and yes, I will love him no matter what as you will yours. My own opinion on the subject is that some people are born with their sexual orientation already pre-destined and some make the choice through emotional and environmental circumstances. You just do the best you can to teach him to be a decent human being and his sexual orientation won't matter.  

Answer 6

There a several people who grew up with both parents and are g*y There are single mother and fathers who have g*y sons and daughters.It does not matter on how many parent you had or did not have.

Answer 7

there's nothing wrong about being g*y. If you don't want your son to be g*y, just get him to hang out with other people more, like girls and boys. By doing this, he'll have a healthier mind and he won't turn g*y.

Answer 8

What would make you think that and if he does grow up to be g*y you should except that.

Answer 9

I think that's a natural thought for many parents. Everybody has thoughts and hopes that other people may not find acceptable or politically correct. Don't worry about it anymore. Give yourself a break. You're only human and so is your son :)

Answer 10

it isnt wrong to hope your child is straight. you will want him to be happy,you can help him choose his sexuality by providing him with many opportunities to be around strong male role models. good men to help teach him boy like brhavior and how to respect himself and women. it is also important that you have a good relationship with the men in your life  

Answer 11

The only thing that will make your son g*y is biology.  A lot of g*y men have perfectly loving fathers around, and lots of straight men have no fathers.  I can understand you wanting a child perceived as "normal", though, and wanting to spare him insults and abuse in his life.  As long as you remember that whatever he grows up to be, he is always your child, and you need to love him unconditionally.  I agree with the previous poster - there's a lot worse he could be!

Answer 12

um.... Yeah it is wrong to think like that. Just bring him up in a culture that is not g*y if you really don't want him to be (maybe tell him some fairytales about how the prince finds princess charming or something). Just because he doesn't have a father doesn't mean he will be g*y.

Answer 13

Honestly, I wouldnt want my son to be g*y eaither. I would want blood related grandchildren.  

Answer 14

But...what's the? here?  No mother "wants" their child to be g*y!

Answer 15

having no father doesn't have any influence on your sons sexuality

Answer 16

I understand your concern, but I can tell you that not having a father around will not make him g*y. My brother and I were raised were raised by a single mom our whole lives, and he is as straight as can be lol. The same goes for a few of my guy friends, so I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. Just do the best you can for him yourself, and he'll be fine.  

Answer 17

I would NOT worry too much, seeing that it is most likely that people are born g*y and not "turned" g*y by their family environment. Unconditional love and normal motherly affection will be the absolute best thing for him and that is something YOU can control. All of this other stuff is out of your control: a trusting, warm relationship with YOU, gives him the absolute BEST chance in life, no matter what else happens!!! Now isn't that cool???  

Answer 18

I wish for my son to do well at his studies, get a job he loves, live a long and fulfilling life with a loving partner.  I don't care if the loving partner is M or F really.

Answer 19

Well just to make you feel better he will probably not be g*y.  Not having a father may do the opposite.  He is actually going to resent most men and actually be more in touch with the women he is with.  Don't doubt yourself just be a wonderful mom and he will be fine whether it be g*y or straight!!!

Answer 20

Yeah I think that's a little messed up. Sorry.

I'd be more worried about a child of mine getting into drugs, or something important like that.

Answer 21

I do not think its wrong, although lots of hetero sexual men are raised by single mothers, and the majority of them have more respect for women than men that are raised by both parents....that's my feeling on it....

Answer 22

it is okay i hav a few friends without dads for a reasons but they r okay. Just let him live his life and if he does shade that way gently push him Away

Answer 23

What an odd thing to worry about. Sounds like you should have bigger concerns being a single parent and all. Just focus on loving him and giving him what he needs now...don't worry about things that might happen 10 yers or more in the future (except for maybe saving for his college)

Answer 24

Thats not wrong because being g*y i imagine is a hard life to live. There are so many people that despise them and do things to hurt them emotionally and physically. Your just caring and worried for your child. Raise him right and he will not be g*y. It is all on how you raise a child.

Answer 25

You obviously have something against g*y people if you have a problem with your son possibly turning out g*y..

Seriously, just because there is no father figure in his life doesn't mean he will turn out g*y. And even if he does so what? More and more people are open to their sexuality no adays.

Answer 26

I don't think your thoughts are wrong, nobody wants their child to be g*y, naturally as parents we want to be Grandparents eventually. Not having a father or father figure won't make him g*y, possibly more sensitive to women, which isn't a bad thing.

Answer 27

just raise him to be a man. I believe the way a child is raised determines his sexual preference. Trust me, a boy who is around boy stuff, football, and other generaly guy stuff will deeply impact how he is as a man. I know girls who are tougher then me cuz they grew up with 3 older brothers. Get him involved in something where there is a strong male figure in his life.

Answer 28

no of course its not wrong. i have many g*y friends and i dont want my son to be g*y. i see the c**p they go thru for it and how hard it is on them emotionally. you want whats best for him so its not wrong!

Answer 29

I think most parents even though they would love their kids no matter what think that at least once in their child's life time. Just because he doesn't have a father or father figure in his life doesn't mean he won't grow into a respectable young man.Its all in the influences around him and how you raise him.

My 5 year old right now is going thru a phase of trying on his sisters dresses.I just let him be.

Also I have to disagree with adam I know several g*y man who grew up doing football baseball and all that.

I am sorry but if your childs attracted to the same s*x no matter how hard you try you can't change that and if you try to they are just going to exclued you from their life.

Answer 30

every parent doesn't want that but even if he ends up g*y by liking a guy should it matter?  i mean...  you as a mom want the best for your son and want him to be happy RIGHT?  soo as long as he's happy like that then, it should be alright...

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Answer 31

i dont think there's anything wrong thinking that you dont want your son to be g*y...anyway, if you're worried, let him hang out or play with some of your guy friends to have some male influence in his life.