Telling a child they have to be held back? ?

Question

This isnt my child but my brother,

anyways we told him today he was going to have to be held back because he is dislexic. I feel bad because he acts like it doesnt bother him untill its just me and him. he keeps asking me if everyone has to do this, and if people are born with dislexica.

tips on how to comfort him?

anyone going through the same thing?

[btw he is repeating 2nd and we also told him we thought it was best so he didnt have to take the taks test]

Answer 1

dyslexic, dyslexia

Make a commitment to help him with his academics this year. Explain that he is taking an extra year so that he can be sure he has the academic foundation to do well in school.

Dyslexia most certainly does not prevent him from excelling in school and it certainly is not the reason he was held back.

This is something that your parents should take seriously. It's a wonder that they only had one child who was held back this year.  

Answer 2

well i am 13 and my sister is being held back to. she is 9 and in 3rd grade. i really feel bad but her 2 best friends are getting hel back to because they all really need help. she is really sad seeing her best friend of all going into 4th grade and she will be with the "littlw kids" i just talk to her and to make her feel better we share a room now and her old room is our bi closet and we love it.

i really hope i helped<333

erica

Answer 3

there is plenty of evidence to suggest that making a child repeat a year should be the last option.

Answer 4

I hope other options were considered, Dyslexia is a disease that messes with imagery and holding children back isn't going to help.  a special IEP program should be initiated with the school for a year before discussing holding a child back.  Comforting your brother is fantastic, but maybe your parents should consider alternatives to holding him back.

Answer 5

Being held back often bothers parents more than it bothers the kids.  It's hard to keep in perspective that it's not a punishment, nor does it mean a person is stupid or retarded.  It's an opportunity to learn at the pace and age that's right for him.  The younger they are, the better the adjustment.  It's possible he's not just "acting" like it doesn't bother him, but it really may not bother him that much.  Some kids, especially boys, adapt well.  I think you're doing the right thing by encouraging him.  Be careful though; too much of a "you poor thing" tone of voice will send the message that he should be embarassed or feeling bad about this.

Answer 6

I don't see how holding him back is beneficial at all.  Dyslexia has nothing to do with intelligence.  He should just get extra help in order to process what he is being taught.   I can't imagine a school would do this.

Answer 7

Tell him he will be the oldest in the class! He might like that.

Answer 8

Urge your parents NOT to hold him back. He is NOT stupid. He just needs help with strategies to help him read and he should be able to get that in the resource room at his school while learning third grade level work for his other classes.

http://www.confidentreader.com/?gclid=CO...

http://www.epsbooks.com/dynamic/catalog/...

If he had an IEP, the school would have funding to buy him materials such as this to help him cope with his dyslexia.

He is NOT stupid. He is probably above average in intelligence and his dyslexia holds him back in understanding what he reads. The school is failing him if they think repeating the same material they attempted to teach him improperly the first time will have any positive effect doing it the same way the second time.

Your parents need to stick up for him and get him help with his dyslexia that the school should provide, not make HIM feel like a failure for what he cannot help, but what could be greatly improved with strategies and procedures.

Try printing something out for him in letters formed like this.

T

h

e

d

o

g

r

a

n

t

o

t

h

e

c

a

t

and see if he reads it better that way. If he does then get him a cardboard strip with a hole cut out so he can read one word at a time or one letter at a time without surrounding words on a page distracting him.

Don't let the school humliate your brother. They need to provide him the strategies he needs to read successfully. He can do it with the right tools.

How dare your parents let the school say your brother is stupid!!!

Answer 9

There's no easy way to help this because it's not his fault. Tell him that it's only going to be easy because he'll get to learn and understand the letters and numbers more easly. Also I don't know if his school has this but mine did talk to the princble about something they can do to help him. My school had something called "All Lab" They take the kids that need more help and help them and there's only kids in the class so he won't be alone