Telling a stranger in a restaurant they stink.?

Question

Today at my fave restaurant, there was a supremely smelly dirty man there, it's the second time I've seen him with his mother. I also noticed others, wait staff, included covering their noses, or avoiding them. On my way out I was tempted to put a note on their car that said "YOU STINK, STAY HOME" I kept it to myself and told my husband about it, he says I should have done it, something totally out of his character, which is usually so polite and conscientious. Next time I see them should I write the note?

Answer 1

No. Ask the wait-staff to seat you elsewhere and ask them to deal with it. If they won't, then management should do it. As a last resort tell them they will be losing your business. Who knows how many patrons are avoiding the place for this very reason? It's one of those things where the restaurant is getting BAD advertising. Word-of-mouth advertising can be their best friend or, in this case, their worst enemy.

The Muse

Answer 2

Yes, you should leave a note, but maybe not as harsh. Dealing with other people's personal odors is the absolute worst!! I don't care what kind of "condition" someone has (if that even exists), it's not right to offend other people with your stench! I had to deal with this working in restaurants, and usually the management didn't have the guts to say anything, so I was left to smell it.

Answer 3

has it occurred to you that if he smells that bad, maybe he already knows it? maybe he has a medical condition or something, you never know.

even if it is an apparent hygiene problem, it's not really any of your concern. if it's ruining your meal, ask your server if you can sit somewhere else.

stinky people have a right to eat out too, sorry to break it to you. how would you feel if someone left a note on your car that said "you're fat, stay home and diet" or "chew with your mouth closed" or something nasty like that? it's no different. whether the guy's smell is within his control or not, it isn't a complete stranger's part to point it out to him. leave that task for his friends or family, if they see fit.

Answer 4

NOOO that'Sz childish of yhu' if yhu' do that.....It'Sz childish b/c 4 one it'Sz not none of yhur' buisness if he stinks....and no one told yhu, yhu' have the rite 2 tell him he stinks or any other people b/c obviously he dont care and he ain't attemting to take ah bath so just...LEAVe iT ALOnE!!!

Answer 5

If their car is dirty, write on the windshield "I am dirty wash me and my owner!"

Answer 6

You could write a note, but guaranteed they already know they smell. And they don't care. I've dealt with that before, and like you said, you just stay away, and then when they leave, you Lysol everything. You could move to another table, if it's that bad.

I doubt anyone has had the guts to tell these people that they stink. They probably wouldn't come back to that restaurant.

Go for it and write the note!