Telling him shouldnt be a problem.. but for me it is...?

Question

I cheated on my boyfriend. We've been dating for two years now, but he's started to become very abusive towards me. I'm much too afraid to tell him and i'm too afraid to leave him.

what am i supposed to do?

Answer 1

you should definitly think about leaving him. one because he is abusing you and 2 because you cheated on him which clearly means that things aren't working out. to make sure you don't get hurt, have your friend drive you to his house, let you end things, and then drive you home. if he doesn't now you cheated, i don't think you need to mention that for your own safety but that doesn't make it ok to do again. good luck

Answer 2

I hope he gives you a good smack in the face.

Answer 3

You should never be in any relationship that has an element of fear. If the feeling is not genuine, and you pointed out the main reason why you should not be in his company, FEAR. The next step is beatings and broking body parts. I think if you are teenager and in h.s., talk to a counselor.I am a h.s. teacher and I have seen situation liken to yours. It only got worse. He does not want you and do not want you to have anyone else in your life. Run, not walk, to get a restraining order. If not you will again get hurt. You will be beaten. If he can hit you and make you fearful one time, imagine if you find someone that really like you, he would not want to talk to you because of the imagine drama.

Answer 4

Just tell him, hope he doesn't break up with you. AND don't do it again.

Answer 5

umm, you cheated on someone who is abusive and your afraid of ? that's dumb to do.

leave his *** your not married to him nor does he own you .

Answer 6

ohh, im sorry but i think you cheated on him because he was abusive and you need to leave! do not worry about him tell a friend or family member and leave!!!

Answer 7

Its just a boyfriend. Its not like you are married or something. You don't need to tell him anything and even if you do, you are not married, so why should you care?

Answer 8

No offense but I'm going to tell you how it is: You're a s**t, if you wouldn't of cheated you wouldn't have a problem, He deserves better.

Answer 9

u shouldnt been with 41 year old guy at 13. tell your parents whats going on. theres no way they could possibly know about this situation or they wouldnt of let it happen

Answer 10

Do him a favor and just dump him.

Single life is awesome.

Answer 11

how about leave him?

Answer 12

Well..if you wanted to tell him, i would have a friend with you or close by to back you up just in case he gets abusive or something..being in an abusive relationship isnt good for anyone...i would explain how you feel,give each other space, and move on

Answer 13

tell him the truth about what you did and how you feel.

but have a friend nearby watching so if he gets abusive you have back-up.

Answer 14

you should never stay in a relationship you're intimidated into staying in. i hope you don't mean scared for your physical health if you were to leave him. which if he is being abusive you need to.

get help from your friends and if you need to to take lawful action like a restraining order if, after you tell him that you do not want to see him, he does anythign towards you.  

Answer 15

Get the h**l out of this unhealthy and abusive relationship.  Ask your parents or teachers for help.  Hire a bouncer to protect you and get a restraining order on him.\\Get out and get help ASAP!

Answer 16

You have to tell him soon. The later you tell him the more pain full it will be.

And if he is being abuse full you need to dump this man ASAP!!

Answer 17

look, you have to leave him. abusive relationships will damage you for the rest of your life.

Answer 18

their is only two things you can do. Report him to the police or set him up. The fact that he hit you is enough to get him sent to jail. He should not hit you! Why are you still with him?

Think about it this way. Females are precious. and should be treated preciously. Like a Queen. The reason you cheated on him is because you found someone else that treat you way better. i don't blame you for cheating on that scum bag.

So report it to the police before it get worse and it turns a different road.

Answer 19

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Answer 20

Get out of it while you can. If you do tell him then the abuse may become worse. However if your too afraid to break it off with him drop subtle hints about it and ask him stuff liek what would you do if you cheated etc, he may even break it off himself. You really need to egt out though otherwise he'll destroy your confidence etc.

Answer 21

you have to leave him i'm glad you cheated on him hes abusive that is worse then cheating, you can find a much better guy then him. Guys that can be abusive to girls are sick, they are worth nothing! you are worth so much more, you can do so much better for yourself hence the reason you chated, even if you "love" this abusive idiot its not the right boyfriend for you, deep down you know this.

Do whats best for you, not whats best for anyone else, your feelings are the most important not his, he has none if he can be abusive. He donesn't deserve you.

Good Luck :)  

Answer 22

you have to overcome your fear and just confront him and tell him everything. tell him you cheated on him, tell him how you feel about the abuse and tell him you're leaving. it is the best thing for you to do.

good luck.

Answer 23

Why cant you leave him ? Surely you have friends or even your dad that can take care of him if he becomes nasty.

You should not keep quiet about his abusive behaviour as this can lead to him having complete control over your life. Nobody needs to put up with this and you have to find the strength to walk away.

The trouble is I think you are suffering with guilt because of your cheating and that makes you think you deserve the way he is treating you.

This is an unhealthy relationship and the sooner you leave the better.

Dont forget you can always go to the police for harassment if he gives you any bother when you go.

Good luck and be strong.