Telling me i'm lucky?

Question

I'm wondering if this has happened to anyone else. I'll be talking about my children and say something along the lines of them going to bed at 9 and waking up, most times, no earlier then 9-9:30. Or I'll talk about my husband who does everything, he cooks, cleans, potty trains etc.. you name it, he does it.

My question is, does anyone else get the, Wow you're pretty lucky, comment?

I don't feel that it's luck i feel that it's good parenting. And thost people who think it's luck are doing the job all wrong and letting their child, usually run the show.

So, Do you feel lucky?? Or just a well rounded parent?

Answer 1

Im both..My daughter has slept through the Night since she was 3 months old..and Yes it is part luck...Some kids just dont go to sleep and actually stay asleep..a parent whos baby  wakes up a few times a night is no less a better a parent who baby who sleeps

**EDIT**

I do not feel you should let kids fall asleep to TV. I have seen so many of my friends who have older babies put TVs in there kids room and all the kid do is sit up and watch it and don't go to sleep.

Answer 2

I sure am lucky. My children go to bed at 9:30 but they are good children-well behaved. My husband can do anything a,d I mean anything from changing the baby, to cleaning up! I sure am lucky to have him around. Right now I am 12 weeks pregnant with my fourth baby and am having quite a bad time with the pregnancy sickness and all- he is always there for me at whatever time. Yes I am Lucky!!! I dont intend to have any tv in kids bedroom!!!

Answer 3

I certainly don't agree that parents who have children that don't sleep through the night are doing the job all wrong and letting their children run the show.  I'm a first time parent and my son is finally sleeping through the night from 7:30pm to 7am at age of 13 months old.  He started sleeping through the night at 11 months old.  

The fact that I was loving, patient, understanding, working a job, and getting up with him 4-5 times a night the first 11 months without thinking twice makes me a good parent.

And no, my son does not and will not have a television in his room.

Answer 4

well rounded parent.

Moms and Dads should both be involved.

Answer 5

It is a huge matter of luck to have good sleepers.  I adopted both my children at the age of three from horrible situations - and they are BOTH excellent sleepers.  My sister, who is an amazing parent (firm, patient, loving) has two girls who can't sleep past 6:30 in the morning no matter what. SO yes, you are lucky to have children who sleep so well - just as I am.   And having a husband that helps out so much - that's a great partnership - which many women don't have and so feel thaty you are lucky to have.

And I say NO to a tv in the room - I think it is a bad idea all around.

Answer 6

Yes, I feel lucky. I know I have busted my butt to teach my children right from wrong and everything else but I feel ever so lucky to have such a wonderful family (although they aren't always so wonderful.....lol). In all reality it has nothing to do w/luck but hard work but the feeling is there all the same, like right now, the boys are upstairs playing w/their action figures, castles, pirate ships, etc. having a blast and the sound makes me feel like the happiest mother alive. It has nothing to do with luck, like you, I have no tv's in the kids rooms but we also have packed away all video games for the nice months, we have no cable period which has forced them to use their imaginations leaving room for this wonderful moment.

No, cable is not bad, no, tv or video games either, but they are an awful temptation which we have removed and are better off for it.

The husband part, my hubby cooks and works and I feel quite lucky for that as well (considering my cooking is nowhere near as good, mine is merely edible where his is mouth watering).

There is nothing wrong about feeling lucky for having a wonderful family even if luck isn't part of it.

Answer 7

Since my son has been sleeping thru the night since he was 4 weeks old... I considered myself lucky then.

Now that he's still sleeping thru the night at 8 months old, I consider myself to be a good parent.  

So... I'm both lucky and well rounded, lol

As for the tv... No tv in his room until he's much, much older... I'm talking maybe 10 years old.

Answer 8

I don't agree with it being luck. It has to do with the parents parenting skills from the beginning. My kids slept in their own cribs since birth and slept through the night around 1 mo. I planned it this way and I had a strategic plan...whenever they would cry at night, I would go in their rooms with the lights off, and I would hold them and kiss them but there would be do eye contact and I would not speak to them...I would caress them and so forth and once they had eaten or were changed I would lay them back in their cribs....I also had a routine...I would bathe them in a nice warm bath, massage them and lather them in sleepy time lotion and I had a lavendar and chamomile air freshner in their room.......it made it soooo relaxing! and I would put them in some cozy warm pj's....and they slept great!  My son is 4 now and my daughter is 2 and we still have naps from 12-2 and I have an alarm on my cell phone that goes off at noon...as soon as they hear it, they stop what they are doing and yell NAP TIME and head to their beds and sleep til 2 and their bed time is at 8pm....and I have no issues....you just need to be constitent.......I think it is unhealthy for parents to allow their kids to stay up all hours of the night, those are the kids that are soooooooo freaking tired that they are yelling, screaming and kicking in the store and banging their heads on the floor! So no it is not LUCK!  My husbands Aunt just came into town from Mexico and we took her to the mall, there my 2yr old saw an Elmo doll (she loves Elmo) and grabed it and said I need it, I need it...I took the Elmo from her and told her no, you don't need it, out it back and walked away....my husbands aunt thought that it was sooooo adorable that she said "I need it vs I want it" but she was soooooooo impressed that my daughter didn't cry or throw a fit cause I didn't buy her this elmo....again, it has to do with parenting skills! My kids are spoiled but they no when NO MEANS NO and that is it!

Oh, and I agree! No tv's in kids rooms! I have 3 tv's......one in the family room, one in my room and one in the kids playroom....that is where they watch tv and only there!

Answer 9

I feel like I'm lucky to have found the perfect parenting & life partner for me.  Without him, I wouldn't have the parenting skills that I have.  We've worked them out together, learning from each other and from the kids along the way.  If I had passed up my opportunity to know him or if either of us had had different experiences in life, we may not have ended up being the parents that we are today.

So, it is luck.  Or fate.  Or random coincidence.  Sure, we had to work to make the most of the opportunities that chance threw our way, but, still, it was lucky that they were there & that we noticed them (or stumbled up on them), anyway.

Answer 10

I feel lucky, but also a good parent. People can have all the luck in the world but still be a bad parent. I do agree mostly with what you say, though. My son is well behaved and we have a good relationship and a happy family. I get a lot of remarks that I'm lucky because my son doesn't act up all the time or because our family don't constantly argue. I don't see that as luck, I just see it as we've done what we had to do and this is where it's got us. We didn't just sit back and let luck do everything, we worked hard for our family and we appreciate what we have because of it. My fiance gets a lot of people calling her lucky, because I do equally as much work as her. I cook, clean, take my children out, change nappies - everything. I don't drink or smoke and my family is more important than anything else. I don't think that is lucky for my fiance, I think it is me being a real man and a good Dad.

Anyone that thinks this is purely luck is wrong. People tend to think that all men drink endless amounts and don't do anything around the house or care for their family. I was a single Dad for a few years, people seem to think that's amazing. Having a man who helps out and doesn't give you all the work shouldn't be lucky, it should be normal but that's not the way it is nowadays. People think that children are all misbehaved and never sleep or do anything right, but if they were better parents then they wouldn't consider it luck.

Answer 11

Your children's excellent sleep habits are partly a matter of luck.  I am a good parent but my son is simply a poor sleeper no matter what I do.

As for your husband doing all that stuff... well you can pat yourself on the back for picking a good man.  ;)

Answer 12

Regarding raising the kids I believe it's good parenting.  My kids are the same way as yours.

Regarding having a husband that always helps and does things around the house, again my husband is just like yours, I would say that I am d**n lucky.