The 'pregnancy pact' among high school girls in Glouster: Would it be as controversial if 20somethings did it?

Question

We've all heard about the supposed "pregnancy pact," where a group of 15 and 16-yr-olds wanted to get pregnant young and raise their kids together. Whether it was an intentional pact, or simply a group of young pregnant girls supporting each other, is moot. The point is, the so-called "pregnancy pact" is creating controversy and causing many a person to shake his head.

Hypothetically, what if a group of unmarried 22-to-25-yr-old girls did something like that? Do you think there'd be as much controversy and criticism? Do you think there'd be any criticism at all? And what are your reasons why? Just curious.

Answer 1

I think that anytime a woman decides to go ahead and have children without the father involved is wrong.  There is a reason it takes two people to make a baby.  If you believe in God at all you would have to believe that he would not agree with such behavior.  It is also extremely selfish on someones part to do this, even more so a group of 22 year olds who should have enough common sense and know better.  To willingly put a child in a position where they do not have a father in their life, for the sake of holding a baby is really low.  Also how would the supposed be going and getting knocked up?  Anyone who would do that is not considering the mans feelings or the fact that he might want to be part of his offspring's life.  Today's culture and society makes me sick!

Answer 2

at 22 you are considered an adult there for you arresponsible for your actions. At 22 you would be out of high school and possibly college. You can get a job and an apartment at 22. You can't do any of these things when you are 15 or 16.

Answer 3

Shoulnt be appropriate for any aged group. Just worst for younger 15-16 year old, because the responsiblity will sadly fall solely on the parents and not the actual teens who made the dumb choice. But either way having babies out of wedlock is worn in God's eyes no matter the age and level of maturity.

Answer 4

in my opinion i believe that there wouldnt be much critcism and controversy what so ever because nowadays most of the early and young pregancy attention is mainly focused on teens.

as women in their 20's they are "fully grown" adults and should be fully mature enough to realize what they are doing and what they would want. so if they wanted to get pregant it could happen in many ways.

but the fact they are unmarried might have church officials and those who believe in s*x after marriage create a controversy about that. due to the fact that "they are still young and stupid"

and the very simple fact that they are not married whatsoever!

in some cases those who have babies with past teen years its with a boy or girlfriend they trust a lot, known a long  time, or just wanted to have s*x.

so either way you have it you can make something out of anything basically.

Answer 5

Weather 15-16 or 22-25 year old girls/women decided to make such a decision would still be controversial topic.  

I think it really the idea and age range of the 15-16 year old girls that would decide to do this vs. the 22-25 year old women.  Think of it this way 15-16 year old girls would not have even have began life vs. the 22-25 year old women.  I know that the 15-16 year old girls would be able to get a job but would it really be enough to support their needs as a young mother (daycare, personal neccessities, pampers, milk, clothing for both mom and child, etc.) Besides, having a child so young would negotiate the future of the education of each girl.

It would be likely that women between the ages of 22-25 would be able to support their child much better as they would have already graduated from high school (continued studies-college is optional) which just being a high school graduate alone you can get paid much better than minium wage as a 15-16 year old at a job.  There would be a better sense of responsibility from 22-25 year old women, they would be able to provide the neccessities of both themselves and their child (not saying it would be easy) but it would be more adaptable for women in this age range.

Answer 6

theres more criticism because the girls are so young ,

with 22-25 yr olds they have a little more knowledge

about raising kids and they are out of school.

Answer 7

It doesn't sound like a wise idea at any age.  If you've ever been disappointed by a friend over something trivial, then mulitply that by several friends all 'counting on one another' to do what is best for their children.  Not really a good plan.  This is an idea hatched by people who have never raised a child.

In my friendship group of married '30-something' Mommies, we all respect one another and help out as needed.  However, we all have vastly different households.  The way I choose to raise my children is a very personal choice that wouldn't translate well into a group project.  Variety in household styles is a beautiful and necessary thing.  Each parent (preferably parents) should be free to make their own lifestyle choices, especially on issues such as diet and discipline methods.  Group dynamics don't allow for effective individual choices.

Essentially, you'd be running a group daycare...like a poligimist household without the man. :)  Shared responsabilities may sound good on the outset, but there is so much room for strife and problems.

What if one girl wants more than one child?  What happens if one gets married and leaves the group.  How do they replace her emotional and financial support?  What if one person eats all the Friuty Pebbles?  What happens if several members want 'out' and the group can't support themselves anymore?  What color would you paint the living room?  What if someone shrinks your favorite sweater in the wash?  Would this plan work all the way up through the children leaving the home?  How would the group decide on saving for future education?  Who would be covered on the car insurance?  Our society is simply not structured in a way to accommodate casual group 'families'.  I think that's probably a good thing.

But then, I'm rather old fashioned, and am a big fan of the orignial Mom/Dad family plan :)

Answer 8

By the time a girl is 22 hopefully she's grown up enough to have the sense of responsibility it takes to raise a child. I don't think there's anything wrong with 22 and up doing the 'pregnancy pact' thing. Makes a bit more sense having them be older rather than still being a sophomore in high school.