The 5 year old boy I babysit for is practically sexually harassing me. What should I do?

Question

For the past week or two I have been being somewhat of a mother's helper for 2 boys. One is 6 and one is 5. The 5 year old constantly makes innappropriate comments about my b*****s and tries to touch them. I help out the grandma because the parents are divorced, the dad is never home, and the mom is very mentally unstable. I don't feel like this is normal behavior at all for a 5 year old boy and it makes me very uncomfortable. To make matters worse, I have to bathe him. I am under the impression that the mother is emotionally abusing him. Could his odd behavior be the result of her physically abusing him as well? Please tell him what I should do and your thoughts on why he may be acting this way.

Answer 1

if you are very  sure that this is what is happening then you must tell the social services about what your suspicions is i have a 3 yr old and 6yr old and never do what you have said

Answer 2

thats kinda weird.....you have to bathe a 5 year old? ask the mom whats up or the grandma...sorry i cant help..

Answer 3

Well, it could be the influence of an older party. You should tell him it;s innappropriate, and mabye go to the police to see what you could do about a situation like this. I doubt you could press charges since he's 5, but you could probably find ways within the law to punish him for this innappropriate acts./

Answer 4

This is probably the result of his mother's parenting, I agree with you. Five year olds would not develop this abnormal behavior, especially performing actions like these, without having something or someone interfering in an abusive manner. You should talk to the grandma, and maybe she can help out her daughter. Meanwhile, you will never know what exactly is causing this behavior unless you ask the boy or grandmother. You are his babysitter, you care for him and hold the responsibility to his life almost, maybe you could ask him if anything is happening in the household that is innapropriate.

Answer 5

The little boy has probably been exposed to sexual stuff in some sort of way, maybe it was movies or an actual person doing something sexual to him or around him. You should tell the grandma or somebody else that is capable of handling the situation well. Talk to the little boy too, ask him where he learned that stuff and where he's seen it done before.

Hope this helps.

Answer 6

if you believe his mom is abusing him you should contact socialk services and let them investigate. PLus children are monkey see monkey do so he either is learning it from tv or someone close to him....

Answer 7

talk to the grandma about it.....then go from there.

Answer 8

He's probably learning these things from TV. My 7 year old brother has started cursing and making "That's what she said" jokes because he's been watching Mind of Mencia and The Office. Cut him off and teach him what is right and wrong. Ask the child where he learned to do that.

Answer 9

Stop taking care of him.

Answer 10

I would not assume that just because he is curious even at his age that the mother must be abusing him. Have you been on the playground to see what kids say to each other? Its pretty shocking. Also they probally let him watch any kind of show on TV and even the news has some shocking things on their,  kids pick up on everything. Even though it is unsettling I would just tell him No that is not appropriate behavior and not to do that anymore or you will not be able to come over as you don't approve of it. He probally has seen his mother dressing and knows she looks different than he does and notices it on others. I would also discuss it with the grandma.