The Biggest Question of My Life...is this right...?

Question

hi...

2 yrs back i started chattin with this guy on the internet...he is like 7 yrs older than me...we dont even stay in the same city or state...

then we used to talk like every single day...it was like impossible to stay without talking to him...and then we fell in love...we confessed but we both knew that nothing could happen of it because he was already enagaged which i knew before...and like he couldnt break it off bcz of his parents...and pratically nthng would ever happen...

so we never even called each other or met...jus seen each other's photos...

so we continued chatting and it was like the most beautifully perfect thing in the world...we love eachother so much...that it was unbeliveable...cz internt love? these things jus dont happen to people like me...

but he told me since its not possible for us to get together i should start seeing someone else too...

so theres this guy who was a close friend, and we strtd going out...

hes very nice too...if it wasnt for the internet guy, he'd be the love of my life...

he loves me to death...i kno it bcz he's cried every single time i've cried in front of him...hes a bit sensitive...

i like him and really care about him a lot and i love him too but not as much as i love the other guy...

even when we're making love i miss him so so much...

i even cry when we're doing it cz it just doesnt feel right...

but since we cant be together is it right for me to be with my current boyfriend...?

bcz my boyfriend is not really the one i miss at night or the one i dream about my great future with...

i kno it is so superficial but what do i do...?

Answer 1

It isn't a normal process that the Internet guy and you went through. And it's something would never happened in the past decades either. It's platonic! But it's romantic anyway, so let's applaud for the Internet!

I think it depends on what you really want in your partner. Be interested in 2 guys or more, usually means you love neither of them. So I'd say leave both of them alone and wait patiently for your only soul mate.

Good luck!

Answer 2

be honest with your current boyfriend. I hope you can remain friends, but I know if you're thinking of somebody else while you're with him... and not wanting to be with him, thats just wrong and hurtful.

Answer 3

I perfectly understand you..into that relationship too but mine is not committed to anyone (according to him)..but you..as he made it clear to you that he's engage so obviously he's in a fantasy world when he speaks to you..better give the real guy who's close to you and loves you for real a chance..

this internet guy is just a dream..a fantasy..and we all know that when we dream and fantasize we always make it perfect until 'lives happily ever after' but hey..wake up there's this guy close to you who really exist..to find true love..you find and fall in an imperfect way..

Answer 4

You have to forget the guy on the internet It won't happen even he told you. Move on it's for the best  

Answer 5

I can tell you're a nice girl, but please, this internet guy was already engaged with someone, how could he possibly couldn't break it off because his parents, he is an adult, older enough to make his own decision.  You both don't even stay in the same city or state.  This is only a fantasy, not in a reality.  All I can say that you're lucky now, you have a current boy friend that loves you and cares for you.  What do you want more?  Hello!!!! wake up time for you!  You got the right to be with your current boy friend, he's not even yours, he was already engaged!!!!!  another wake up call for you!!!!!  Hello, there!  be realistic!     Take care and enjoy your life.

Answer 6

too long, lazy to read

but nevertheless, its better to trust yourself

Answer 7

If "internet" guy loves you as much as he says, absolutely nothing would keep him from you.  Plus, given that you have never interacted with this person on any real level, is it possible this is nothing more than infatuation?  And based on how you arrived at the decision that the current boyfriend loves you, I am questioning your ability to discern what is true love.

Answer 8

I think you're doing the right thing, think of this, this Internet guy already found someone and is moving, it's time you do the same, you can't get everything you want in life and sometimes you must compromise and make sacrifices. Don't dwell over this, put all of this behind you and move on, the past doesn't exist anymore and it's all in your head..... Concentrate on your bf love him to death as he loves you more than anything in this world.

If you both share the same optimistic mind then the relationship will be amazing and everything will be magical.

Remember, this Internet guy was just another guy, I mean, If you never meet him before in person then how could you have known that he would be the right one for you ?

It's a difficult subject to understand and comprehend however never the less put this behind you and concentrate on your bf.

I wish you and your bf all the best it's time to move on, just like the Internet guy did....

Best

Jordan Pickell