The Delima of loneliness killing me?

Question

Dear All,

I am an IT Engineer, and i have worked very hard to earn a solid and respective position in society. I have been very successful both in studies and in job. I am going to be 26 yrs old this year. My delima is that i need a girl friend. At this point of time in my life im feel very alone and i need some who i can talk and share my feelings with. I nor made a girl friend before neither i know how to talk with girls, you can say im totally unaware of techniques that guys use to impress girls. I never gave attention to this thing in past but my friends did and they are quite happy now coz they hv got wht they wanted. I am a shy kind of person, i dont usually talk much but now i want to talk myself out to some one. I have good intention for the girl that will become my girl friend.

Now can you people help in getting rid of my shyness in this regard coz this thing is eating me... i feel alone and alone day by day. Please suggest me the correct path which can lead to my satisfation.

Answer 1

The best thing to do is get out and get busy.  Volunteer for an organization where you will be exposed to a lot of people.   That way you can start conversations with women about the volunteer topic and gradually get to know them.  What impresses a woman most is sincerity and a sense of humor.  If you need help finding an organization, contact your local United Way office.  They have a list of organizations looking for volunteers.

Or you could join some other kind of group, like a sports team.  Getting to know women first in an open social setting will give you the experience to get to know them on a more personal level.

Answer 2

If sounds like you need to a friend, someone who you can talk too. A girlfriend will not necessarily take away your loneliness.......Loneliness comes from within, you need to be able to share your emotions and feelings to be able to move on.

Have you thought about seeing a counselor to get to the root of your loneliness?

Good luck

Answer 3

Just be yourself. You don't have to learn tricks to impress girls. Work on yourself a little and try to build up more interests and hobbies.