The Letter from the Ex of 2 years ago......PLEASE ADVIZE?

Question

Nearly 3 years ago i was going out with someone it wasn't as serious as i'd have liked it to have been. I didnt get to see him as much as i wanted to, i was a little naive and enjoyed the attention he was giving me. I got runover a two years ago and i was still seeing him. I was in bad condition, in intensive care then i was put onto a normal ward for three months. He did come and stay with me for a week while i was in intensive care then he would just visit me when he could. When i started to recover more i phoned him and text him alot i missed him and i was lonely in hospital and feeling sorry for myself. Then one day i received a phone call from him saying that if i hear rumours ro ignore them as they wasnt true and that he couldnt see me for a while. I was obviously upset because i was in a bad situation. A week later i told my parents what had happened and they told me they had something to tell me. They told me that they had heard rumours that he had been slepping with my cousin and that they had been seen together a couple of times and that he had been seen coming out of her house. My parents confronted her and she denied it. I hadnt heard of shane for two years, but then three days ago i saw him driving past me and he saw me. He then drove past me another three times.I thought this was a bit strange. I was going to work tonite as a barmaid and someone called my name, i turned a round and i didnt recognise this person. He gave me an envelope with my name on and said this is for you dont show nobody else its from shane.

I got into work and i read the letter it basically said that he wanted to settle some things because he was sick of the bad feeling there was. He also said that he was happy for me as i am now married with a son. He said he wanted to meet me, he put down a time and place and said if i wasn't there then he wouldnt bother me again. He said that he didnt want nobody else to see the letter he didnt sign it either.

I told my husband about it because i'm such an honest person and i wouldnt want to lie to him or hurt him. My husband feels as though his territory is being walked on and wants to know why shane wants to meet me. My husband is also quiet angry what do you think he should do? What do you think i should do? and most importantly what do you think my EX wants...i dont want to meet him...my husband does (probably for a fight)

Answer 1

Just bin the letter and forget about it, he has a bl*ody cheek contacting you after this long, but dont either of you meet him, cos it aint worth it, it wont change the past!!!

Answer 2

e obviousley cares for you but not enoygh to be public about it.stay with your hubby.

Answer 3

Sounds like he's just trying his luck now he's saw you again, because he hasn't bothered in 2 years! Don't meet him!!

Answer 4

Don't bother with your ex. Try and get your husband to calm down, your ex isn't worth the trouble for all the obvious neglect he's given you. Just ignore him completely and let him live with his guilt.

Answer 5

Sounds like he wants to find if anything is still there in you.Most probably

by the route of convincing you there was nothing between your cousin

and him.If you agree to see him your opening the door.It isn't has if you

stayed friends as you may have with others.If i was your husband i wouldn't bother myself with him.Unless you agreed to meet him.But you

told him you didn't.So forget it and him.Being honest is fine but you can

be to honest.Think of your husband when you post.People who know you both are on here.Do you want them to know all about your life.

Answer 6

Rip the letter up and throw it in the bin and forget about him.

Dont meet him and dont let your husband meet him either.

He is an ex and its in the past.

Its tough that he still feels bad, it is not your place to make that better.  

You are married now and this ex has no right to walk into your life after TWO YEARS and cause disruption.

If he keeps driving past you and getting other people to pass you notes, then go to the police station and report him... because to be quite honest that kind of behaviour is a bit creepy.