The Love of our life: What is the worst not ever find it or lose it?

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The Love of our life: What is the worst not ever find it or lose it?

Answer 1

losing the love of your life is terrible it adds poison to your future relationships. i have never recovered from being dumped by Michelle i still see her in my dreams twenty years on.

Answer 2

believe me losing it

if you never find the love of your life you never know what your missing also the excruciating pain in your heart and the hurt like infinite lead aprons are on hanging of your heart

even though it's better to have loved and to have lost then to listen to a album my McFly   -   anythings better than that

Answer 3

not ever find it..At least when you have found it, you have already lived a dream, an illusion if you want this term, but at least you lived it, it has lived up your expectations, and you have the good or bad experience...

Never find it measn that you ll fall on the first one (seeking the love by desperation)without even knowing the positive or negative consequences it can bring to you...

Answer 4

Lose it. If you never found it you would not know any different.

Answer 5

lose it..!!!!

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Answer 6

I think the worst thing is never find someone to love!  

Answer 7

It is worse to never find it. If you have experienced it, at least you have expanded upon your knowledge and experience in life and have felt that intense love. It does hurt to lose it, but it deepens who you are and your reality in life. To never have experienced such a love, one has no basis of what it feels like which can be ultimately satisfying, even if for a short duration.

Answer 8

I remember when I was 15, I used to pray like crazy to find love.  I wanted to know so badly what it was like to have a boyfriend, date, kiss, get phone calls from a significant other.  It was all such a big mystery and I would spend time thinking about it and I'd listen to my friends and be fascinated by what I heard.  I wanted that firsthand experience so so badly.

Then my prayers were answered and I fell madly in love with a guy a met through a friend.  We had the most awesome romance!!  It was everything I had hoped it would be and more.  He loved me so much and we couldn't bear being apart.  We married when I graduated and life was perfect, until I turned 21.  After that we grew apart and eventually divorced.

The divorce was the hardest thing I've ever gone through in my life to date.  It took me 10 years to finally put this lost love to rest.  There was such an emptiness, a void, a despair that was so great that it made sense to me why sometimes people die over love.  I was inconsolable, miserable, and I became a bland, gray, shell of the person a used to be for many years.  To this day I still silently acknowledge those "ghost anniversaries" and I find myself missing him, wishing things would have been different, wondering why we couldn't have just stayed that gloriously happy newlywed couple forever.

All things considered, in looking back I think it would have been better to not find love, because my first love was "the love of my life."  Losing that was just like losing a person to death, but it's ten times worse because we both still live, remember, and remain forever distanced to spare ourselves any more pain.

Answer 9

Hello,

Interesting Question. You can approach this question from many angles, but I believe that the worst, is to have found someone who you know is the love of your life, and lose them...for whatever the reason may be.

Adam D.

Answer 10

Finding it, then losing it.  It's all part of the lessons of life we should all learn.

Answer 11

Not ever find it: 'tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all'

Although saying that, poor Laura in the Glass Menagerie isn't any happier- well she was momentarily.

Answer 12

never to have found it at all.  

Answer 13

I would say both are worst.

Never to have loved, is like never to have truly lived this life.

But to lose love, is to have lost the will to live this life.

Answer 14

That is a tough one. I suppose I would have to say the worst would be not ever finding love. You have a lifetime or whatever time you had together of special moments and memories to reflect on, that perhaps no one else could ever touch in you. Those memories are always tucked away in a special place in your heart and mind. Your heart will always ache for the love that you lost, no matter how many years go by. But--The worst thing about losing "the love of your life", is that you will always be comparing each person that you have a special connection with to that "love of your life." No one else will ever measure up I'm afraid.Being in love is wonderful, but being in love with someone you are not with is really painful and sad. However, we must go on. Perhaps someone will come along who will come close enough to that little special place in your heart, that you will slowly open up and let him in.

Answer 15

I feel that losing the love of your life has to be the most painful, if not the most painful thing that can happen.

You have felt true love and perhaps believed it would stay for eternity, only to be cut short and left knowing that they are out there but you cannot be with them.

In comparison, having not found true love perhaps means you are unaware of who they are and what it feels like, so hope will drive you.

Answer 16

The worst is to never have found it.

My husband is in hospital at the moment.

I am beside myself with worry.

We have been together for 3 and a half years and married for only 1 year.

I feel it is too soon to lose him after this short time but if the worst happens and he doesn't come back home to me, then I will be forever grateful for the last 3 and a half years.

I have told him that I will never marry again or be in another relationship as I will always love him but he says that if the worst happens as I am only 29 that he wants me to find some1 else when I am ready. I never will want any1 else though

Answer 17

I think not finding it would be the worst for you would be forced to believe that s/he does not exist.

But if that person is meant to be the love of your life, then you are supposed to be together forever. But if the other person does not feel that way, then s/he is not the love of your life.

Thanks for asking dear

Answer 18

To never find it, at least if you find it and lose it, you have experienced it and you have all the memories.

Answer 19

If you find the love of your life at least you have experienced that bliss but there are advantages not having found it because you will not yearn for times in the past.  

Answer 20

I think losing it.

Answer 21

I'd say lose it, as if you never had it you wouldn't know.. what you never had you can't miss

Answer 22

Certainly never find it !!!

Answer 23

not find it, if you lose them , you may find another, or win them back

never finding someone to love is really depressing, it would be better to love someone for a while then lose them

Answer 24

I would say, to lose it. Coz if you've never had sthg you can never truly miss it, but if you had it and lost it your pain can far outweigh the curiosity caused by never having had it. For example, I'd never had oysters before, everyone raves on about them, so one time I tried them and I found them revolting and wished I hadn't bothered, if that's a reasonable example to illustrate my point :)

Answer 25

Never finding it because you are in search of something but you know that it's not going to be there so why search at all. You are just leading your self to the life of path and misery even more. Losing it is the hardest thing to do because you know you had it in your hand once but knowing that you know that it's true and there is something call love out there you are happy to know better than not knowing at all. I say never finding it is the worst.

Answer 26

It has to be worse to never find love at all. I know that losing someone is very painful, but at least you have the memories to keep.

Answer 27

The worst would be to not ever find love. When a person doesn't find love he or she would wind up going through life alone and not ever knowing the true meaning. Also sometimes people like to say that they want to wait til they find someone to love before having s*x, and if they never find love well they might become the 40 year old virgin. "Joy and pain is all in the game of love", and it's an experience that a person should cherish because not everyone finds love.

-A good song that would relate is "SWV- Love is so Amazing"