The absolute love of my of my life hates me what should i do?

Question

OK well Ive never loved anyone like her! Well i met her a long time ago when we were just little kids and from that second i just fell totally in love with her! The only problem was i was to scared to admit it to her. I had years to tell her but i was just to much of a chicken. Not only that she used to get all excited and scream my name every time she saw me at a party or event and i still couldn't tell her how i felt. Until finally i hatched an idea to send her this note after graduation telling her how much i love her. The only problem was she was dating this complete jerk who wouldn't stop teasing me about it and made me say stuff to him that i didn't mean after that the girl started treating me like c**p until one night i snapped and said some of the worst things you could say to a person ! It was like a completely different person talking to her. Now till this day she despises me and Ive tried everything to get her love and forgive me and nothings working. She even broke up with that jerk and she still hates me! I even gave up this fancy prep school just to be with her in her school and she still doesnt care! I even made a promise to myself that if i messed up on her i would never love again! So i cant give up on her that easily... she means everything to me and Ive never felt this way before someone please tell me what to do?!

Answer 1

You may have never felt that way before, but you will feel that way again.

You really do have to pick up your life and move on. Women often won't respect a guy who is too 'easy' or who is too quick to give, so even if you don't give up on her, you should at least appear as though you're moving on.

Look for an opportunity to talk with her alone and without distractions. If you can, tell her that you have cared about her for a long time (don't use the word love -- it could be scaring her!) and were too shy to say anything before you did. Tell her you would love (here's where it's okay!) to get to know her better and spend more time with her. No matter what you do, don't pressure her and don't rush anything, or she'll run from you again.

Give it time, and see how it goes. If she really was your friend for all those years, she'll eventually come around to talking with you. If not, you'd be better off moving on and finding someone more receptive and worthy of your attention..