The best way to deal with parents?

Question

My parents are going through a divorce; I am being caught in the middle as they both resent each other very much. Is it selfish to just walk away from them to let them solve their own differences? At times, I feel that I should take care of their financial situation to ensure the family remains supported; but it's a lot of pressure. I am 23.

Answer 1

Sweetie, it's nice that you want to help, but your parents are grown and can handle their own problems.  It's normal for them to be resentful and you can't change that.  Just be there when then want to talk, but be careful not to take sides.   Good luck.

Answer 2

If its any consolation my parents divorce was extremely ugly and one party was very much to blame and totally in the wrong (affair) but now its in the past and they get on fine. As for taking sides, we had to point out a lot that whatever is going on between them does not negate the fact that they are both our parents and we felt obliged to support them both at least financially. Two years of treading very carefully though.

Answer 3

try talking to them,ask them what's their problem.If they tell you you won't understand tell them your old enough tell tham you don't want to have a broken family.If they did not really want to try setting them up so they can talk about it.

Answer 4

You have not written what is the main cause of divorce  if financial problem then better help them if you can afterall you are their only hope and if any other problem try to find out and also with the help of either your grand parents or your close relations solve this emicably.Also sometime everybody faces a bad sitution for some period say one year up to even three four years then it is a circle of life it may go with the time passes.but keep trying your best and have full faith in God  

Answer 5

Best to let them solve their own differences. They will ask your help if they need it. your intentions are good but as much as possible try to be neutral. Your parents are still thinking of your family's happiness. Gather the pieces when the divorce is setlled and go on with your life

Answer 6

You'd be wise to walk away from it. They are grown up and need to act civilized about it not drag the kids into it no matter how old the kids are. It'sbetween them and them only.