The best words/way for seeking apologize from my elder brother.?

Question

For certain reasons,my older brother is my legal guardian.Ok, here it how it started.Im 3rd of 5 brothers.We are 21(guardian),17,16(me),15,8.Today,while preparing breakfast I accidentally push the 8 bro for his bad behaviour.Unfortunately,he hit the dining table and got bleeded lips.Im very sorry and had appologized to the 8.However,since dad died 6 years ago,the 8 is my 21's favorite.They kind of have father-son bonding.My 21 will be crazily mad once he get home from work 2day for hurting 8.Please help suggest the best word seek forgiveness from my 21.It happened once 4 months ago when my 15 fought 8.He shoved 8 hard and 8 cried.My 21 yelled and lunged my 15 and slap him hard.Im barely scared and crazily shaking right now waiting for my 21.

Answer 1

First i'm glad to know that you had apologized to your younger brother.  The best way to handle this situation I would think is to sit your brother down, well let him relax first because he did just off of work, and just explain to him what happened about how you let your actions get the best of you and that you have already apologized and fully understand that what you have done was wrong. Also the best thing to do is don't ARGUE. It gets you nowhere, and if you're older brother goes off on you just listen and take it in and understand where he's coming from. He's taken full responsibility of his brothers and is trying his best to keep all of you save especially the youngest one. It's all about understanding. I'm sure your brother loves each one of you equally but pays more attention to the youngest brother because he's the one that needs your oldest brother the most. Hope this helped! =)

Answer 2

The 21 should know better than loving the 8 more that the rest of you. First, let the 8 understand that it was a mistake and you are realli sorry. Then maybe when the 21 starts screaming at you, the 8 will defend you. I feel sorry for you, I can imagine what h**l you're going through.

When he comes and starts shouting at you, maybe you should let him cool off first, then explain to him what happened. Maybe then he will realise that he was irrational and apologize at you.. Hope he understands.