The dream about my ex. AGAIN. and i need help with it.?

Question

So i wrote on here a few months or so back about this dream i had about a ex and me having s*x. Not to mention i have a great boyfriend ive been with for a year and a half and i have no problems with him, we get along, we love each other. But i have to say the last dream was weird but this was weirder. The last dream was about me and him talking and i kept trying to tell him no i didint want to have s*x with him and i ended up doing it anyways, i was really aroused by him for some reason. This new one is the same way but i remember mentioning that i dont want to hurt chris, or his girlfriend (which by the way just his little girl a few days ago), and all i could do is try to stop it and he kept pushing and asking till i got to where i wanted to do it to, and i couldint help but be turned on by him. I dont even talk to the ex no more, i hardly see him, i talk to his girlfriend sometimes but i dont talk to him and im Deeply inlove with my new boyfriend. Can anyone help me figure out why im having these dreams?

Answer 1

To dream about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or ex-husband/wife or that you and your ex got back together again, suggests that something or someone in your current life that is bringing out similar feelings you felt during the relationship with your ex. The dream may be a way of

alerting you to the same or similar behavior in a current relationship. What you learn from that previous relationship may need to be applied to the present one so that you do no repeat the same mistake. Alternatively, past lovers often highlight the positive experiences you had with that person. Alternatively, seeing your ex in your dream also signifies aspects of yourself that you have x'd out or neglected.

To dream about s*x, refers to the psychological completion and the integration of contrasting aspects of the Self.  You need to be more receptive and incorporate aspects of your dream s*x partner into your own character. Alternatively and a more direct interpretation of the dream, may be your libido's way of telling you that it's been too long since you have had s*x. It may indicate repressed sexual desires and your needs for physical and emotional love.

To dream about s*x with someone other than your spouse or significant other, suggests dissatisfaction with the physical side of your relationship. On the other hand, it may be harmless fantasy. In such situations, you may find that you are less inhibited sexually and you can even bring that sense of adventure to your existing relationship.

To dream that you are having s*x with an ex or someone who is not your current mate, denotes your reservations about embarking in a new relationship or situation. You may feel nervous about exposing yourself or currently feel a resurgence of those old emotions and feelings that you felt back when you and your ex were together. Believe it or not, it is not uncommon for people approaching their wedding to experience especially erotic adventures with partners other than their intended spouses. This may be due to the intensity of your sexual passion with your fiance�. It also relates to the new roles that you will be taking on and the uncertainty that that may bring.

With recurring dreams, the message may be so important and/or powerful that it just will not go away. The frequent repetition of such dreams forces you to pay attention and confront the dream.   The dream is trying desperately to tell you something.  Such dreams are often nightmarish or frightening in their content, which also helps you to take notice and pay attention to them.

Recurring dreams are quite common and are often triggered by a certain life situation or a problem that keeps coming back again and again. These dreams may recur daily, once a week, or once a month, but whatever the frequency, there is little variation in the dream content itself. It usually points to a personal weakness, fear, or your inability to cope with something in your life - past or present.

The repetitive patterns in your dream can reveal some of the most valuable information on yourself. It may point to a conflict, situation or matter in your waking life that remains unresolved or unsettled.  Or some urgent underlying message in your unconscious is demanding to be understood.  

Following are some tips in overcoming your recurring dreams.  

1. In understanding your recurring dream, you must be willing to accept some sort of change or undergo a transformation.

2. You must be willing to look within yourself and confront whatever you may find no matter how difficult it my be.

3. You must be able to look at the dream from an objective point of view. Try to get pass the emotional and reactive elements of the dream and get down to the symbolic images. Many times dreams are masked by elements that are disturbing preventing you to delve any deeper. This is a  defense mechanism that your unconscious may be putting up.

4. Be patient. Do not get discourage if these dreams still recur even after you thought you have come to understand them.

5. Learn to accept yourself truly and fully.

Often times, once you discover what your recurring dream is trying to tell you, these dreams will change or altogether disappear.

Answer 2

Maybe deep in your heart,you are still in love with him.

Answer 3

Your subconcious is probably just working through it....a form of closure....and sounds pretty normal.  Just roll with it, it's only a dream and nothing to get upset about.  Also, don't bother telling your new b/f....that wouldn't solve anything.  Ignore the dream and put it down to "history working itself out in my head at night".