The elementary school will NOT leave me alone!!?

Question

My 11 year old sixth grader brought home a letter about attending the "maturation class" that the school district nurse puts on every year. You have to either accept or decline on the attached form. Because I do not agree with the way the class is taught, I declined, and signed it in the appropriate area. WELL. The Principal of the elementary school has called me SIX times today ( it's only 12:45 here.... does he not have anything better to do???) ripping me, and telling me that I am putting my son at a disadvantage by not allowing him to attend the class. I don't feel like I should have to justify my decision with the principal, and have told him that. How can I get him to leave me alone? I've already hung up on him the last two times he's called! he just calls back, and I'm at work. I don't want my son to be treated badly by this idiot, either. Any advice? The class is tomorrow. I'm considering letting Andrew stay home "sick".

Answer 1

This is unprofessional and he should be asked to stop, or you will report him.

Answer 2

if all else fails threaten harassment and tell him you will call the police if he calls you even one more time about the matter. (he really is harassing you!) So many people are lawsuit happy that people get scared quick that they will be sued... so maybe he will back off. He can't force your beliefs, no matter how hard he tries and if he is disturbing your job, call the school board immediately! If your calls go through a switch board, ask the operator to take a message for you or block his number for the day.

I wouldn't make your son skip school tomorrow... He may learn that if he doesn't want to do something, then all he has to do is skip out on it.  I'd just make an appearance before the class starts and if anyone wants to continue harassing you on the matter, just take your son out of school early.

good luck!

Answer 3

You DEFINITELY need to go to the Superintendent with this.  I would call their office now.   If you are sent home a form to decide if you want your child to attend, it is absolutely none of his concern if you choose no.  If this is how the principal reacts in this type of situation, I'd be really worried how he deals with other things on a daily basis.  He definitely needs some professional training.

Answer 4

It is totally your choice I would tell the principal that if he felt it was a disadvantage to not take the class thathe should sapproach the school district that made it an option not mandatory. I would also keep my son home. and if the schools ays anything tell them that you will take it up with the superintendent of the school because they are harrasing you and it is innappropriate behavior for the principal to be constanly calling you. and if it continues follow through one call to the superintendent or the school board and it will be taken care of. I fthe principal is willing to act this way in front of a parent can you imagine the behaviors your kid may be seeing on a daily basis when the principal thinks only the kids see it? I think schools get way too involved in families personal things sometimes and if you were stoping him from taking a class on abuse or something they might have a reason for concern but its a topic that most kids donteven take untill highschool and somthing you should be able to handle on your own if you want.

Answer 5

I would report this to the board of education. You have a right to decline. You teach your son when and how you like.

Answer 6

I would write down EVERYTHIGN that has happened and send it to the superintendent.

Everything has to be in writing or they can deny everything.

I would state in the letter that the school should not have given parents a choice in yes or no about attending the class if he is being such an  $*$&  about it.

I bet the school is getting money out of this somehow that 's why he's giving you a hard time.

Next time he calls tell him your lawyer will be in contact with him and to take it up with him.

Answer 7

I would report this incident to the area office.  As a teacher, our science teachers send home a letter  to be signed for permission.  I do not teach science so I am usually asked if the student can stay with me during a particular class session.  The science teacher sends over alternate work for the child.  I do not allow the child to be ridiculed.  I have had students ask to not watch the film as they are not ready for it.  I teach in a middle school.

Answer 8

certainly very unprofessional on his part. If I were you I would reassure him that your son will get all the "maturation" education he needs at home from you and your husband. Tell him you feel strongly about being the one to discuss these types of things with your child.

Personally I didn't mind my children learning about puberty and such in health class because they've already heard all about it from me. I do hope you have or plan to have some of your own talks with your child about this stuff as it is important and waiting too long can be detrimental.

Answer 9

I think I might talk to the school board about this fool.  The only one that is putting your son at a disadvantage is him!  He is suggesting that your son is odd for sitting out on this.  You are his mother.  You are not doing him harm.  Perhaps you should suggest to this principal that he start worrying about the children in his district that is abused, hungry, or in some sort of need.  Perhaps your son is not ready for this film, what does this guy know?  My son saw it and was embarrassed about it, as were most of the kids.  Anyway, don't put up with this behavior.  There are people who are in charge of this guy.  Report him.

Answer 10

That is absurb behavior by the Principal.  If the class is to be elected by the parents, then what business does he have second-guessing your decision??  I would tell him he is not to call again about this topic.  And yes I would let your son stay home sick so that he does not have to deal with the crazy Principal.

Answer 11

report his behavior to the district office. its you're disicion how to raise your child and what age you want him to learn about s*x and puberty. the principal is acting way out of hand.

Answer 12

thts practically  pretty crazy

Answer 13

That's ridiculous - you have the right to decide what is appropriate for your son.

Maybe the principal has attendance "targets" for these sort of classes.Well that's his problem not yours and I would make jolly sure that there was no comeback on my son if it was my boy.

What is the world coming to?

Stick to your guns and tell him to stop harrassing you!

Best wishes,

                       Joan.