The ex-wife situation!!Read/Advice/ thanks

Question

My fiancee and I been together for 2 1/2 years now, but we known each other for 3 years. He was about 1 year divorced when i met him. From his previous Marriage there a child involve. The mother suddenly just one day went to her ex-husbands place and told him "you take him! i cant deal with him anymore!" and left her child in the care of father, six months later he took full custody of the child but allowing the mother to have him certain weekends and week days. When we met, she wasn't really around the child and he would spent time with me. I don't know her, i seen her from far away but never talked to her or even been introduced to her. I see there's no reason for it. I felt as though i never really needed to but into whatever they do as individual parents raising their child, since I'm a parent as well. She started being involve in the child's life about a year ago, and we just recently got engaged in February. She uses Bulgar (cussing words) language when she is around her child, towards the father and even she has told the child that she hates me and that i'm a B**ch, which when the child come from being at her home the child comes up to me and tells me "my mom hates you" or to the father "my mama says ms.*myname* is a b**c." When something like that is said towards me, i could careless how she feels about me, but in my opinion that's no way to talk in front of a child, I have told him how i felt about that, told him it was very upsetting, wasn't upset at the child at all because the child is only repeating what he hears. What would you do if your child said something like that towards your significant other, coming from their other parent? vise versa,

Answer 1

He should file for full custody and let the Judge tell his ex to behave for the child's sake.As long as you have his child in your home you will always have to deal with the other parent until he reaches 18 years of age

Answer 2

I would explain to the kid that calling people names is not nice. Also I would tell the kid that I love him very much and would always take care of him. Plus, I would ask the dad to talk to the ex about the kind of language she uses with the kid.

Answer 3

Take the high road,don't stoop to her level.Love your fiance's child and let him correct the bad behavior.Love will always over come hate.

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do about what she says or does. It wouldnt be a bad idea if you could get your finace to maybe drop a hint to is ex about the language. But she shouldnt be saying those things about you. If it continues that child will eventually be old enough to understand that is not really true about you. But at least try to pray about it every night, God really is in control you know. That girl must be really young or naive, AND she shouldnt be involving a child in her own insecurities, she probably jealous and upset about you, I'll pray for you too! And you cannot control what someone else does, so try not to worry so much.

Answer 5

If your husband has any respect for you and himself, and doesn't want his child to grow-up with a potty mouth, he should terminate the visitation rights of the mother or at least tell her to stop defaming your name in front of his child. Your going to be his wife soon, if shes' disrespecting you, shes' disrespecting him.