The fatal attraction, "animal magnetism"

Question

There is only one person I have ever felt this way for, and I want it to stop NOW. I dare say I am a highly moral person and I do not want to be in love with someone whose character I do not like, and who would definitely cheat on me in the fututre, or leave me and our kid for another person. (We don't have a child and we're not together, but we could be, and yes, he is single.). How do I stop thinking about him and walk away and never look back? Thanx a lot.

Answer 1

That's a most unfortunate situation to be in!  The kind that won't let you have peace!  You are trapped.  But there's still hope because you haven't given in to the temptation and your reasoning powers are in still in control.

The only possible escape seems to be to turn your back on that person...firmly,  completely!  Block him out of your life.  It will be rather painful in the beginning and temptation to look back will be at times too much to resist.  But only a firm resolve can help you.  You wouldn't be able to avoid thinking about him but try to divert your mind and direct your energies towards something more interesting,  consciously till it becomes almost a habit.  Maybe,  just maybe,  you'll get over him!  Good Luck!

Answer 2

The fact that you are highly moral and both dont have  a child, makes the situation easier to resolve. Mentioning the differences of characters, and that you intend for true love to last a lifetime would encourage him to end the relationship. There is always a possibility that he will find someone who matches him better. The important thing is to part without bitterness, but as mature friends;  i am sure, both of you shared some joyous moments.

After some time of not speaking or seeing each other, you will get used to it. And mighty relieved, too! Be wiser and more patient in future.  Wish you find a truer love and everlasting bliss!

Answer 3

There is a biological component to our attraction of others.  The mind cannot always stop the body, but regulate it's behavior.  Just control yourself and recognize what is going on.

Answer 4

Those horrible little pheromones, more than difficult to get away from.

It is like being on heat, as a dog. That is the test, can you keep your distance and keep temptation at bay. Try doing it the AA way. Minute by minute and day by day.

Strength & Peace.

Answer 5

Find new friends and keep your mind occupied with them.You can then choose another for the better.